Wedding drama, embarrassing gender reveals, and beach house in-law drama are part of life too and sometimes people post about them. Welcome to dcum!

Anonymous wrote:I’m curious about the pro anti-prom people-what are the benefits (given that kids have smaller parties all the time?) Why the night before the school’s prom? Would you really not worry about liability? Not being snarky I’m really wondering

These are the whack-o type parents that get confused easily and lose track that their children need a true PARENT, not a FRIEND. Their kids have friends and they would be better served if their parents actually did the parenting thing rather than the friend thing.

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Anonymous wrote:Have any of your kids gone to an unofficial/social media publicized anti-prom? This is the night before prom at a pricy venue-invites are on social media and “everyone” knows the kid whose family is throwing it. My questions are-is this a thing? And, if so, wtf?

If you know where it is and when it is, call the non-emergency police number and let them know that you are aware of this large under-age event going on and that there will likely be under-aged drinking, etc going on. The up-front police presence will go a long way to keeping things from getting out of control.

Wow. I would subpoenae that call if you shut my party down and publish your name on the school chat app. Karen did it!

It's a fairly trivial matter to do this anonymously, if they were so inclined, so have fun with that wild goose chase!

It’s actually not. I was able to find stuff like that out with one call to the precinct.

I don't understand why this is an issue. Rich parents of one or more kids planned a big lavish blowout party for teenagers to attend. okay, fine. Like any teenage party there are going to be risks of drugs, alcohol, and various behavior, and I hope that the event is adequately chaperoned. And yes, there will be kids who are not invited and they (or their parents) will be bummed, plus other kids whose parents don't allow them to go, plus kids who do go, but for one reason or another have a bad time once they get there. I get it - teenage years are hard, for the teenagers and their parents. And, in a wealthy area like DC, some teenage parties will be unnecessarily glitzy. But aren't these all normal regular issues - why is this unusual or worthy of debate?

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Anonymous wrote:Why do you care Miss Marple? Sounds like you’d love it if these parents got in trouble. I imagine these parents know their risks well and have still decided to do it.

The solution is simple. Drive your kid; stay in front the whole time (out of the view) and everyone is perfectly fine.

But instead you want to be a fly in the ointment.

I think I'm the "Miss Marple" you're addressing. I care for a number of reasons: (1) I would like for kids to be safe and well, even those I don't know, and events such as these carry unnecessary risks of danger; (2) I also care a lot about teens' mental health, which is floundering everywhere, and believe that when kids are too concerned about being "cool" and "seen" at the "cool" events, this is harmful to their mental health and sense of agency and self-worth - and that their self-worth is dangerously tied to these things; and (3) I think parents are negligent in serving alcohol to underaged teens and it is in everyone's best interest for parents to stay out of jail. We are entitled to disagree on any of these points.

+1000!

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Anonymous wrote:Have any of your kids gone to an unofficial/social media publicized anti-prom? This is the night before prom at a pricy venue-invites are on social media and “everyone” knows the kid whose family is throwing it. My questions are-is this a thing? And, if so, wtf?

If you know where it is and when it is, call the non-emergency police number and let them know that you are aware of this large under-age event going on and that there will likely be under-aged drinking, etc going on. The up-front police presence will go a long way to keeping things from getting out of control.

Wow. I would subpoenae that call if you shut my party down and publish your name on the school chat app. Karen did it!

It's a fairly trivial matter to do this anonymously, if they were so inclined, so have fun with that wild goose chase!

No, I’m secretly a teenager. Trust me, most normal people think this way.

Anonymous wrote:OMG. Schools know. They ignore it until and unless one of the busybodies reports it (ew) and/or it’s really dangerous (it’s not). Get over yourselves.

There is no way you are the parent of a teenager.

OMG. Schools know. They ignore it until and unless one of the busybodies reports it (ew) and/or it’s really dangerous (it’s not). Get over yourselves.

Anonymous wrote:wish someone would list the school

OP if you do so, the school might find out and try to end it if this is your desire.... I know our school would try to do so - but our school is very much a contender on parents who would do this sort of thing!

Assuming this event is real (and I’m no so sure that it is), surely the school is bound to find out about it. With 200 kids going, most whom will be from the school, add the parents, younger siblings and younger friends of the participants who also attend the school and there will be 400 to 500 people affiliated with the school who will know about the party. Someone is going to tell the school about it, even if it’s just in passing.

Anonymous wrote:I hope people deciding about private school right now are seeing this thread.

Me too.

- A Big 3 parent that said yes

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Anonymous wrote:It’s not a regular party-it’s a huge, elaborate event with a couple hundred teens attending with no real knowledge of who is paying for or hosting it and no indication if there will be any type of monitoring for drinking and drugs/driving safety afterwards the way there is a at a school sponsored prom. If a group of teens wants to plan something, fine, but this is not that.

Reminds me of how agitators planned "protests," and then we found out Russians in troll farms were planting the Facebook events. My point is this--Anyone could be planning this. Traffickers, a parent, a kid. We don't know.

Nope. My kid would not want to go that hot mess.

Lol, I love parents like this. Kids want to go to parties if they like the other kids going or think it will be fun. They don’t care who the actual hosts are or about any of the other things parents think are important.

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That’s the point though-kids can come up with fun and parties on their own. Adults doing it like this at this scale seems like cringey social engineering and bad taste.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s not a regular party-it’s a huge, elaborate event with a couple hundred teens attending with no real knowledge of who is paying for or hosting it and no indication if there will be any type of monitoring for drinking and drugs/driving safety afterwards the way there is a at a school sponsored prom. If a group of teens wants to plan something, fine, but this is not that.

Reminds me of how agitators planned "protests," and then we found out Russians in troll farms were planting the Facebook events. My point is this--Anyone could be planning this. Traffickers, a parent, a kid. We don't know.

Nope. My kid would not want to go that hot mess.

Lol, I love parents like this. Kids want to go to parties if they like the other kids going or think it will be fun. They don’t care who the actual hosts are or about any of the other things parents think are important.

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I hope people deciding about private school right now are seeing this thread.

Be sure first you’re prepared for the social Siberia after you did it. Also run by the Russian troll farms. You’re really between a rock and a hard place here