Buried alive/drowning/suffocating is something that can literally wake me up at night. But daily fear oddly is falling down the stairs. I just have weird obsessive visions if me falling down the stairs and being unable to move and just dying there. I wish I could make that stop! And I wish we’d move to a one story!

The best thing about a slow death is everyone around you gets to say "goodbye" and is grateful when you finally croak.

the best thing about a fast death is your own absence of suffering.

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Anonymous wrote:Buried alive. Big reason I am 1) an organ donor, and 2) planning to be cremated. It's extremely unlikely, I know, but let's knock that chance down to zero!

Serious question. What does buried alive have to do with organ donor?

It sounded like donating their organs is important to the PP. If they were buried alive, that would not be possible. The thing they want to happen to their body wouldn't happen.

I don't know how this is the most frightening thing, but it seemed like that's why they were upset.

My mom is the exact opposite of this. She's convinced if she's an organ donor they will pull the plug on her early to take the organs. So she will not check the box to be an organ donor.

That’s very sad. Very, very sad.

She's paranoid. Thinks everyone is always out to get her, so it tracks.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m scared of a death where I’m conscious of the fact I’m about to die, particularly if it’s scary or painful (e.g. plane crash, house fire). But a million times more than that, I’m terrified of a death in which my kids are with me and I know they’re going to die too (again, e.g. plane crash or house fire).

Also, scared of like creepy torture/serial killer murder.

Interesting. If my kids were with me and I knew they were going to die too, I'd feel more at peace than if they weren't with me and I was conscious of the fact I was dying and about to leave my kids motherless. Obviously the former is horrible too but of the two options I'd rather we all die together. Is that horrible/psychopathic of me?

DP. I feel exactly the same way. I told my husband that once and he thought that was horrible, which I guess it is. But that's how I felt when my kids were younger. Now that they're older, I wouldn't feel like that.

I responded earlier that I’m terrified of dying in front of my kids but not of all of us dying together and I think it’s because they’re so little. If I have a random heart attack while giving them their bath there’s a pretty good chance they’ll die horribly (drowning/starvation/general everything why we don’t leave toddlers alone ever) before anyone realizes and THAT is what horrifies me — that I would leave them in a dangerous situation alone. Of course I want them to live longer than me and that’s why I’m less scared of like cancer or a long lingering illness; in those cases while I’d be miserable I could ensure everything was sorted with my kids and they were safe when I died.

Burning, drowning, or cancer

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Anonymous wrote:Buried alive. Big reason I am 1) an organ donor, and 2) planning to be cremated. It's extremely unlikely, I know, but let's knock that chance down to zero!

Serious question. What does buried alive have to do with organ donor?

I'm not going to be alive in my coffin if all my organs have been removed!

I'm not afraid of being buried alive in a Kill Bill intentional situation, more by mistake somehow. Like people that go through surgeries with the anesthesia not blocking pain but making them unable to voice their awareness. It is not a rational fear.

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Anonymous wrote:Buried alive. Big reason I am 1) an organ donor, and 2) planning to be cremated. It's extremely unlikely, I know, but let's knock that chance down to zero!

Serious question. What does buried alive have to do with organ donor?

It sounded like donating their organs is important to the PP. If they were buried alive, that would not be possible. The thing they want to happen to their body wouldn't happen.

I don't know how this is the most frightening thing, but it seemed like that's why they were upset.

My mom is the exact opposite of this. She's convinced if she's an organ donor they will pull the plug on her early to take the organs. So she will check the box to be an organ donor.

That’s very sad. Very, very sad.

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Anonymous wrote:Buried alive. Big reason I am 1) an organ donor, and 2) planning to be cremated. It's extremely unlikely, I know, but let's knock that chance down to zero!

Serious question. What does buried alive have to do with organ donor?

It sounded like donating their organs is important to the PP. If they were buried alive, that would not be possible. The thing they want to happen to their body wouldn't happen.

I don't know how this is the most frightening thing, but it seemed like that's why they were upset.

My mom is the exact opposite of this. She's convinced if she's an organ donor they will pull the plug on her early to take the organs. So she will check the box to be an organ donor.

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Anonymous wrote:Buried alive. Big reason I am 1) an organ donor, and 2) planning to be cremated. It's extremely unlikely, I know, but let's knock that chance down to zero!

Serious question. What does buried alive have to do with organ donor?

It sounded like donating their organs is important to the PP. If they were buried alive, that would not be possible. The thing they want to happen to their body wouldn't happen.

I don't know how this is the most frightening thing, but it seemed like that's why they were upset.

Anonymous wrote:Buried alive. Big reason I am 1) an organ donor, and 2) planning to be cremated. It's extremely unlikely, I know, but let's knock that chance down to zero!

Serious question. What does buried alive have to do with organ donor?

Anonymous wrote:I’m scared of a death where I’m conscious of the fact I’m about to die, particularly if it’s scary or painful (e.g. plane crash, house fire). But a million times more than that, I’m terrified of a death in which my kids are with me and I know they’re going to die too (again, e.g. plane crash or house fire).

Also, scared of like creepy torture/serial killer murder.

I was in a really scary car accident with my kids. It was exactly as horrible and terrifying as you imagine it would be. I remember very clearly thinking, "It is really important that my kids know I love them right now, before we die." We did not die, and they were not significantly injured, but the images of that 3 seconds of my life are going to be on repeat for a long, long time.

For me I'm most afraid of cancer, dementia and all those diseases like MS/Parkinsons/ALS. They all seem way more likely than other random tragedies. More painful too.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m scared of a death where I’m conscious of the fact I’m about to die, particularly if it’s scary or painful (e.g. plane crash, house fire). But a million times more than that, I’m terrified of a death in which my kids are with me and I know they’re going to die too (again, e.g. plane crash or house fire).

Also, scared of like creepy torture/serial killer murder.

Interesting. If my kids were with me and I knew they were going to die too, I'd feel more at peace than if they weren't with me and I was conscious of the fact I was dying and about to leave my kids motherless. Obviously the former is horrible too but of the two options I'd rather we all die together. Is that horrible/psychopathic of me?

I’m the PP. If my kids were going to die I’d want to die with them. But I think if I were dying, it would be a comfort to know they would be the best thing I’ve done in my life living on. Assuming I knew DH would survive to take care of them. I would be leaving them with a great dad and life insurance, so I’d have to hope they would make it through grief ok and live a nice life.

This. I don't want my kids to die alone, but I'd rather they be motherless than dead.

I'm not sure what I'd consider the most terrifying, but I do know that thinking of people who knew they were going to be executed and then had to walk to the executioner's block/firing line is beyond my comprehension.

For example, how in the world did Anne Boleyn and Catherine Howard (a 19-20 year old) walk to the block and willingly kneel down knowing what was coming?!!

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Anonymous wrote:I’m scared of a death where I’m conscious of the fact I’m about to die, particularly if it’s scary or painful (e.g. plane crash, house fire). But a million times more than that, I’m terrified of a death in which my kids are with me and I know they’re going to die too (again, e.g. plane crash or house fire).

Also, scared of like creepy torture/serial killer murder.

Interesting. If my kids were with me and I knew they were going to die too, I'd feel more at peace than if they weren't with me and I was conscious of the fact I was dying and about to leave my kids motherless. Obviously the former is horrible too but of the two options I'd rather we all die together. Is that horrible/psychopathic of me?

DP. I feel exactly the same way. I told my husband that once and he thought that was horrible, which I guess it is. But that's how I felt when my kids were younger. Now that they're older, I wouldn't feel like that.