Anonymous wrote:What happened to your old car if you got a new one? Get them a $30k car. Why the drama.

My old SUV is still in my garage. It is a larger SUV and burdensome for my mom to drive. DH is fine giving my parents my old car but they want a smaller car. DH also doesn’t want to trade my old car in because it is a perfectly fine car and would rather keep it than get a low trade in value. Our oldest is starting high school so we may let him drive my old car.

I think there are various issues at play.

-the dynamics of not having your own income
-what you believe is a reasonable cost for a car
-asking your spouse to support in-laws financially

I stay at home and my spouse earns about $800k. He's spendier by nature than I am so there's that. I noticed you said your husband "lets" you do this or that. You also said that *he* got you your $110k car. Did you not pick out your own car? Change the way you tell yourself these stories. Part of being an equal in the partnership is believing it yourself. He doesn't let you spend money; you decide together that it's OK to spend money. He doesn't buy you a car (unless he bought it without your input); you decide together what your budget is, and then you pick out your own car.

My husband has a $70k car. Cars aren't my thing. I have a $32k car. Obviously my husband would support me getting a $70k car if I wanted one, but I don't. So I spend that money on Disney World instead.

As for supporting your parents, I think the disconnect here is that your husband is such a car snob that it seems like he wants your parents to drive trash because he thinks a $25k car is trash. So it doesn't paint your husband in the best light. But objectively speaking, you can get a perfectly serviceable and functional car for $25k. You should figure out if you are also a car snob, or if you are upset by the implied disrespect to your parents.

That said, you should never take it for granted that your spouse will approve giving away your money to relatives. Approach those conversations carefully and with respect. And keep in mind that he didn't say no to a car . . . he just suggested a budget lower than you apparently desire. That might indicate that he is tiring of these expenses. It may not be about the appropriate price for a car so much as it's about the never-ending asks.

One thing that has helped our dynamics is to give both of us the same amount of fun money. Because I would be so cautious and debate whether to spend $200 on a few items of clothing for myself, and then my husband would buy himself multiple pairs of $200 jeans. This way, if I want something that I feel is extravagant, the money is already there. Or I can save it up and donate it or spend it on a trip or whatever. It emboldens me to treat myself, which is a good thing considering that it's never fun to deny yourself and then look over at your spouse merrily spending without a second thought.

You have painted your husband as being rather ungenerous but the fact is that he approves of spending all this money on your inlaws. That may just not be a bottomless check. He may not view it as being stingy with friends; maybe he just doesn't want people to expect him to pay. Or maybe he thinks it's respectful to treat the other person like an equal who can pay their share of the bill, even if they don't earn millions of dollars a year. My gazillionaire uncle doesn't pay for everyone all the time; he doesn't want to create lazy dependents (I'm not saying that elderly people like your parents are lazy at all . . . this is in reference to his grandchildren).

So stop telling yourself that your husband controls the purse strings and lets you do things. If you want a fancy a$$ car, then own it; don't act like your husband twisted your arm. If you DON'T want a fancy a$$ car, then say so. But I still don't understand what is wrong with getting your parents a $30k car. It sounds like you are mad on principle . . . mad that he is a car snob but doesn't extend that to cars he gifts to struggling relatives. But I think it's like if you flew them to Europe with you, but you bought them coach tickets (assuming they weren't frail and uncomfortable in the seats). Yes, for you, flying in coach is unthinkable. But it's what the vast majority of people do. And even coach tickets cost a lot these days. Or let's say you're flying your teens with you. You want the lie flat seats, but do teenagers need them? You are still being generous even if you gift someone something that's not as luxurious as what you would get yourself. It's still a gift, where none was required.

It's odd how you've phrased the question "are finances truly equal", as if "equal" means you get to buy your parents whatever they want. It seems like to your DH, you and he get to buy basically whatever you want for yourselves, each other, and your kids-- but not to friends or extended family. Unless he's buying really nice stuff for friends or his side of the family, I don't see how there is inequality here. "Equal" doesn't mean you get to do whatever you want. It means you both play by the same rules.

What happened to your old car if you got a new one? Get them a $30k car. Why the drama.

