I was a governess at his estate in Switzerland. I thought he was rather stern. After his wife passed, he was grief-stricken and distant. I took care of the children, and loved them as if they were my own, but had little to do with him. Meanwhile my friend (another governess at a nearby estate) had encouraged me to meet her brother, a traveling businessman, when he came to town. The night of my date (a dance in the town square), I changed out of my uniform into my a dress it (figure-hugging but tasteful, displaying a touch of decolletage) and let my hair down out of my usual bun. My eldest charge, dear 15-year-old Anastasia, had insisted I come to her room before I departed so that she could have a look. She kissed me on both cheeks and pressed a treasured hair-comb into my palms as a tear trickled down her face, wishing me well. As I descended down the grand staircase to depart, Mr. B___ was ascending. He stopped and stared -- then hurriedly cleared his throat, bid me a good evening, and rushed passed. I must admit, when our eyes locked, my heart fluttered.

In the coming days, M. B___ began to take a greater interest in the children's activities, often stopping by the nursery when I was giving lessons. He mood seemed increasingly lighter and happier. He soon also began to accompany us on our daily walks. It was if a fog had lifted. He often seemed as he wanted to discuss something more personal with me, but hesitated.

Ultimately, the traveling businessman proposed. I decided, after many sleepless nights, that I would accept. I was deeply dedicated to the children, however, so it was a wrenching decision. Perhaps I could live in town and still keep them in my charge, I thought?

I requested a meeting with Mr. B___, sending word that I had a question for him. At the time of our interview, I walked into his study, and he said that he had a question for ME. That's when he dropped to his knee, professed his love for me, and requested my hand in marriage. It was then I realized that I had always loved him as well and there could never be another. He was the one!

We wed five years ago. I am the lady of the estate, mother to our children, and we are deliriously happy.

Anonymous wrote:We lived near each other when I was in college.
- how old were you when you met? I was 17. He was 21
- how did you know he is or would be rich? I didn't really think about it. I wasn't looking to find a husband, and don't think wealth would be something I'd consider
- is he a good husband otherwise, too? he's an awesome husband.

So you were in college and he was a working adult?

And you were 17???

He was a summer intern at my law firm and I was his mentor. I knew he was going to succeed.

Anonymous wrote:The richest couple I know married when they were young and dirt poor and built a life together.

+1

I was an obscure actress and he was the layabout dim-witted brother of the heir. I am smarter than he is so it wasn’t too difficult to wow him and lure him away since people were mostly watching the actual heir.

We met at uni in Scotland. He came from a rich family (you've probably heard of them), so everyone knew who he was, but I made sure to "accidentally" bump into him. The breakthrough was when we became roommates. But beware, some of these rich families don't get along. For instance, my BIL and his wife seem to have taken a dislike to me for some reason.

Anonymous wrote:The richest couple I know married when they were young and dirt poor and built a life together.

That's my story as well

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Anonymous wrote:I met him in college when he was poor and kind of a mess, but had a lot of potential. He wouldn't even have graduated without me. Now he has an MBA and earns $900k a year.

Perfect example of average guy failing up; most men, even the average ones if educated will eventually out-earn most women.

Because most women take time off to have kids

Anonymous wrote:He was my divorce lawyer. I picked him because he was ugly and I thought I’d get a better settlement if I wasn’t distracted by my lawyer’s hotness. He is not as rich as my first husband, but he has a heart of gold.

Charlotte?

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Anonymous wrote:That’s amazing! I was also a ladies maid in France and he was actually married but they weren’t doing well bc she hadn’t borne him a son. So he brought me up to England to live in his castle but she wouldn’t leave. Imagine? Then they got divorced finally after a whole hassle (politics, founding a new church, blah blah blah excuses), now I’m Queen and life is awesome. What could go wrong?

My sister from another mother! Clearly we know how it's done when it comes to snagging those rich dudes.

Mwah come to court sometime!

I'll be there. We can entertain ourselves by casting diamonds off the castle balconies and watching the peasantry scrabble.

I think they only do that in France.

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Anonymous wrote:That’s amazing! I was also a ladies maid in France and he was actually married but they weren’t doing well bc she hadn’t borne him a son. So he brought me up to England to live in his castle but she wouldn’t leave. Imagine? Then they got divorced finally after a whole hassle (politics, founding a new church, blah blah blah excuses), now I’m Queen and life is awesome. What could go wrong?

My sister from another mother! Clearly we know how it's done when it comes to snagging those rich dudes.

Mwah come to court sometime!

I'll be there. We can entertain ourselves by casting diamonds off the castle balconies and watching the peasantry scrabble.

Anonymous wrote:I met him in college when he was poor and kind of a mess, but had a lot of potential. He wouldn't even have graduated without me. Now he has an MBA and earns $900k a year.

Perfect example of average guy failing up; most men, even the average ones if educated will eventually out-earn most women.

Anonymous wrote:The richest couple I know married when they were young and dirt poor and built a life together.

Hi that’s me!

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Anonymous wrote:That doesn’t exist. Either he’s young enough to be never married and has less money but poised to make more, or he was married already. If he was desirable before he was married before. If he was married before he likely had kids before. It comes out of his income not yours but you don’t get to cut off income to his kids. That’s part of the deal. You can’t erase a prior life. Also most ex wives work now.

I’m the poster who said she only dates UMC and screens up front. I would not begrudge a man who was meeting his responsibilities to a prior family. In fact I would rule out any man who wasn’t.

Well then he’s got to make way more than 200k. Because maintaining a non working ex wife, couple kids and a second household in dmv area will leave him with no disposable income. I am not scaling back my lifestyle to subsidize that.

I don’t know why you think a man making $200K would be maintaining a non working ex wife with 2 kids in this area. He would not. The wife would be working. Child support is for the kids. Wives get time-limited alimony (not much if he’s making only $200K) unless they were married over 20 years and have to go back to work. Your perception is way off.

Met at 27. He had a relationship with the company I worked for at the time. No lengthy interaction. Both assumed the other was married. Started chatting at an industry event found out he wasn’t married, I made it clear I wasn’t. He asked me out. First date we both admitted that we had a crush on the other for months. Kind of just got the feel he had money by how he carried himself. I was doing pretty well for myself so it wasn’t a factor. Didn’t realize how wealthy until he took me away for the weekend to his massive oceanfront home.