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Anonymous wrote:I’m so glad this is changing. I got called gorilla legs in gym class in middle school because my mom didn’t want me to shave yet.

Still happens. My daughter’s teammate doesn’t shave and everyone snickers at the poor girl.

Lol right. You are the Mean Girls “cool Mom” snickering along, amirite? Grow up

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Anonymous wrote:Men don’t want women with hairy legs or pits. Teach your daughter how to function in society.

Why does my daughter need men to want her in order to function in society? Weird.

So she can be a stay at home mom with a nice house and low stress.

Yawn

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Anonymous wrote:Just wondering if this is a new trend. My older teen daughter has decided she doesn't like shaving her legs anymore. She is still wearing shorts and it's getting pretty long. She also has a summer job where she works outdoors and is working with the public.

I know it's her body just a little worried about what people might say to her, or if it will affect her job in any way. Or is this common now for teen girls?

Yes. I have explicitly told her multiple times over the years that not doing so isn’t an option. She isn’t allowed to come to any family gatherings without shaven legs and armpits.

That’s horrifying.

No, it isn’t. Having hairy legs & armpits will not help in the real world having friendships, relationships & the workplace.

Well, my college aged kid doesn't shave and that hasn't stopped her from having a ton of friends, being elected president of a student org and promoted to editor on a school magazine, and holding down two paid jobs all while being on the Dean's list every semester. As far as a romantic relationship, she has zero interest and wouldn't want one with someone who didn't accept her as she is anyway. Hair legs and armpits haven't hurt her one bit.

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Anonymous wrote:My 17 year old and all her friends shave their legs, armpits and get Brazilian waxes. Literally all of them. No hair anywhere.

Good for them. Are they all on the cheerleading squad or dance team? Are these the popular girls?

This response is the ickiest thing I’ve ever read on DCUM. PP, please don’t give this poster any more info about your daughter and her friends.

Omg. Do you not understand sarcasm?!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just wondering if this is a new trend. My older teen daughter has decided she doesn't like shaving her legs anymore. She is still wearing shorts and it's getting pretty long. She also has a summer job where she works outdoors and is working with the public.

I know it's her body just a little worried about what people might say to her, or if it will affect her job in any way. Or is this common now for teen girls?

Yes. I have explicitly told her multiple times over the years that not doing so isn’t an option. She isn’t allowed to come to any family gatherings without shaven legs and armpits.

That’s horrifying.

No, it isn’t. Having hairy legs & armpits will not help in the real world having friendships, relationships & the workplace.

Dp depends on the job. If she doesn't wear tank tops why does it matter if she doesn't shave her pits? I don't understand why you force her to save her legs either

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Anonymous wrote:My 17 year old and all her friends shave their legs, armpits and get Brazilian waxes. Literally all of them. No hair anywhere.

Good for them. Are they all on the cheerleading squad or dance team? Are these the popular girls?

This response is the ickiest thing I’ve ever read on DCUM. PP, please don’t give this poster any more info about your daughter and her friends.

Anonymous wrote:My 17 year old and all her friends shave their legs, armpits and get Brazilian waxes. Literally all of them. No hair anywhere.

Good for them. Are they all on the cheerleading squad or dance team? Are these the popular girls?

Anonymous wrote:My 17 year old and all her friends shave their legs, armpits and get Brazilian waxes. Literally all of them. No hair anywhere.

Salons do Brazilian waxes on minors?

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Anonymous wrote:My 12 year old does not and doesn’t want to. I told her it’s completely her decision but that I just wanted her to be aware that shaving armpit hair will help with keeping BO at bay. Didn’t change her stance at all.

I don’t mind the legs, it’s irrelevant to me, but I admit the armpit hair makes me worry she will be mocked at the pool etc.

And if she’s mocked at the pool…so what?

I was mocked for having a back brace in middle school. And? I learned who my real friends were, I learned to ignore mean people and carry on with my life, and I’m married and successful and happy today. People will mock your daughter, at some point for some reason. It is part. Of. Life.

Pp you quoted here. My DD gets mocked a lot already for a bunch of different things and it’s hard on her self esteem. I’m careful not to treat her like a snowflake but I do want her to have fun and enjoy being a kid at the pool. If I can spare her one more embarrassment why wouldn’t I at least give her the option? Sheesh.

Nice try, but not one person on here has argued against girls having the option and exercising the option to shave. What we are saying is give them the choice—including not to—and respecting it. Grow a spine and model for her that if mean girls mock her for body hair that naturally grows, SO. WHAT.

Anonymous wrote:Men don’t want women with hairy legs or pits. Teach your daughter how to function in society.

Better yet, teach your daughter not to do things simply because men might not find her desirable otherwise. FFS.

DD is 15 and shaves her legs when she feels like it. No one seems to care.

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Anonymous wrote:My 6th grader wants to shave her legs but I’ve been telling her no so far. She has noticeable hair but it’s blondish. I brutally skinned my legs when shaving as a teen so I’ve love to avoid this for my clutzy kid. She doesn’t have arm pit hair yet… of note, her older cousins (ages 24 and 27) do not shave anything.

NP. ugh. seriously, it is her body. let her shave. get her an electric razor. or show her how to gently shave.

i'm pretty surprised at the responses of some moms here. time to grow up, ladies.

I think the people on here who are body-shaming about hair are the ones who need to mature, quite frankly.

PP here, and I agree. but this mom also needs to mature and let her 6th grader have body autonomy.

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Anonymous wrote:DD 12 is hairy. Pale skin and dark hair. She does not shave or wax. Apparently a boy commented that she is hairy. Her reaction was okay so what?! Mind your own business😀

Good for her! You're raising a young woman who is not making decisions based on what some middle school boy thinks.

Probably the boy was jealous.

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Anonymous wrote:Just wondering if this is a new trend. My older teen daughter has decided she doesn't like shaving her legs anymore. She is still wearing shorts and it's getting pretty long. She also has a summer job where she works outdoors and is working with the public.

I know it's her body just a little worried about what people might say to her, or if it will affect her job in any way. Or is this common now for teen girls?

Yes. I have explicitly told her multiple times over the years that not doing so isn’t an option. She isn’t allowed to come to any family gatherings without shaven legs and armpits.

I hope this is a joke.

I hope she stops shaving and lets all the relatives know she can't attend family functions because her mother is bat sh*t crazy

OMG that would be amazing.

Anonymous wrote:I’m so glad this is changing. I got called gorilla legs in gym class in middle school because my mom didn’t want me to shave yet.

I don't see this changing at all. I don't see any of the girls not shaving . . . . I would hope they don't mock or be mean. But they are all, as far as I can see and I'm not examining them to check, shaving.