It sounds like your DH is uncomfortable with the amount of paying-for-ILs that's going on, and this totally unnecessary car idea has put him over the top. I think you're long overdue for some real talk about your family dynamic. Yes, you have plenty of money, but there's a lot more to it than that. IL dynamics can be really awkward and sensitive. Paying for things they actually need is one thing, paying for luxury items is another.

Do try to think about the gift tax implications as well.

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Anonymous wrote:$50K+ car screams emotional insecurity in all of you.

Such a waste of humanity's effort and nature's energy to indulge people like this.

This is a dumb post. You have no concept of how much cars cost and likely haven't bought one in ages. My minivan costs nearly $50K. It is not a flashy car but it is one that is now on backorder at all dealerships.

Getting a good car will cost at least $40-$50K.

Give us an example of a “good car” that an elderly couple needs vs a $30k so-called bad car. And remember, OP doesn’t want $40k car. She wants a $60k car! How will that significantly change her parents’ lives vs a $30k car.

OP's DH makes $3M a year. There is no reason not to buy her parents a $50K car. Plus, buying seniors cheap cars is a bad idea. I just helped my 70+ year old mother buy a Subaru. She needs the safety and added features. It was $40+.

They can afford it. There is no reason to cheap out on her parents vehicle. Be a better kid.

You can get a 2022 Subaru Impreza Premium, with all the bells and whistles, and only 6k miles for $26,998 at a local Carmax. How would that not serve her parents well? She is just trying to show off to her family (probably siblings and others) at the expense of her DH’s common sense.

I don't buy used cars so am not shopping at Carmax. Nor would I buy my parents a used car. We got a brand new car for my mother to ensure her safety. OP can definitely spend more on HER PARENTS.
Their household income is $3,000,000. Did you read all those zeros? Why are the PPs on this board insisting that OP live like a family making $300K or $150K? It's just ridiculous. TBH, I think most of the PPs are jealous. OP, you have cash. Live well. Buy your parents nice gifts.

A car with only 6k miles on it is a lot less used than the one you’re currently driving.

And a complete waste. Why would I shop at Carmax when I can get a new car covered by 36-48M warranty with free service during that time? Don't be ridiculous. No reason to buy a used car unless you are cash strapped, which OP is not.

Maybe OP’s husband doesn’t want to pay the gift tax on something that expensive.
Plus, you sound like a snob.

You are still missing the point. The HHI is $3,000,000. They are not poor, struggling, or counting pennies. They are living well. They can afford to pay for parents car. It's selfish not to. I make significantly less than them and bought my nanny a brand new car as a gift so I'm flummoxed as to DH's rationale here.
If telling someone who makes $3M to not be cheap is snobby, I'll take it.

You’re flummoxed by rational, common sense? That sounds like a you problem.

And it sounds like you don't make a ton of money. The same rationale for cash strapped folks is not the same for those who are flush. They get to live life differently. Sorry you cannot see that.

I make enough to buy my parents a $50k car. But I wouldn’t. Because that’s not necessary for safe, reliable transportation.

Again, why is OP’s DH wrong?

Some people will find any reason to be unhappy, no matter how far and long they have to hunt.

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Anonymous wrote:$50K+ car screams emotional insecurity in all of you.

Such a waste of humanity's effort and nature's energy to indulge people like this.

This is a dumb post. You have no concept of how much cars cost and likely haven't bought one in ages. My minivan costs nearly $50K. It is not a flashy car but it is one that is now on backorder at all dealerships.

Getting a good car will cost at least $40-$50K.

Give us an example of a “good car” that an elderly couple needs vs a $30k so-called bad car. And remember, OP doesn’t want $40k car. She wants a $60k car! How will that significantly change her parents’ lives vs a $30k car.

OP's DH makes $3M a year. There is no reason not to buy her parents a $50K car. Plus, buying seniors cheap cars is a bad idea. I just helped my 70+ year old mother buy a Subaru. She needs the safety and added features. It was $40+.

They can afford it. There is no reason to cheap out on her parents vehicle. Be a better kid.

