A parent should be allowed to stay with their kid at that age. It doesn’t matter why. Anxiety, autism, sensitivity to noise, severe food allergies, it’s none of your business.

You shouldn’t be catching up with adults - you should be chaperoning the party and paying attention to your underage guests.

Anonymous wrote:Be kind, op. Also, if you want to catch up, you do not do it with 20 plus kids in the room.

Agree. You have to welcome her. Kid may need moms support. Bad time for you to catch up with friends.

Who’s going to watch the kids while you catch up with your friends?

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asking

You answer. She asked, you answer.
Be a grown up and use your words
whatever those are

Regardless of her words, OP doesn’t get to decide who stays at a public venue, unless she owns it.

asking

You answer. She asked, you answer.
Be a grown up and use your words
whatever those are

Anonymous wrote:YTA here OP. it is not unusual for a couple of kid's parents to stay at the party.

+1

I wouldn’t have even asked; I would’ve just stayed at that age. My second grader needed supervision. You don’t need to entertain her. Go about your business.

Anonymous wrote:It’s really, really weird that you’re so bent out of shape about a parent staying at an 8 year old’s party. And I’m a “please feel free to drop off” parent.

Because ONLY the "cool moms" who OP wants to "catch up with" are allowed to stay.

OP is a nasty piece of work.

It’s really, really weird that you’re so bent out of shape about a parent staying at an 8 year old’s party. And I’m a “please feel free to drop off” parent.

I don’t think a kids party is the right time to have a private meeting with your best friends. Do that the weekend before.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes tell her you can’t accommodate her as the venue has a strict count. She can choose to drop off her child or not bro if him at all. I would be miffed too. Does she stay at school with him too? Ridiculous

Wow. Now I know where the mean kids get it from. Is having to talk to someone other than your bestie so awful that a child should be excluded from the party?

These boards always make me understand where the kids being exclusionary at school learn it. I’m always shocked at these responses honestly.

I can only imagine the conversation between OP and her DD regarding this child’s anxiety and whatever other issues and mom’s feelings about making small accommodations.

It really explains why my autistic child didn't get a single party or playdate invitation while in public school (she was fully mainstreamed). People suck.

No it doesn’t really explain it
For some kids it’s harder to make friends and it’s sad but true

Yes, it's harder for some kids to make friends. That's why the rest of us should be willing to make accommodations to include those kids.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes tell her you can’t accommodate her as the venue has a strict count. She can choose to drop off her child or not bro if him at all. I would be miffed too. Does she stay at school with him too? Ridiculous

Wow. Now I know where the mean kids get it from. Is having to talk to someone other than your bestie so awful that a child should be excluded from the party?

These boards always make me understand where the kids being exclusionary at school learn it. I’m always shocked at these responses honestly.

I can only imagine the conversation between OP and her DD regarding this child’s anxiety and whatever other issues and mom’s feelings about making small accommodations.

It really explains why my autistic child didn't get a single party or playdate invitation while in public school (she was fully mainstreamed). People suck.

No it doesn’t really explain it
For some kids it’s harder to make friends and it’s sad but true

Yes, it's harder for some kids to make friends. That's why the rest of us should be willing to make accommodations to include those kids.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes tell her you can’t accommodate her as the venue has a strict count. She can choose to drop off her child or not bro if him at all. I would be miffed too. Does she stay at school with him too? Ridiculous

Wow. Now I know where the mean kids get it from. Is having to talk to someone other than your bestie so awful that a child should be excluded from the party?

Maybe it’s too early for them to be at a drop off party and that’s ok

You can't have an exclusively "drop-off party" at public venue. You have your party and people do what they please with their free time.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes tell her you can’t accommodate her as the venue has a strict count. She can choose to drop off her child or not bro if him at all. I would be miffed too. Does she stay at school with him too? Ridiculous

Wow. Now I know where the mean kids get it from. Is having to talk to someone other than your bestie so awful that a child should be excluded from the party?

Maybe it’s too early for them to be at a drop off party and that’s ok

Yes, of course it's ok that they don't feel comfortable being dropped off. That's why the mom wants to stay. I can't imagine a situation where excluding the child is a better choice than allowing the parent.

Anonymous wrote:If you invite the whole class (and therefore don't know the parents well), you should expect there are some parents who will not be comfortable with drop off.

Also, it's one person. Be gracious.

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This is pretty typical at this age. I'm happy to have the help.