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Anonymous wrote:I surprised no one got harassed as a teenager when wearing skimpy clothes. I learned not to wear a tank top and short shorts on a Greyhound bus.
But if your daughters are not getting harassed, more power to them.

How have you not learned that it doesn't matter what a teenager/woman wears, she gets harassed. I grew up in the conservative midwest, dressing conservatively, and my friends and I were harassed. My DD is also harassed - even when she was wearing her unflattering softball uniform!

Harassment is a reflection of the person doing the harassing, not what the target is wearing.

Then your experience is different than mine. I was harassed more when wearing skimpy clothes.

Proving the PP's point - you were harassed no matter what you wore, you were just harassed 'more' when you wore more revealing clothing. Yet, you're still judging girls/women for the behavior of boys/men. smh

I'm not judging girls wearing short shorts and midriffs. I have no problem with that.
I'm just saying that when I was a teenager, I learned from experience not to wear skimpy clothes when I was using public transportation by myself. It would almost guarantee that I would be harassed.

I preferred to be cat called about once a month rather than have a man try to cop a feel or corner me, which was almost guaranteed when I dressed slutty by myself on thr bus. What I wore made a difference in the level of harassment.

The language you use to describe the clothes absolutely is judgmental. You have internalized the misogyny. Clothes do not make one 'slutty'. You have may have perceived an increase in the harassment when you wore more revealing clothing but 'slutty' absolutely is a judgment. Do better.

No cutoffs would solve most of it.

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry, but it looks terrible. On their own time, in social settings, I dgaf what they wear, but I hire teens to work at my business and a lot of the girls show up for work in our company t-shirt and, apparently, nothing on the bottom. I can't say anything because I don't want to be accused of body shaming, but it's unprofessional and doesn't represent my brand well, and I really really hate this god-awful trend.

If they work for your business, you have every right to have them wear long pants or have a dress code. That is not "body shaming." It's really weird that you have not instituted a dress code rule. Every job I had as a teenager or young adult had a dress code for this very reason. Usually it was no shorts or jeans.

With that said, I really don't care what the kids wear to school. When they go to work, they need to wear what the job requires.

Would love to do that, but what would I say exactly that wouldn't come across as body shaming and sexist? We work outside and need to be comfortable, so long pants are out of the question in summer. So what would our dress code say that wouldn't focus on covering up women's bodies?

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Anonymous wrote:The issue with the OP's original thought brings us back to the puritanical roots that founded this country.

Girls & women should be a certain way to be ladylike or proper.

Bootie shorts of today was flapper dresses showing calves in the 20s. You would have been a slut to show some ankle in the 1800s.

The shaming of Hester Prynne is seemingly still alive in 2023.

You are full of it.

I actually feel really bad for male teachers going through this every day. It’s essentially rape.

Rape? Drama queen much, Karen? (and btw, I am actually (gay) male teacher!)

Sorry, if you’re a gay male, you don’t count.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I surprised no one got harassed as a teenager when wearing skimpy clothes. I learned not to wear a tank top and short shorts on a Greyhound bus.
But if your daughters are not getting harassed, more power to them.

How have you not learned that it doesn't matter what a teenager/woman wears, she gets harassed. I grew up in the conservative midwest, dressing conservatively, and my friends and I were harassed. My DD is also harassed - even when she was wearing her unflattering softball uniform!

Harassment is a reflection of the person doing the harassing, not what the target is wearing.

Then your experience is different than mine. I was harassed more when wearing skimpy clothes.

Proving the PP's point - you were harassed no matter what you wore, you were just harassed 'more' when you wore more revealing clothing. Yet, you're still judging girls/women for the behavior of boys/men. smh

I'm not judging girls wearing short shorts and midriffs. I have no problem with that.
I'm just saying that when I was a teenager, I learned from experience not to wear skimpy clothes when I was using public transportation by myself. It would almost guarantee that I would be harassed.

I preferred to be cat called about once a month rather than have a man try to cop a feel or corner me, which was almost guaranteed when I dressed slutty by myself on thr bus. What I wore made a difference in the level of harassment.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I surprised no one got harassed as a teenager when wearing skimpy clothes. I learned not to wear a tank top and short shorts on a Greyhound bus.
But if your daughters are not getting harassed, more power to them.

