Anonymous
05/28/2023 20:12
Subject: Why do people think you have to spend so much on your kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You do you OP. What if your kid is a soccer or dance or basketball phenom and you were too cheap to explore their interest, when you could afford it? So sad, there is a balance you can strike. My child has a fantastic life, is well rounded and gets the joy out of exploring various sports and hobbies. I have a high net worth and don't have to budget what I spend. I would rather give my child excellent experiences and think about it as enriching their life.
The likelihood that OP’s kid is phenomenal at anything is zero and OP already knows it. I think it’s good that OP had already realized that his kids aren’t worth extensive investment— the money can then be put elsewhere.
Lol as if the typical UMC white kid is ever going to be in the NBA or go to the World Cup, most of your kids are destined to be pencil pushing cogs like the rest of us. Delusional to think spending hundreds of thousands on enriching activities will lead to a significantly different outcome.
Anonymous
05/28/2023 20:01
Subject: Why do people think you have to spend so much on your kids?
Anonymous wrote:You do you OP. What if your kid is a soccer or dance or basketball phenom and you were too cheap to explore their interest, when you could afford it? So sad, there is a balance you can strike. My child has a fantastic life, is well rounded and gets the joy out of exploring various sports and hobbies. I have a high net worth and don't have to budget what I spend. I would rather give my child excellent experiences and think about it as enriching their life.
The likelihood that OP’s kid is phenomenal at anything is zero and OP already knows it. I think it’s good that OP had already realized that his kids aren’t worth extensive investment— the money can then be put elsewhere.
Anonymous
05/28/2023 19:17
Subject: Why do people think you have to spend so much on your kids?
You do you OP. What if your kid is a soccer or dance or basketball phenom and you were too cheap to explore their interest, when you could afford it? So sad, there is a balance you can strike. My child has a fantastic life, is well rounded and gets the joy out of exploring various sports and hobbies. I have a high net worth and don't have to budget what I spend. I would rather give my child excellent experiences and think about it as enriching their life.
Anonymous
05/28/2023 18:20
Subject: Why do people think you have to spend so much on your kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Hey OP, what are you scrimping and saving for? If you work a job that you do not enjoy and are aiming for early retirement, I’d say your approach, while cheap and self righteous, makes more sense. But it sounds like you want to the richest man in the cemetery. You’ll eventually be passing that money to your children anyways, maybe at a time they’ll need it less…who knows what the future holds.
I want to have enough to stop working in my 40’s, I may choose to still work once I hit that number and if so will probably increase the amount I spend on my kids, by that time they will be hitting adulthood just in time for college/car/future weddings/etc. It really depends, ideally I’ll be able to still have a good paying career that isn’t too stressful or demanding but I don’t want to bank on it, so I want to front load my investments as much as possible. I might get to the point where I can’t stand working any longer and I don’t want that to happen when I’m 15 years from being able to retire.
You shouldn’t have had kids.
They’d doing fine, it’s all relative. I come from a background where many don’t have enough to save for their kids college at all and have to rent an apartment instead. Compared to the majority of America and the world they’re spoiled. We don’t drink or use drugs, my wife and I are married with a great relationship, we promote healthy active lifestyles for our kids and a good work ethic, we have a great community. I don’t lose any sleep.
Most of the hand wringing on these forums about being able to provide the perfect upbringing with private school, big houses, fancy ECs is unnecessary. It’s all icing on the cake lifestyle fluff
You’re conflating housing/education/healthcare (which you should never skimp on) with “big houses” and “fancy ECs.” Investing in the best education you can access for your children is VERY different than buying designer cars or purses, and it’s sad that you can’t see that.
Countless examples in this area of students who went to private school all their life and ended up doing nothing as adults. Genes matter more than going to one school vs the other.
Lol no.
Anonymous
05/28/2023 18:20
Subject: Re:Why do people think you have to spend so much on your kids?
OP don’t expect any interaction from your kids at all from their high school graduation to the day they pass.
Anonymous
05/28/2023 18:19
Subject: Why do people think you have to spend so much on your kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Hey OP, what are you scrimping and saving for? If you work a job that you do not enjoy and are aiming for early retirement, I’d say your approach, while cheap and self righteous, makes more sense. But it sounds like you want to the richest man in the cemetery. You’ll eventually be passing that money to your children anyways, maybe at a time they’ll need it less…who knows what the future holds.
I want to have enough to stop working in my 40’s, I may choose to still work once I hit that number and if so will probably increase the amount I spend on my kids, by that time they will be hitting adulthood just in time for college/car/future weddings/etc. It really depends, ideally I’ll be able to still have a good paying career that isn’t too stressful or demanding but I don’t want to bank on it, so I want to front load my investments as much as possible. I might get to the point where I can’t stand working any longer and I don’t want that to happen when I’m 15 years from being able to retire.
You shouldn’t have had kids.
