Anonymous
04/20/2023 22:28
Subject: Any schools that put freshman in singles? DD won’t be able to handle sharing a bedroom
ONLY in the USA is sharing a room with strangers a "rite of passage".
ONLY in the USA are college costs so exorbitant.
None of this is normal. No other countries (apart perhaps from Canada, for shared dorms) do this.
You're being completely fleeced, AND brainwashed that all this is "good" for your kids. It's really not. None of this is necessary or beneficial.
Anonymous
04/20/2023 22:24
Subject: Re:Any schools that put freshman in singles? DD won’t be able to handle sharing a bedroom
Dorming is not necessary to succeed in life but it’s a rite of passage around here.
Anonymous
04/20/2023 22:23
Subject: Re:Any schools that put freshman in singles? DD won’t be able to handle sharing a bedroom
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP here. She is not HFA or SN. She gets annoyed easily at certain sounds & smells, however. She’s currently a junior in high school. She went to an 8 week sleep away camp in middle school and had a tough time living with others. She has former teammates who have complained about their college roommates when she’s seen them. She says that she absolutely could not handle sharing a room because her roommate might burn sage or incense, smoke pot, smoke cigarettes, leave the dorm room propped open to outside leaving the possibility of her stuff being stolen, be too loud at night or get mad at her for waking up really early as she prefers to do.
You should make her get a roommate.
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I would be devastated if this person was my kid's roommate. She sounds awful to live with.
What's more obnoxious than, "I preemptively feel like the roommate is going to cause problems that I can't deal with." (There's no way she'll do things to bother another person)
It's a major red flag that she would rather be alone then have the comfort and bonding of a person going through the same thing as her.
“Devastated?” You should get some real problems.
Anonymous
04/20/2023 22:23
Subject: Re:Any schools that put freshman in singles? DD won’t be able to handle sharing a bedroom
You can get an accommodation.
Anonymous
04/20/2023 22:23
Subject: Any schools that put freshman in singles? DD won’t be able to handle sharing a bedroom
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Why can’t she handle it? We need more information. Sharing a room is great way to become more considerate, empathetic, kind, etc. Plus, it helps things go more smoothly when you get married or move in with your significant other.
Some kids grow up in small houses or apartments and have never had their own room. They’ve already learned how to share and be considerate because they didn’t have a single … ever.
Living with family members is different from living with literal strangers, but you knew that.
Millions of college students do it every year, but you knew that.
Millions of college students drop out every year, too. So not sure what your point is.
Anonymous
04/20/2023 22:22
Subject: Any schools that put freshman in singles? DD won’t be able to handle sharing a bedroom
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Why can’t she handle it? We need more information. Sharing a room is great way to become more considerate, empathetic, kind, etc. Plus, it helps things go more smoothly when you get married or move in with your significant other.
Some kids grow up in small houses or apartments and have never had their own room. They’ve already learned how to share and be considerate because they didn’t have a single … ever.
Living with family members is different from living with literal strangers, but you knew that.
Millions of college students do it every year, but you knew that.
Anonymous
04/20/2023 22:20
Subject: Re:Any schools that put freshman in singles? DD won’t be able to handle sharing a bedroom
Anonymous wrote:OP here. She is not HFA or SN. She gets annoyed easily at certain sounds & smells, however. She’s currently a junior in high school. She went to an 8 week sleep away camp in middle school and had a tough time living with others. She has former teammates who have complained about their college roommates when she’s seen them. She says that she absolutely could not handle sharing a room because her roommate might burn sage or incense, smoke pot, smoke cigarettes, leave the dorm room propped open to outside leaving the possibility of her stuff being stolen, be too loud at night or get mad at her for waking up really early as she prefers to do.
So she doesn’t need a single. Congrats, it will be a growth opportunity for her!
Anonymous
04/20/2023 22:15
Subject: Re:Any schools that put freshman in singles? DD won’t be able to handle sharing a bedroom
I think the sharing dorm rooms is ridiculous (my kids never spoke to their freshman year roommates after move-out) but I get it. Space concerns aside, if every freshman had a single a lot of suicides, overdoses, depression & social withdrawal would go completely unnoticed.
Anonymous
04/20/2023 22:14
Subject: Any schools that put freshman in singles? DD won’t be able to handle sharing a bedroom
Anonymous wrote:Michigan did back in my day.
cool story, meemaw
Anonymous
04/20/2023 22:13
Subject: Any schools that put freshman in singles? DD won’t be able to handle sharing a bedroom
Williams College. Almost all freshmen have singles. They have a freshmen dorm with more than 90% of rooms being singles.
Anonymous
04/20/2023 22:12
Subject: Any schools that put freshman in singles? DD won’t be able to handle sharing a bedroom
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Why can’t she handle it? We need more information. Sharing a room is great way to become more considerate, empathetic, kind, etc. Plus, it helps things go more smoothly when you get married or move in with your significant other.
Some kids grow up in small houses or apartments and have never had their own room. They’ve already learned how to share and be considerate because they didn’t have a single … ever.
Living with family members is different from living with literal strangers, but you knew that.
NP. I have no idea what you were saying or what your point is. Yeah family members are not strangers. They are still different human beings we need to compromise with.
There is enforceable mediation between family members. If your sister is smoking in your shared bedroom you can get your parents to do something about that. If your roommate is who is a stranger to you, good luck
Anonymous
04/20/2023 22:09
Subject: Any schools that put freshman in singles? DD won’t be able to handle sharing a bedroom
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Why can’t she handle it? We need more information. Sharing a room is great way to become more considerate, empathetic, kind, etc. Plus, it helps things go more smoothly when you get married or move in with your significant other.
Some kids grow up in small houses or apartments and have never had their own room. They’ve already learned how to share and be considerate because they didn’t have a single … ever.
Living with family members is different from living with literal strangers, but you knew that.
NP. I have no idea what you were saying or what your point is. Yeah family members are not strangers. They are still different human beings we need to compromise with.
Anonymous
04/20/2023 22:07
Subject: Re:Any schools that put freshman in singles? DD won’t be able to handle sharing a bedroom
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP here. She is not HFA or SN. She gets annoyed easily at certain sounds & smells, however. She’s currently a junior in high school. She went to an 8 week sleep away camp in middle school and had a tough time living with others. She has former teammates who have complained about their college roommates when she’s seen them. She says that she absolutely could not handle sharing a room because her roommate might burn sage or incense, smoke pot, smoke cigarettes, leave the dorm room propped open to outside leaving the possibility of her stuff being stolen, be too loud at night or get mad at her for waking up really early as she prefers to do.
You should make her get a roommate.
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I would be devastated if this person was my kid's roommate. She sounds awful to live with.
What's more obnoxious than, "I preemptively feel like the roommate is going to cause problems that I can't deal with." (There's no way she'll do things to bother another person)
It's a major red flag that she would rather be alone then have the comfort and bonding of a person going through the same thing as her.
Anonymous
04/20/2023 22:06
Subject: Re:Any schools that put freshman in singles? DD won’t be able to handle sharing a bedroom
Anonymous wrote:I think schools should at least provide dividers like this:
That seems like something you could provide yourself.
Anonymous
04/20/2023 22:05
Subject: Re:Any schools that put freshman in singles? DD won’t be able to handle sharing a bedroom
One of these is an option too:
