Anonymous
Post 04/07/2023 13:14     Subject: Mother of 2 from VERY prominent Richmond family arrested by FBI for child p@rn, exploitation, etc
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Thank god for the FBI. I have a friend who was an undercover agent in this division and she had to eventually take early retirement because it made her mental health so bad and depressed. These people are real hero’s who catch these sickos.

The complaint in OPs second link includes excerpts of what the FBI agent wrote I corresponding with her. It would have totaled a toll on your psyche to put yourself in that frame of mind to catch someone. They definitely are heroes.

This. Incredible work by the FBI and I am sure it comes at a personal cost.
Anonymous
Post 04/07/2023 13:07     Subject: Re:Mother of 2 from VERY prominent Richmond family arrested by FBI for child p@rn, exploitation, etc
I can’t believe her FB is still up with pics of her kids all over it.
Anonymous
Post 04/07/2023 13:04     Subject: Mother of 2 from VERY prominent Richmond family arrested by FBI for child p@rn, exploitation, etc
Anonymous wrote:These links need a TW. This is really really awful

To be fair, the post title is a trigger warning. I wish I hadn't read the links.
Anonymous
Post 04/07/2023 13:04     Subject: Mother of 2 from VERY prominent Richmond family arrested by FBI for child p@rn, exploitation, etc
If that's her linked in page, she also worked at Big Brother, Big Sister.

JFC
Anonymous
Post 04/07/2023 13:02     Subject: Mother of 2 from VERY prominent Richmond family arrested by FBI for child p@rn, exploitation, etc
Anonymous wrote:I get it why people don’t allow sleepovers, but especially for older kids, it’s not just during sleepovers that things can happen. I remember being in some frightening (though not sexual) situations with a friends older brother at their house after school when I was probably about 12. He would have been 15 or 16. Parents were all at work. It could have easily been much much worse.

It is terrifying to think how vulnerable our kids are. I’m trying to teach my kids to recognize and trust themselves if something doesn’t feel right, that no one, adult or kid, can see or touch the private parts of their body, or offer to show or ask them to touch their private parts. My 7 yo found a sexually explicit photo on a Rec center playground with the babysitter recently. So we talked about pornography. It sucks and I don’t even know if it will help. But I hope so.



You can’t prevent everything. And you definitely have to talk to your kids about this. But sleepovers are situations where increased likelihood of exploitation happens.
Anonymous
Post 04/07/2023 13:02     Subject: Mother of 2 from VERY prominent Richmond family arrested by FBI for child p@rn, exploitation, etc
Thank you to PP's who noted that reading the article made them sick. Will not read.

Also, thank you OP-- there is a point here to observe our own biases. Just because someone is from a prominent family, we shouldn't let down our spidey senses/guard.

I think if I read the article, I might throw up. Did they name the hotel in Warrenton where this took place? That's a little too close to home.
Anonymous
Post 04/07/2023 12:59     Subject: Mother of 2 from VERY prominent Richmond family arrested by FBI for child p@rn, exploitation, etc
I get it why people don’t allow sleepovers, but especially for older kids, it’s not just during sleepovers that things can happen. I remember being in some frightening (though not sexual) situations with a friends older brother at their house after school when I was probably about 12. He would have been 15 or 16. Parents were all at work. It could have easily been much much worse.

It is terrifying to think how vulnerable our kids are. I’m trying to teach my kids to recognize and trust themselves if something doesn’t feel right, that no one, adult or kid, can see or touch the private parts of their body, or offer to show or ask them to touch their private parts. My 7 yo found a sexually explicit photo on a Rec center playground with the babysitter recently. So we talked about pornography. It sucks and I don’t even know if it will help. But I hope so.

Anonymous
Post 04/07/2023 12:57     Subject: Re:Mother of 2 from VERY prominent Richmond family arrested by FBI for child p@rn, exploitation, etc
After what the entire country just saw in South Carolina, you'd think newspapers would be willing to shed light on this. It feels eerily like the SC murder case in that nobody wanted to touch it with a ten foot pole OR tried to make it quietly go away.

We know that reporters like to peruse DCUM for stories. Hopefully somebody grabs hold of this one.
Anonymous
Post 04/07/2023 12:52     Subject: Mother of 2 from VERY prominent Richmond family arrested by FBI for child p@rn, exploitation, etc
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I wonder how prevalent this is. It's as horrifying to me as hearing there is a serial killer parent in my area (maybe this is scarier as it involves children). My kids have sleepovers at least monthly but are at an age they know and could tell me if something weird was going on in terms of abuse or inappropriate photography. When kids spend the night here it's usually more than one and they are not engaging with parents much beyond getting fed or told to put electronics away for the night.


Um, I was molested at a sleepover at age 12 by my friends older brother and never told anyone until I was an adult. Even if I had told someone, it would’ve been after it had already happened so the damage was already done. And I come from a close knit family and normally talk to my parents and siblings about all kinds of things. But this is something I suppressed and didn’t discuss for years. And this happened at my good friend’s house my parents knew her family well and I hung out there often.


I'm sorry that happened to you. I can understand keeping something like this secret. I have done the same with things that were in no way my fault but I was scared to be associated with it (scared of having blame heaped my way) so I stayed quiet. Only as an adult can I see how stupid that was as nobody could have blamed me as a little kid.

I am also so very sorry, PP that you experienced this. I have an older girl and a younger boy, but I 100% understand when people don't do sleepovers, especially when there are older brothers. Luckily we haven't had any friends with older brothers yet, but I will be very, very wary of it and speak frankly with my children about abuse in these situations.


In THIS thread you seem to think older sisters are safe?


