Anonymous wrote:I was a childhood victim of sex assault who was then frozen out of friends because my assaulter was a popular teen boy and some queen bee girls were angry at the “attention” I got from him. It was the single most traumatic incident of my life.

The jackals (correct term) defending the exclusion of OPs child in this thread are absolutely horrifying and awful people. Reading this has legitimately given me a bit of PTSD, and I am going to stop now.

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Anonymous wrote:wow you people are nasty and your kids are no different. so glad we moved abroad. what a hell hole the US has become.

Seriously. This thread is appalling. Op, I hope you’re able to take advice from the handful of people who offered it. The rest of the posters should be ashamed of themselves.

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This thread is horrifying. I have new insight into where bullies come from, I guess.

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Horrid.

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Anonymous wrote:This culture is alive in schools, it's just hidden from everyone and wrapped in the social justice culture in our public schools. Although the intent seems correct, many people get caught up and hurt by it. For more information, please visit: https://www.nytimes.com/2019/10/31/style/cancel-culture.html. In my child's situation, it wasn't related to rape or anything as severe as nude, but more in the lines of having a Christian value set and experiencing blowback about that, resulting in rumors being started about them being racist and bigoted.

I'm sorry, but how in the hell could doing this to a CHILD ever "seem correct" to you, for any reason?

I can come up with legitimate examples pretty easily- kids who physically assault other kids, boys who harass girls, unashamed bigots (I'm not talking about cultural confusion, I'm talking about the I hate x group level bigot)

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Anonymous wrote:This culture is alive in schools, it's just hidden from everyone and wrapped in the social justice culture in our public schools. Although the intent seems correct, many people get caught up and hurt by it. For more information, please visit: https://www.nytimes.com/2019/10/31/style/cancel-culture.html. In my child's situation, it wasn't related to rape or anything as severe as nude, but more in the lines of having a Christian value set and experiencing blowback about that, resulting in rumors being started about them being racist and bigoted.

I'm sorry, but how in the hell could doing this to a CHILD ever "seem correct" to you, for any reason?

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Anonymous wrote:This culture is alive in schools, it's just hidden from everyone and wrapped in the social justice culture in our public schools. Although the intent seems correct, many people get caught up and hurt by it. For more information, please visit: https://www.nytimes.com/2019/10/31/style/cancel-culture.html. In my child's situation, it wasn't related to rape or anything as severe as nude, but more in the lines of having a Christian value set and experiencing blowback about that, resulting in rumors being started about them being racist and bigoted.

Well, there are a lot of "Christian value set" people who are, in fact, racist and bigoted. I don't support children being "canceled" because their parents (you) taught them to be bigots, but this should be a wakeup call for your child that the beliefs they learned at home are not socially acceptable.

Perhaps teach your kid that in America we have freedom of speech, and faith. Trying to make everyone believe just like you is bigoted.

Don't give me that crap. It's not "intolerant" to tell you that if your kid says bigoted things, people won't want to be friends with them. Don't be such a snowflake. Own your bigotry and accept the consequences for your choices.

The freedoms you listed are granted by the Constitution to the people, not by other people to the people. You are free to say and believe whatever you want. I am free to tell you that I think you're a bigot for your beliefs. I'm not trying to get you to believe anything. I just think it's important that you understand that if you express beliefs that are hateful and intolerant, you can expect social repercussions because it's 2023 and bigotry is not socially acceptable the way you want it to be.

Yeah, no. It is an entirely new and terrifying thing that a kid could make one mistake and be instantly ostracized by the entire peer group in a highly visible manner. Especially since the “mistake” may have been unintentional (see: the Walls “racist” incident.) Even if OP’s daughter said/did something offensive, my guess is that she is not David Duke. The entire school ganging up on her is not right.

Of course it is, if the whole school dislikes what she did.

Not OP, but the chances are that 99.9% of the kids involved here have no idea what actually happened and believe the "queen bee" who started the rumor/told others a version of what happened this is incomplete and/or inaccurate. So, they dislike what they think she did based on a warped version of events or complete lies. They do not have the moral high ground here.

And there is a huge difference between someone choosing not to be friends with someone and what is likely happening, which is OP's child being targeted for nasty comments, and excluded/isolated during the school day.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh Good Lord. It's so easy to get canceled. My daughter was called a fascist because she said she wants to be a prosecutor. She isn't on social media so she wasn't publicly called out, but she was dropped from the group chat. For saying she wanting to be a prosecutor.

So don't assume OP's kid did something heinous. It could have been something as subtle as expressing the wrong political opinion or accidentally misgendering someone.

There is a difference between getting dropped from a group chat and getting dropped by every one of your friends

So your position is that if op’s child is being ostracized by her friend group, she must have done something to deserve it?

My position is that the OP says her child was "canceled" for "Christian values set" commentary, so yes. My assumption is that the OP's child said something perceived by their non-bigot friends as bigoted and offensive and those friends have dropped the child as a result.

If it was some innocuous thing or overblown social justice thing like "called a fascist bc wanted to be a prosecutor" I strongly suspect that the OP would have outlined that, rather than vaguely talking about values and cancel culture articles from 2019.

I also do not believe that this would be a family that would "accidentally" misgender someone. But I guess that makes ME intolerant for assuming that OP is bigoted in that specific way![/quote]

This is exactly correct (bolded). Your assumptions here are astounding. You have no idea what OP's child said and certainly have no way to know that the other kids are so "non-bigoted," as you call them.