You can get a 2022 Subaru Impreza Premium, with all the bells and whistles, and only 6k miles for $26,998 at a local Carmax. How would that not serve her parents well? She is just trying to show off to her family (probably siblings and others) at the expense of her DH’s common sense.

I don't buy used cars so am not shopping at Carmax. Nor would I buy my parents a used car. We got a brand new car for my mother to ensure her safety. OP can definitely spend more on HER PARENTS.
Their household income is $3,000,000. Did you read all those zeros? Why are the PPs on this board insisting that OP live like a family making $300K or $150K? It's just ridiculous. TBH, I think most of the PPs are jealous. OP, you have cash. Live well. Buy your parents nice gifts.

A car with only 6k miles on it is a lot less used than the one you’re currently driving.

And a complete waste. Why would I shop at Carmax when I can get a new car covered by 36-48M warranty with free service during that time? Don't be ridiculous. No reason to buy a used car unless you are cash strapped, which OP is not.

Maybe OP’s husband doesn’t want to pay the gift tax on something that expensive.
Plus, you sound like a snob.

You are still missing the point. The HHI is $3,000,000. They are not poor, struggling, or counting pennies. They are living well. They can afford to pay for parents car. It's selfish not to. I make significantly less than them and bought my nanny a brand new car as a gift so I'm flummoxed as to DH's rationale here.
If telling someone who makes $3M to not be cheap is snobby, I'll take it.

You’re flummoxed by rational, common sense? That sounds like a you problem.

And it sounds like you don't make a ton of money. The same rationale for cash strapped folks is not the same for those who are flush. They get to live life differently. Sorry you cannot see that.

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Anonymous wrote:$50K+ car screams emotional insecurity in all of you.

Such a waste of humanity's effort and nature's energy to indulge people like this.

This is a dumb post. You have no concept of how much cars cost and likely haven't bought one in ages. My minivan costs nearly $50K. It is not a flashy car but it is one that is now on backorder at all dealerships.

Getting a good car will cost at least $40-$50K.

Give us an example of a “good car” that an elderly couple needs vs a $30k so-called bad car. And remember, OP doesn’t want $40k car. She wants a $60k car! How will that significantly change her parents’ lives vs a $30k car.

OP's DH makes $3M a year. There is no reason not to buy her parents a $50K car. Plus, buying seniors cheap cars is a bad idea. I just helped my 70+ year old mother buy a Subaru. She needs the safety and added features. It was $40+.

They can afford it. There is no reason to cheap out on her parents vehicle. Be a better kid.

You can get a 2022 Subaru Impreza Premium, with all the bells and whistles, and only 6k miles for $26,998 at a local Carmax. How would that not serve her parents well? She is just trying to show off to her family (probably siblings and others) at the expense of her DH’s common sense.

I don't buy used cars so am not shopping at Carmax. Nor would I buy my parents a used car. We got a brand new car for my mother to ensure her safety. OP can definitely spend more on HER PARENTS.
Their household income is $3,000,000. Did you read all those zeros? Why are the PPs on this board insisting that OP live like a family making $300K or $150K? It's just ridiculous. TBH, I think most of the PPs are jealous. OP, you have cash. Live well. Buy your parents nice gifts.

A car with only 6k miles on it is a lot less used than the one you’re currently driving.

And a complete waste. Why would I shop at Carmax when I can get a new car covered by 36-48M warranty with free service during that time? Don't be ridiculous. No reason to buy a used car unless you are cash strapped, which OP is not.

Maybe OP’s husband doesn’t want to pay the gift tax on something that expensive.
Plus, you sound like a snob.

You are still missing the point. The HHI is $3,000,000. They are not poor, struggling, or counting pennies. They are living well. They can afford to pay for parents car. It's selfish not to. I make significantly less than them and bought my nanny a brand new car as a gift so I'm flummoxed as to DH's rationale here.
If telling someone who makes $3M to not be cheap is snobby, I'll take it.

Plus you still never explained why OP’s DH is wrong or why a car under $30k doesn’t serve the parents’ needs. Your only reason is “because they can!” Which is not very smart. Just because one can doesn’t mean one should.

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Anonymous wrote:$50K+ car screams emotional insecurity in all of you.

Such a waste of humanity's effort and nature's energy to indulge people like this.

This is a dumb post. You have no concept of how much cars cost and likely haven't bought one in ages. My minivan costs nearly $50K. It is not a flashy car but it is one that is now on backorder at all dealerships.

Getting a good car will cost at least $40-$50K.

Give us an example of a “good car” that an elderly couple needs vs a $30k so-called bad car. And remember, OP doesn’t want $40k car. She wants a $60k car! How will that significantly change her parents’ lives vs a $30k car.

OP's DH makes $3M a year. There is no reason not to buy her parents a $50K car. Plus, buying seniors cheap cars is a bad idea. I just helped my 70+ year old mother buy a Subaru. She needs the safety and added features. It was $40+.

They can afford it. There is no reason to cheap out on her parents vehicle. Be a better kid.

You can get a 2022 Subaru Impreza Premium, with all the bells and whistles, and only 6k miles for $26,998 at a local Carmax. How would that not serve her parents well? She is just trying to show off to her family (probably siblings and others) at the expense of her DH’s common sense.

I don't buy used cars so am not shopping at Carmax. Nor would I buy my parents a used car. We got a brand new car for my mother to ensure her safety. OP can definitely spend more on HER PARENTS.
Their household income is $3,000,000. Did you read all those zeros? Why are the PPs on this board insisting that OP live like a family making $300K or $150K? It's just ridiculous. TBH, I think most of the PPs are jealous. OP, you have cash. Live well. Buy your parents nice gifts.

A car with only 6k miles on it is a lot less used than the one you’re currently driving.

And a complete waste. Why would I shop at Carmax when I can get a new car covered by 36-48M warranty with free service during that time? Don't be ridiculous. No reason to buy a used car unless you are cash strapped, which OP is not.

Maybe OP’s husband doesn’t want to pay the gift tax on something that expensive.
Plus, you sound like a snob.

You are still missing the point. The HHI is $3,000,000. They are not poor, struggling, or counting pennies. They are living well. They can afford to pay for parents car. It's selfish not to. I make significantly less than them and bought my nanny a brand new car as a gift so I'm flummoxed as to DH's rationale here.
If telling someone who makes $3M to not be cheap is snobby, I'll take it.

You’re flummoxed by rational, common sense? That sounds like a you problem.

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Anonymous wrote:$50K+ car screams emotional insecurity in all of you.

Such a waste of humanity's effort and nature's energy to indulge people like this.

This is a dumb post. You have no concept of how much cars cost and likely haven't bought one in ages. My minivan costs nearly $50K. It is not a flashy car but it is one that is now on backorder at all dealerships.

Getting a good car will cost at least $40-$50K.

Give us an example of a “good car” that an elderly couple needs vs a $30k so-called bad car. And remember, OP doesn’t want $40k car. She wants a $60k car! How will that significantly change her parents’ lives vs a $30k car.

OP's DH makes $3M a year. There is no reason not to buy her parents a $50K car. Plus, buying seniors cheap cars is a bad idea. I just helped my 70+ year old mother buy a Subaru. She needs the safety and added features. It was $40+.

They can afford it. There is no reason to cheap out on her parents vehicle. Be a better kid.

You can get a 2022 Subaru Impreza Premium, with all the bells and whistles, and only 6k miles for $26,998 at a local Carmax. How would that not serve her parents well? She is just trying to show off to her family (probably siblings and others) at the expense of her DH’s common sense.

I don't buy used cars so am not shopping at Carmax. Nor would I buy my parents a used car. We got a brand new car for my mother to ensure her safety. OP can definitely spend more on HER PARENTS.
Their household income is $3,000,000. Did you read all those zeros? Why are the PPs on this board insisting that OP live like a family making $300K or $150K? It's just ridiculous. TBH, I think most of the PPs are jealous. OP, you have cash. Live well. Buy your parents nice gifts.

A car with only 6k miles on it is a lot less used than the one you’re currently driving.

And a complete waste. Why would I shop at Carmax when I can get a new car covered by 36-48M warranty with free service during that time? Don't be ridiculous. No reason to buy a used car unless you are cash strapped, which OP is not.