+1 My sister was molested by an older girl in the neighborhood and didn't tell us until we were in our 40s. Fortunately, my mom just got a weird vibe about the kid (who was like 2-3 years older) and stopped allowing her to visit our house. Damage definitely done but fortunately did not go on. Pay attention to those niggling something's off feelings.
Anonymous
Post 04/07/2023 12:45     Subject: Mother of 2 from VERY prominent Richmond family arrested by FBI for child p@rn, exploitation, etc
Omg why did I read that article? Horrifying and makes me sick.
Anonymous
Post 04/07/2023 12:45     Subject: Mother of 2 from VERY prominent Richmond family arrested by FBI for child p@rn, exploitation, etc
I wish I could go back and not read the complaint. Deeply disturbing and triggering.
Anonymous
Post 04/07/2023 12:44     Subject: Mother of 2 from VERY prominent Richmond family arrested by FBI for child p@rn, exploitation, etc
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I wonder how prevalent this is. It's as horrifying to me as hearing there is a serial killer parent in my area (maybe this is scarier as it involves children). My kids have sleepovers at least monthly but are at an age they know and could tell me if something weird was going on in terms of abuse or inappropriate photography. When kids spend the night here it's usually more than one and they are not engaging with parents much beyond getting fed or told to put electronics away for the night.


Um, I was molested at a sleepover at age 12 by my friends older brother and never told anyone until I was an adult. Even if I had told someone, it would’ve been after it had already happened so the damage was already done. And I come from a close knit family and normally talk to my parents and siblings about all kinds of things. But this is something I suppressed and didn’t discuss for years. And this happened at my good friend’s house my parents knew her family well and I hung out there often.


I'm sorry that happened to you. I can understand keeping something like this secret. I have done the same with things that were in no way my fault but I was scared to be associated with it (scared of having blame heaped my way) so I stayed quiet. Only as an adult can I see how stupid that was as nobody could have blamed me as a little kid.

I am also so very sorry, PP that you experienced this. I have an older girl and a younger boy, but I 100% understand when people don't do sleepovers, especially when there are older brothers. Luckily we haven't had any friends with older brothers yet, but I will be very, very wary of it and speak frankly with my children about abuse in these situations.


In THIS thread you seem to think older sisters are safe?


It's pretty clear that THIS PP has specific personal triggers associated with older brothers that would make that a harder situation for her to navigate emotionally, PP.
Anonymous
Post 04/07/2023 12:43     Subject: Mother of 2 from VERY prominent Richmond family arrested by FBI for child p@rn, exploitation, etc
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I wonder how prevalent this is. It's as horrifying to me as hearing there is a serial killer parent in my area (maybe this is scarier as it involves children). My kids have sleepovers at least monthly but are at an age they know and could tell me if something weird was going on in terms of abuse or inappropriate photography. When kids spend the night here it's usually more than one and they are not engaging with parents much beyond getting fed or told to put electronics away for the night.


Um, I was molested at a sleepover at age 12 by my friends older brother and never told anyone until I was an adult. Even if I had told someone, it would’ve been after it had already happened so the damage was already done. And I come from a close knit family and normally talk to my parents and siblings about all kinds of things. But this is something I suppressed and didn’t discuss for years. And this happened at my good friend’s house my parents knew her family well and I hung out there often.


I'm sorry that happened to you. I can understand keeping something like this secret. I have done the same with things that were in no way my fault but I was scared to be associated with it (scared of having blame heaped my way) so I stayed quiet. Only as an adult can I see how stupid that was as nobody could have blamed me as a little kid.

I am also so very sorry, PP that you experienced this. I have an older girl and a younger boy, but I 100% understand when people don't do sleepovers, especially when there are older brothers. Luckily we haven't had any friends with older brothers yet, but I will be very, very wary of it and speak frankly with my children about abuse in these situations.


In THIS thread you seem to think older sisters are safe?
Anonymous
Post 04/07/2023 12:38     Subject: Mother of 2 from VERY prominent Richmond family arrested by FBI for child p@rn, exploitation, etc
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I wonder how prevalent this is. It's as horrifying to me as hearing there is a serial killer parent in my area (maybe this is scarier as it involves children). My kids have sleepovers at least monthly but are at an age they know and could tell me if something weird was going on in terms of abuse or inappropriate photography. When kids spend the night here it's usually more than one and they are not engaging with parents much beyond getting fed or told to put electronics away for the night.


Um, I was molested at a sleepover at age 12 by my friends older brother and never told anyone until I was an adult. Even if I had told someone, it would’ve been after it had already happened so the damage was already done. And I come from a close knit family and normally talk to my parents and siblings about all kinds of things. But this is something I suppressed and didn’t discuss for years. And this happened at my good friend’s house my parents knew her family well and I hung out there often.


I'm sorry that happened to you. I can understand keeping something like this secret. I have done the same with things that were in no way my fault but I was scared to be associated with it (scared of having blame heaped my way) so I stayed quiet. Only as an adult can I see how stupid that was as nobody could have blamed me as a little kid.

I am also so very sorry, PP that you experienced this. I have an older girl and a younger boy, but I 100% understand when people don't do sleepovers, especially when there are older brothers. Luckily we haven't had any friends with older brothers yet, but I will be very, very wary of it and speak frankly with my children about abuse in these situations.
Anonymous
Post 04/07/2023 12:33     Subject: Mother of 2 from VERY prominent Richmond family arrested by FBI for child p@rn, exploitation, etc
Eleanor Beaumont Hunton Hoppe....can't help but hear her name spoken in Foghorn Leghorn's voice.