They’d doing fine, it’s all relative. I come from a background where many don’t have enough to save for their kids college at all and have to rent an apartment instead. Compared to the majority of America and the world they’re spoiled. We don’t drink or use drugs, my wife and I are married with a great relationship, we promote healthy active lifestyles for our kids and a good work ethic, we have a great community. I don’t lose any sleep.
Most of the hand wringing on these forums about being able to provide the perfect upbringing with private school, big houses, fancy ECs is unnecessary. It’s all icing on the cake lifestyle fluff
You’re conflating housing/education/healthcare (which you should never skimp on) with “big houses” and “fancy ECs.” Investing in the best education you can access for your children is VERY different than buying designer cars or purses, and it’s sad that you can’t see that.
Countless examples in this area of students who went to private school all their life and ended up doing nothing as adults. Genes matter more than going to one school vs the other.
And you have inferior ones, so you’re going to need to pay up.
Anonymous
05/28/2023 18:16
Subject: Why do people think you have to spend so much on your kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Hey OP, what are you scrimping and saving for? If you work a job that you do not enjoy and are aiming for early retirement, I’d say your approach, while cheap and self righteous, makes more sense. But it sounds like you want to the richest man in the cemetery. You’ll eventually be passing that money to your children anyways, maybe at a time they’ll need it less…who knows what the future holds.
I want to have enough to stop working in my 40’s, I may choose to still work once I hit that number and if so will probably increase the amount I spend on my kids, by that time they will be hitting adulthood just in time for college/car/future weddings/etc. It really depends, ideally I’ll be able to still have a good paying career that isn’t too stressful or demanding but I don’t want to bank on it, so I want to front load my investments as much as possible. I might get to the point where I can’t stand working any longer and I don’t want that to happen when I’m 15 years from being able to retire.
You shouldn’t have had kids.
They’d doing fine, it’s all relative. I come from a background where many don’t have enough to save for their kids college at all and have to rent an apartment instead. Compared to the majority of America and the world they’re spoiled. We don’t drink or use drugs, my wife and I are married with a great relationship, we promote healthy active lifestyles for our kids and a good work ethic, we have a great community. I don’t lose any sleep.
Most of the hand wringing on these forums about being able to provide the perfect upbringing with private school, big houses, fancy ECs is unnecessary. It’s all icing on the cake lifestyle fluff
You’re conflating housing/education/healthcare (which you should never skimp on) with “big houses” and “fancy ECs.” Investing in the best education you can access for your children is VERY different than buying designer cars or purses, and it’s sad that you can’t see that.
Countless examples in this area of students who went to private school all their life and ended up doing nothing as adults. Genes matter more than going to one school vs the other.
Anonymous
05/28/2023 18:13
Subject: Why do people think you have to spend so much on your kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Honest question meant without snark - what is 2k/year saved going to do for them? Are you planning on funding the rest of their college education? They won’t get aid with parents who have a 400k HHI, right?
I expect them to pay their way through school/get loans/community college the first 2 years. Once they can work I’ll encourage them to get jobs to help save for their college education. I’ll also discourage them from majoring in a field with poor earning prospects.
Wow, you suck. You do realize that your kids are going to see your income & assets when you fill out the FAFSA? Do you have any idea how much college costs (even instate ones like VT & GMU)?
I hope your kids use their leverage against you when they’re adults.
+1 if your kids have any common sense they’ll want nothing to do with you once they’re out of the house. People like you disgust me….why even bother having kids when you clearly only care about yourself.
+1 This is exactly what my parents did, apparently it’s still a thing.
Anonymous
05/28/2023 18:09
Subject: Re:Why do people think you have to spend so much on your kids?
You’re extremely selfish. You’re going to tell your kids to get lost just so you can “retire early”?
Anonymous
05/28/2023 18:06
Subject: Why do people think you have to spend so much on your kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Hey OP, what are you scrimping and saving for? If you work a job that you do not enjoy and are aiming for early retirement, I’d say your approach, while cheap and self righteous, makes more sense. But it sounds like you want to the richest man in the cemetery. You’ll eventually be passing that money to your children anyways, maybe at a time they’ll need it less…who knows what the future holds.
I want to have enough to stop working in my 40’s, I may choose to still work once I hit that number and if so will probably increase the amount I spend on my kids, by that time they will be hitting adulthood just in time for college/car/future weddings/etc. It really depends, ideally I’ll be able to still have a good paying career that isn’t too stressful or demanding but I don’t want to bank on it, so I want to front load my investments as much as possible. I might get to the point where I can’t stand working any longer and I don’t want that to happen when I’m 15 years from being able to retire.
You shouldn’t have had kids.
They’d doing fine, it’s all relative. I come from a background where many don’t have enough to save for their kids college at all and have to rent an apartment instead. Compared to the majority of America and the world they’re spoiled. We don’t drink or use drugs, my wife and I are married with a great relationship, we promote healthy active lifestyles for our kids and a good work ethic, we have a great community. I don’t lose any sleep.
Most of the hand wringing on these forums about being able to provide the perfect upbringing with private school, big houses, fancy ECs is unnecessary. It’s all icing on the cake lifestyle fluff
You’re conflating housing/education/healthcare (which you should never skimp on) with “big houses” and “fancy ECs.” Investing in the best education you can access for your children is VERY different than buying designer cars or purses, and it’s sad that you can’t see that.
Anonymous
05/28/2023 18:04
Subject: Why do people think you have to spend so much on your kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Hey OP, what are you scrimping and saving for? If you work a job that you do not enjoy and are aiming for early retirement, I’d say your approach, while cheap and self righteous, makes more sense. But it sounds like you want to the richest man in the cemetery. You’ll eventually be passing that money to your children anyways, maybe at a time they’ll need it less…who knows what the future holds.
I want to have enough to stop working in my 40’s, I may choose to still work once I hit that number and if so will probably increase the amount I spend on my kids, by that time they will be hitting adulthood just in time for college/car/future weddings/etc. It really depends, ideally I’ll be able to still have a good paying career that isn’t too stressful or demanding but I don’t want to bank on it, so I want to front load my investments as much as possible. I might get to the point where I can’t stand working any longer and I don’t want that to happen when I’m 15 years from being able to retire.
You shouldn’t have had kids.
They’d doing fine, it’s all relative. I come from a background where many don’t have enough to save for their kids college at all and have to rent an apartment instead. Compared to the majority of America and the world they’re spoiled. We don’t drink or use drugs, my wife and I are married with a great relationship, we promote healthy active lifestyles for our kids and a good work ethic, we have a great community. I don’t lose any sleep.
Most of the hand wringing on these forums about being able to provide the perfect upbringing with private school, big houses, fancy ECs is unnecessary. It’s all icing on the cake lifestyle fluff
Why don’t you just go move back and live amongst people from your background and origin? What was the point of bettering yourself and going to college? Heck, why not just rent an apartment and send your kids to 60% FARMs schools if that’s so fine and dandy?
Anonymous
05/28/2023 18:02
Subject: Re:Why do people think you have to spend so much on your kids?
OP you are so dumb it hurts, you should be investing in RE
Anonymous
05/28/2023 18:01
Subject: Why do people think you have to spend so much on your kids?
Anonymous wrote:This just screams of troll people.
Agree. No one with a 400k HHI would think that taking out loans for an undergrad degree was a good idea.
Unless OP is just woefully dense when it comes to money management?
Anonymous
05/28/2023 18:00
Subject: Why do people think you have to spend so much on your kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We have 2 kids, we live in a 3 br townhouse in an exurb that has a 1400/mo mortgage, we send them to public school and we only save $2000 per year per kid for their college while having a 400k HHI. Rec soccer, cheap city summer camps. I don’t believe that you are morally obligated to financially strain yourself just to give your kids what society thinks is the ideal life. Our kids are very happy and don’t feel like they’re deprived from what I can tell.
Are you an immigrant?
Not immigrant would put their kids education on the back burner like this. Certainly not an Asian.
OP’s post reads white exurban American who thinks it’s 1970 and that you can still “work your way through college.” Those people tend to think it’s okay to kick their kids out at 18, too.
Anonymous
05/28/2023 17:58
Subject: Why do people think you have to spend so much on your kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Hey OP, what are you scrimping and saving for? If you work a job that you do not enjoy and are aiming for early retirement, I’d say your approach, while cheap and self righteous, makes more sense. But it sounds like you want to the richest man in the cemetery. You’ll eventually be passing that money to your children anyways, maybe at a time they’ll need it less…who knows what the future holds.
I want to have enough to stop working in my 40’s, I may choose to still work once I hit that number and if so will probably increase the amount I spend on my kids, by that time they will be hitting adulthood just in time for college/car/future weddings/etc. It really depends, ideally I’ll be able to still have a good paying career that isn’t too stressful or demanding but I don’t want to bank on it, so I want to front load my investments as much as possible. I might get to the point where I can’t stand working any longer and I don’t want that to happen when I’m 15 years from being able to retire.
You shouldn’t have had kids.
They’d doing fine, it’s all relative. I come from a background where many don’t have enough to save for their kids college at all and have to rent an apartment instead. Compared to the majority of America and the world they’re spoiled. We don’t drink or use drugs, my wife and I are married with a great relationship, we promote healthy active lifestyles for our kids and a good work ethic, we have a great community. I don’t lose any sleep.
Most of the hand wringing on these forums about being able to provide the perfect upbringing with private school, big houses, fancy ECs is unnecessary. It’s all icing on the cake lifestyle fluff
Yeah and those people’s kids get financial aid for college. Your kids won’t get any. I’m not sure what part of that you don’t understand.
Heck, you could’ve retired in your 30s if you hadn’t had kids!