Maybe OP’s husband doesn’t want to pay the gift tax on something that expensive.
Plus, you sound like a snob.

You are still missing the point. The HHI is $3,000,000. They are not poor, struggling, or counting pennies. They are living well. They can afford to pay for parents car. It's selfish not to. I make significantly less than them and bought my nanny a brand new car as a gift so I'm flummoxed as to DH's rationale here.
If telling someone who makes $3M to not be cheap is snobby, I'll take it.

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Anonymous wrote:$50K+ car screams emotional insecurity in all of you.

Such a waste of humanity's effort and nature's energy to indulge people like this.

This is a dumb post. You have no concept of how much cars cost and likely haven't bought one in ages. My minivan costs nearly $50K. It is not a flashy car but it is one that is now on backorder at all dealerships.

Getting a good car will cost at least $40-$50K.

Give us an example of a “good car” that an elderly couple needs vs a $30k so-called bad car. And remember, OP doesn’t want $40k car. She wants a $60k car! How will that significantly change her parents’ lives vs a $30k car.

OP's DH makes $3M a year. There is no reason not to buy her parents a $50K car. Plus, buying seniors cheap cars is a bad idea. I just helped my 70+ year old mother buy a Subaru. She needs the safety and added features. It was $40+.

They can afford it. There is no reason to cheap out on her parents vehicle. Be a better kid.

You can get a 2022 Subaru Impreza Premium, with all the bells and whistles, and only 6k miles for $26,998 at a local Carmax. How would that not serve her parents well? She is just trying to show off to her family (probably siblings and others) at the expense of her DH’s common sense.

I don't buy used cars so am not shopping at Carmax. Nor would I buy my parents a used car. We got a brand new car for my mother to ensure her safety. OP can definitely spend more on HER PARENTS.
Their household income is $3,000,000. Did you read all those zeros? Why are the PPs on this board insisting that OP live like a family making $300K or $150K? It's just ridiculous. TBH, I think most of the PPs are jealous. OP, you have cash. Live well. Buy your parents nice gifts.

Their household income is $3M, but they're already supporting two families at that income. OP's parents' expenses are only going to go up as they get older - does she want the highest-trim luxury car for them now or a nicer care facility in the future? They have a lot of money but they don't have infinity dollars.

What is needed here is an attitude of gratitude. Not because she's a SAHM, or a woman, or a leech, or anything that's been insinuated in this thread. But because her DH, who by her own description did not grow up in a family that was generous with each other, is extremely generous with her parents out of love for either them or her or both. That's lovely. Demanding that he spend more and more for no reason (her parents don't even want the more expensive option!) is foolish. It's overlooking the good to seek out something to be upset about. And that's no way to live.

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Anonymous wrote:$50K+ car screams emotional insecurity in all of you.

Such a waste of humanity's effort and nature's energy to indulge people like this.

This is a dumb post. You have no concept of how much cars cost and likely haven't bought one in ages. My minivan costs nearly $50K. It is not a flashy car but it is one that is now on backorder at all dealerships.

Getting a good car will cost at least $40-$50K.

Give us an example of a “good car” that an elderly couple needs vs a $30k so-called bad car. And remember, OP doesn’t want $40k car. She wants a $60k car! How will that significantly change her parents’ lives vs a $30k car.

OP's DH makes $3M a year. There is no reason not to buy her parents a $50K car. Plus, buying seniors cheap cars is a bad idea. I just helped my 70+ year old mother buy a Subaru. She needs the safety and added features. It was $40+.

They can afford it. There is no reason to cheap out on her parents vehicle. Be a better kid.

You can get a 2022 Subaru Impreza Premium, with all the bells and whistles, and only 6k miles for $26,998 at a local Carmax. How would that not serve her parents well? She is just trying to show off to her family (probably siblings and others) at the expense of her DH’s common sense.

