Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think this is mostly a concern for girls. For my boys I just emphasize not getting anyone pregnant until they’re married and have a financial trajectory going, and not getting married until they have a graduate education and/or good job.

Respectfully, that sounds a bit controlling.

And really wise.

Anonymous wrote:I think this is mostly a concern for girls. For my boys I just emphasize not getting anyone pregnant until they’re married and have a financial trajectory going, and not getting married until they have a graduate education and/or good job.

Respectfully, that sounds a bit controlling.

I think this is mostly a concern for girls. For my boys I just emphasize not getting anyone pregnant until they’re married and have a financial trajectory going, and not getting married until they have a graduate education and/or good job.

I thought, "Maybe the classmates here won't be allowed to throw chairs and rip up bulletin boards and come back the next day and do the same." But I did not think about dating.

This was one of many reasons I decided private for my daughter. In addition to better academics. I wanted her to be surrounded with better and more affluent or interesting boys from good families. But the private school boys are all ugly and act like super jerks. Nary a kind, cool, easy going kid from a nice family. They act like idiots and I would never let them date my daughter. Wish we would have made a better choice.

It depends on if it’ll lead to a sizable dowry.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dating is part of peer group interaction. I wasn’t particularly interested in dating prospects, however I was concerned with the peer groups DS would be interacted.

It is something to think about I guess. I agree that the kids are too young to be dating though.

You don’t think high school kids should be dating? Are you from a different culture?

Affluent culture.

UHNW

No. My kids are still in college, but DD is with her HS boyfriend from a local parochial. DS dated someone from his high school.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do people marry their high school sweethearts these days?

No. But they might start dating someone from their high school in their 20s or 30s.

We ended up like this….

Anonymous wrote:Do people marry their high school sweethearts these days?

No. But they might start dating someone from their high school in their 20s or 30s.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dating is part of peer group interaction. I wasn’t particularly interested in dating prospects, however I was concerned with the peer groups DS would be interacted.

It is something to think about I guess. I agree that the kids are too young to be dating though.

You don’t think high school kids should be dating? Are you from a different culture?

Affluent culture.

Wrong. Affluent families are fine with high school kids dating.

Do people marry their high school sweethearts these days?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dating is part of peer group interaction. I wasn’t particularly interested in dating prospects, however I was concerned with the peer groups DS would be interacted.

It is something to think about I guess. I agree that the kids are too young to be dating though.

You don’t think high school kids should be dating? Are you from a different culture?

Affluent culture.

Far more dating occurs in Affluent culture.

Anonymous wrote:Okay, this is all eye-rolly or worse, I agree.

But I went to a pretty fancy college. It IS easier if you marry to someone well connected and wealthy and well educated it just is. Now *I* didn't really on #1 and #2, but I scored on #3 (and a bit on 2, given where we went to college).

So I guess I get it, although HS seems really early.

I’m Asian American so we may have different priorities. College is absolutely more important than high school.

I’m from NYC. Many people marry similar type people. In DC, perhaps that is white private school kids. In NYC, there is a huge orthodox Jewish community, affluent Asian community, Italians, Greeks, etc.

I’m not sure I want my kids to marry those kids with that very attitude that some people on here seem to want for their children.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dating is part of peer group interaction. I wasn’t particularly interested in dating prospects, however I was concerned with the peer groups DS would be interacted.

It is something to think about I guess. I agree that the kids are too young to be dating though.

You don’t think high school kids should be dating? Are you from a different culture?

Affluent culture.