Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I was this employee. I was doing multiple rounds of IVF and having repeat miscarriages. I had no control over the timing of procedures and I was terrified to travel because the first miscarriage happened on a work trip and I was so scared it would happen again.
I was the only woman on an all-male team and people assumed I had no plans to have children. It was the kind of office environment where sharing I was trying to get pregnant could have cost me promotions - something I didn’t want to risk if I might never have a successful pregnancy. And as you might imagine, I didn’t want an accommodation for this reason either.
I flew under the radar as long as I could, finally had a baby and then left because yes as expected it impacted my promotion opportunities.
Just to give you some insight into an employee side of things…
I’m not sure why any of this matters. You were entitled to your privacy. Your employer was entitled to an employee fulfilling the job requirements. If your job required travel, you failed to perform. Of course you didn’t receive promotions. Did you really expect them?
+1 you should’ve spoken to HR or your boss or suffer the consequences.
Stinks. I did multiple ivf rounds as a single person, recognized it would affect my work hours and had to tell my boss.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If people don't mind picking up the travel for her, I would leave it. Obviously she's going through a health issue and doesn't want to discuss it. If HR wants to meet with her, that's on them.
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If other people on the team are getting upset that they have to travel more, I think you need to have a frank conversation with her.
+1 She could be experiencing health matters that should only be discussed with HR, be in an abusive situation at home, or suffering crippling panic attacks related to travel/site visits (which of course cannot be scheduled in advance). If others on your team love to travel and have no issue with picking these assignments up, is it a big deal impacting your team? Should the JD and responsibilities be amended and updated?
It's an essential job duty. We can't rewrite her job description without it going through the union and she has to apply to other jobs. We don't have non-competitive job postings. Yes, we don't mind doing it, but people are starting to get a bit burnt out doing their job on top of hers. It's not that simple. People don't mind helping, but for the last six months, it is always something. I don't think it is a health issue. This employee shares openly with the team at our meetings what is going on. She has an ongoing medical procedure that she has managed, but this is something different and unrelated. She has shared in vague terms. I do not want to press as it is really none of my business other than how it is impacting the work.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:She may be afraid to fly.
Ha! She flies at least 2x a month to visit her family in another state. She loves to travel and goes on at least four international trips a year. She was really risk adverse about COVID, so I thought it could be related to that?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Do you have a decent HR dept? I'd check with them.
Next question: are these presentations and site visits an essential part of the job? If so, she is not meeting performance standards.
Yes, they are part of her position description and essential parts of her job. Training is one of her primary job responsibilities.
In that case, I’m sorry OP, you need to fire her. She is unable to perform her job.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Do you have a decent HR dept? I'd check with them.
Next question: are these presentations and site visits an essential part of the job? If so, she is not meeting performance standards.
Yes, they are part of her position description and essential parts of her job. Training is one of her primary job responsibilities.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My HR wants me to send her a memo about leave restriction for unscheduled leave. I think that is a little excessive. She has no performance issues and I see this as a conduct thing. However, she is placing me in a bad position as another team member has to present and many times, I have presented for her. Most people on my team enjoy traveling, so that is not as big a deal. What would you do?
I don't know how you could possibly think this isn't a performance issue. She's not doing her job, and others are forced to pock up the slack, including her supervisor. That's the definition of a performance issue. And if it's legit, there's no reason to not seek an accommodation - that's the whole point of an accommodation.
You should involve HR.
It seems hard to imagine someone saying an absence was “life or death” without it being a significant thing unless the employee is really wacky in which case you’d probably know that already. If she’s otherwise a levelheaded seeming person it dies sound like there’s something significant going on / the person mentioning IVF might be on to something.
Is she absent other times that don’t correspond with needing to present or travel? If not…that’s a little weird it it’s more than 2-3 times and only on those occasions. If she’s just been out a lot in general, could you limit her role on some of these things for a while - especially travel, since it sounds like others would be happy to do it, but it’s hard to sub someone in at the last moment.
OP here. I hate to comment on someone's mental health, but this employee can be a bit dramatic. Once she was upset that we were asked to provide pictures for Zoom conference. Yet she is very active on social media. She often balks about providing her bio for conferences and speaking sessions, yet she is constantly bragging about her past experiences in the private sector and high profile boss on the Hill.
Anonymous wrote:If she doesn't have an ADA accommodation and won't give you an explanation, you're going to have to do a PIP. What else is there?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Is travel part of the position description? Or are you trying to send people off to stupid conferences to make yourself look important? In the zoom era, most travel isn’t necessary, and of it’s not part of the PD, you shouldn’t be trying to make her do it. Most agency HQ jobs don’t actually require travel - it’s a choice by the management level. You will lose what sounds like a smart employee this way.
We work with a lot of communities that don't have high speed internet (rural, indigenous). It's also culturally inappropriate with some of the commuities we work with to meet by Zoom unless needed. We try to minimize costs by using technolgy but honestly we have people who do not have access to high speed internet or other connectivity issues. In some of the cultures we work with, it is really important to meet face-to-face and visit the community. I hope that makes sense?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I was this employee. I was doing multiple rounds of IVF and having repeat miscarriages. I had no control over the timing of procedures and I was terrified to travel because the first miscarriage happened on a work trip and I was so scared it would happen again.
I was the only woman on an all-male team and people assumed I had no plans to have children. It was the kind of office environment where sharing I was trying to get pregnant could have cost me promotions - something I didn’t want to risk if I might never have a successful pregnancy. And as you might imagine, I didn’t want an accommodation for this reason either.
I flew under the radar as long as I could, finally had a baby and then left because yes as expected it impacted my promotion opportunities.
Just to give you some insight into an employee side of things…
I’m not sure why any of this matters. You were entitled to your privacy. Your employer was entitled to an employee fulfilling the job requirements. If your job required travel, you failed to perform. Of course you didn’t receive promotions. Did you really expect them?
I had to do the same - had some issues with IVF and miscarriages - but I told my boss and it was fine (after he asked me to travel with 24 hours notice and I could not. I explained. We worked it out where I covered his presentation for that day, and he went on the trip). But italso didnt happen EVERY SINGLE TIME I had to travel or present. It happened a few times (like three) so that is why this is suspicious. The employee could say - I can't travel right now - but there is no excuse for missing every single zoom presentation.
+1 you should’ve spoken to HR or your boss or suffer the consequences.
Stinks. I did multiple ivf rounds as a single person, recognized it would affect my work hours and had to tell my boss.
+2