I don't buy used cars so am not shopping at Carmax. Nor would I buy my parents a used car. We got a brand new car for my mother to ensure her safety. OP can definitely spend more on HER PARENTS.
Their household income is $3,000,000. Did you read all those zeros? Why are the PPs on this board insisting that OP live like a family making $300K or $150K? It's just ridiculous. TBH, I think most of the PPs are jealous. OP, you have cash. Live well. Buy your parents nice gifts.

A car with only 6k miles on it is a lot less used than the one you’re currently driving.

And a complete waste. Why would I shop at Carmax when I can get a new car covered by 36-48M warranty with free service during that time? Don't be ridiculous. No reason to buy a used car unless you are cash strapped, which OP is not.

Maybe OP’s husband doesn’t want to pay the gift tax on something that expensive.
Plus, you sound like a snob.

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Anonymous wrote:$50K+ car screams emotional insecurity in all of you.

Such a waste of humanity's effort and nature's energy to indulge people like this.

This is a dumb post. You have no concept of how much cars cost and likely haven't bought one in ages. My minivan costs nearly $50K. It is not a flashy car but it is one that is now on backorder at all dealerships.

Getting a good car will cost at least $40-$50K.

Give us an example of a “good car” that an elderly couple needs vs a $30k so-called bad car. And remember, OP doesn’t want $40k car. She wants a $60k car! How will that significantly change her parents’ lives vs a $30k car.

OP's DH makes $3M a year. There is no reason not to buy her parents a $50K car. Plus, buying seniors cheap cars is a bad idea. I just helped my 70+ year old mother buy a Subaru. She needs the safety and added features. It was $40+.

They can afford it. There is no reason to cheap out on her parents vehicle. Be a better kid.

You can get a 2022 Subaru Impreza Premium, with all the bells and whistles, and only 6k miles for $26,998 at a local Carmax. How would that not serve her parents well? She is just trying to show off to her family (probably siblings and others) at the expense of her DH’s common sense.

I don't buy used cars so am not shopping at Carmax. Nor would I buy my parents a used car. We got a brand new car for my mother to ensure her safety. OP can definitely spend more on HER PARENTS.
Their household income is $3,000,000. Did you read all those zeros? Why are the PPs on this board insisting that OP live like a family making $300K or $150K? It's just ridiculous. TBH, I think most of the PPs are jealous. OP, you have cash. Live well. Buy your parents nice gifts.

A car with only 6k miles on it is a lot less used than the one you’re currently driving.

And a complete waste. Why would I shop at Carmax when I can get a new car covered by 36-48M warranty with free service during that time? Don't be ridiculous. No reason to buy a used car unless you are cash strapped, which OP is not.

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Anonymous wrote:$50K+ car screams emotional insecurity in all of you.

Such a waste of humanity's effort and nature's energy to indulge people like this.

This is a dumb post. You have no concept of how much cars cost and likely haven't bought one in ages. My minivan costs nearly $50K. It is not a flashy car but it is one that is now on backorder at all dealerships.

Getting a good car will cost at least $40-$50K.

Give us an example of a “good car” that an elderly couple needs vs a $30k so-called bad car. And remember, OP doesn’t want $40k car. She wants a $60k car! How will that significantly change her parents’ lives vs a $30k car.

OP's DH makes $3M a year. There is no reason not to buy her parents a $50K car. Plus, buying seniors cheap cars is a bad idea. I just helped my 70+ year old mother buy a Subaru. She needs the safety and added features. It was $40+.

They can afford it. There is no reason to cheap out on her parents vehicle. Be a better kid.

You can get a 2022 Subaru Impreza Premium, with all the bells and whistles, and only 6k miles for $26,998 at a local Carmax. How would that not serve her parents well? She is just trying to show off to her family (probably siblings and others) at the expense of her DH’s common sense.

I don't buy used cars so am not shopping at Carmax. Nor would I buy my parents a used car. We got a brand new car for my mother to ensure her safety. OP can definitely spend more on HER PARENTS.
Their household income is $3,000,000. Did you read all those zeros? Why are the PPs on this board insisting that OP live like a family making $300K or $150K? It's just ridiculous. TBH, I think most of the PPs are jealous. OP, you have cash. Live well. Buy your parents nice gifts.

1/2 of OP’s marriage partnership disagrees with you.