How have you not learned that it doesn't matter what a teenager/woman wears, she gets harassed. I grew up in the conservative midwest, dressing conservatively, and my friends and I were harassed. My DD is also harassed - even when she was wearing her unflattering softball uniform!

Harassment is a reflection of the person doing the harassing, not what the target is wearing.

Then your experience is different than mine. I was harassed more when wearing skimpy clothes.

Proving the PP's point - you were harassed no matter what you wore, you were just harassed 'more' when you wore more revealing clothing. Yet, you're still judging girls/women for the behavior of boys/men. smh

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Anonymous wrote:The issue with the OP's original thought brings us back to the puritanical roots that founded this country.

Girls & women should be a certain way to be ladylike or proper.

Bootie shorts of today was flapper dresses showing calves in the 20s. You would have been a slut to show some ankle in the 1800s.

The shaming of Hester Prynne is seemingly still alive in 2023.

You are full of it.

I actually feel really bad for male teachers going through this every day. It’s essentially rape.

Rape? Drama queen much, Karen? (and btw, I am actually (gay) male teacher!)

Anonymous wrote:The issue with the OP's original thought brings us back to the puritanical roots that founded this country.

Girls & women should be a certain way to be ladylike or proper.

Bootie shorts of today was flapper dresses showing calves in the 20s. You would have been a slut to show some ankle in the 1800s.

The shaming of Hester Prynne is seemingly still alive in 2023.

You are full of it.

I actually feel really bad for male teachers going through this every day. It’s essentially rape.

The issue with the OP's original thought brings us back to the puritanical roots that founded this country.

Girls & women should be a certain way to be ladylike or proper.

Bootie shorts of today was flapper dresses showing calves in the 20s. You would have been a slut to show some ankle in the 1800s.

The shaming of Hester Prynne is seemingly still alive in 2023.

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Anonymous wrote:Still laughing at the idea of a 15 year old girl walking around with a towel to sit on because her butt cheeks are spilling out of her shorts.

You people have lost it. “Who am I to judge?” How about a parent? An adult with common sense and self-respect?

Agreed. On occasion my parents would say, you can't go out in that, and make me change something.

One good tip I got from an older relative was that you can have a skimpy top or a skimpy bottom, but if you wear both skimpy it looks scanky.

And yet, here we are, complaining about girls wearing giant tops and short shorts....

Pretty tacky and unrefined to use the term “Karen”

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Anonymous wrote:Still laughing at the idea of a 15 year old girl walking around with a towel to sit on because her butt cheeks are spilling out of her shorts.

You people have lost it. “Who am I to judge?” How about a parent? An adult with common sense and self-respect?

Agreed. On occasion my parents would say, you can't go out in that, and make me change something.

One good tip I got from an older relative was that you can have a skimpy top or a skimpy bottom, but if you wear both skimpy it looks scanky.

Dude. It’s “skanky”, come on

Anonymous wrote:I strongly dislike teenagers younger than 18 wearing tiny short shorts that make it look like they are not wearing pants when their shirts are hiding their shorts.

It looks so tacky and unrefined. 16 year olds are not supposed to look like they’re almost naked!

I haven’t read the whole thread, and maybe this has been mentioned, but…if you’re wearing a shirt so large it covers your shorts, no one is mistaking you for “naked”.

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Anonymous wrote:I was at the hair salon on Bethesda row a few weeks ago. I was people watching as they passed. I saw so many young girls wearing those fringed denim short shorts. There were butt cheeks of all sizes hanging out. In my day, we called those shorts "Daisy Dukes". I don't have daughters, so I can't say if I'd let them gallivant around with their butt cheeks showing (I don't think I'd be ok with that). They are young and it is the style, so it must be fine, right?

I remember them also being called "bootie coolers."

I only have boys but I can't imagine policing what my daughter might wear at every turn. On occasion, sure. But not every single day. Seems like a bad idea to me.

Do you police your boys when they look at the hanging naked assets?

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Anonymous wrote:Still laughing at the idea of a 15 year old girl walking around with a towel to sit on because her butt cheeks are spilling out of her shorts.

You people have lost it. “Who am I to judge?” How about a parent? An adult with common sense and self-respect?

Agreed. On occasion my parents would say, you can't go out in that, and make me change something.

One good tip I got from an older relative was that you can have a skimpy top or a skimpy bottom, but if you wear both skimpy it looks scanky.

Yes, the advice I got was "boobs, buns or legs..pick one to accentuate and be reasonable about the others".