Anonymous
03/12/2023 23:36
Subject: Re:Install fitness in children when not fit yourselves
I didn't make my kids do sports (not interested, neither kid has ever even watched a sporting event) or model the best behavior when it came to fitness. Nothing terrible happened.
They did swim lessons (no teams), some martial arts, longboarding around the neighborhood, etc. Its not as if we had an anti-fitness attitude. They were never overweight.
They both like snowboarding, hiking and climbing and found it much easier to do those things in college and beyond. If you raise a sensible person they will figure out how to stay fit even if they never kicked a soccer ball.
They did swim lessons (no teams), some martial arts, longboarding around the neighborhood, etc. Its not as if we had an anti-fitness attitude. They were never overweight.
They both like snowboarding, hiking and climbing and found it much easier to do those things in college and beyond. If you raise a sensible person they will figure out how to stay fit even if they never kicked a soccer ball.
Anonymous
03/12/2023 20:40
Subject: Install fitness in children when not fit yourselves
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You are late, but encourage a no cut sport with year round practicing. Swim team clubs and tennis are good sports that don’t really have a beginning or end season and are life long sports. If they won’t do that they need to pick a school sport every season they can’t be cut from. Cross country, track?
My spouse hates sports, so making my DD do a sport she doesn’t like isn’t going to go well. We need at home inspiration
Well that really makes no sense given your stated limitations.
+1.
My children do not have a choice. They must do year round sports. I grew up the same way. You don't get to sit in your arse doing nothing.
When you work 8 hours a day, you can choose to be lazy, but as long as you are under my roof, you will participate in sports year round.
My DH and I are sedentary and overweight, but we were not at our kids ages.
So the way you were raised didn’t turn out that well but you’re hell-bent on re-enacting it?
This is how most parents parent.
That doesn't make it a good idea. We have one generation of proof already that it doesn't work; why keep doing it?
So practice what you preach. Jesus. Get up and move. Tell your kids, lose weight, show them it works and that you both have pride in yourselves and want to be around as they age.
Anonymous
03/12/2023 19:30
Subject: Install fitness in children when not fit yourselves
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You are late, but encourage a no cut sport with year round practicing. Swim team clubs and tennis are good sports that don’t really have a beginning or end season and are life long sports. If they won’t do that they need to pick a school sport every season they can’t be cut from. Cross country, track?
My spouse hates sports, so making my DD do a sport she doesn’t like isn’t going to go well. We need at home inspiration
Well that really makes no sense given your stated limitations.
+1.
My children do not have a choice. They must do year round sports. I grew up the same way. You don't get to sit in your arse doing nothing.
When you work 8 hours a day, you can choose to be lazy, but as long as you are under my roof, you will participate in sports year round.
My DH and I are sedentary and overweight, but we were not at our kids ages.
So the way you were raised didn’t turn out that well but you’re hell-bent on re-enacting it?
This is how most parents parent.
That doesn't make it a good idea. We have one generation of proof already that it doesn't work; why keep doing it?
Anonymous
03/12/2023 17:32
Subject: Install fitness in children when not fit yourselves
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You are late, but encourage a no cut sport with year round practicing. Swim team clubs and tennis are good sports that don’t really have a beginning or end season and are life long sports. If they won’t do that they need to pick a school sport every season they can’t be cut from. Cross country, track?
My spouse hates sports, so making my DD do a sport she doesn’t like isn’t going to go well. We need at home inspiration
Well that really makes no sense given your stated limitations.
+1.
My children do not have a choice. They must do year round sports. I grew up the same way. You don't get to sit in your arse doing nothing.
When you work 8 hours a day, you can choose to be lazy, but as long as you are under my roof, you will participate in sports year round.
My DH and I are sedentary and overweight, but we were not at our kids ages.
So the way you were raised didn’t turn out that well but you’re hell-bent on re-enacting it?
This is how most parents parent.
OP -- if you really want your kid to do something, you need to talk to her about why it's important. Make it a requirement, but have her figure out what she wants to do, and how to make it happen. Let her know the paramenters though -- if she chooses karate and your school doesn't offer it, can you hire someone to drive her there, or can she get there by herself?
When people talk about modeling, it's just the idea that if you want her to exercise because you want good health, than you have to show her that you practice what you preach. But you don't need to do it with her, or do it at the same time.
Anonymous
03/12/2023 17:04
Subject: Install fitness in children when not fit yourselves
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You are late, but encourage a no cut sport with year round practicing. Swim team clubs and tennis are good sports that don’t really have a beginning or end season and are life long sports. If they won’t do that they need to pick a school sport every season they can’t be cut from. Cross country, track?
My spouse hates sports, so making my DD do a sport she doesn’t like isn’t going to go well. We need at home inspiration
Well that really makes no sense given your stated limitations.
+1.
My children do not have a choice. They must do year round sports. I grew up the same way. You don't get to sit in your arse doing nothing.
When you work 8 hours a day, you can choose to be lazy, but as long as you are under my roof, you will participate in sports year round.
My DH and I are sedentary and overweight, but we were not at our kids ages.
So the way you were raised didn’t turn out that well but you’re hell-bent on re-enacting it?
Anonymous
03/11/2023 19:25
Subject: Install fitness in children when not fit yourselves
Everyone is saying just add sports like it’seasy to add another practice to an already hectic afternoon especially when the kid doesn’t want to do sports. OP, I would put on YouTube dance or yoga or hiit or barre classes while you’re cooking dinner. Move around yourself as you’re cooking and insist the kids do it too. They don’t have to be good at whatever it is, just moving. Solitary sports are sometimes good for kids like your daughter — has she tried things like martial arts, dance, etc? When I was growing up, I took once a week dance classes but was expected to practice every day just like for music lessons so a weekend dance class could also be an option, or a once a week rec sport with drills/conditioning she can do at home.
Anonymous
03/11/2023 18:56
Subject: Install fitness in children when not fit yourselves
My mother made sure I was always involved in a sport of some type.
Anonymous
03/10/2023 11:21
Subject: Install fitness in children when not fit yourselves
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You are late, but encourage a no cut sport with year round practicing. Swim team clubs and tennis are good sports that don’t really have a beginning or end season and are life long sports. If they won’t do that they need to pick a school sport every season they can’t be cut from. Cross country, track?
My spouse hates sports, so making my DD do a sport she doesn’t like isn’t going to go well. We need at home inspiration
I'm sure our kids know that, which doesn't help you to get them to do something. It's very difficult to motivate when someone says they "hate" something.
Anonymous
03/07/2023 06:15
Subject: Install fitness in children when not fit yourselves
Instill
Anonymous
03/06/2023 16:49
Subject: Install fitness in children when not fit yourselves
Walk with heavy dumbbells in the evening immediately after dinner. 20 lbs each hand for 10-15 minutes. You will be done after 15 minutes. If can't hold the dumbbells then give to the teen and switch back and forth. Walking 45 min is time consuming and boring; only good if lots of free time. If the OP comes back and makes some excuse, then we now know OP why OP is such as lard.
Anonymous
03/02/2023 16:01
Subject: Install fitness in children when not fit yourselves
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Sure you can say model behavior, and we’ll try but as working parents if 3 kids without local family we spend a LOT of time cooking, cleaning, and transporting for kids on top of long demanding jobs with commutes.
DD is naturally sedative, low key likes to just stay in room and read, but we want to make sure is active every day. She used to have after school sport but now upper grade she was cut from team and there are no other sports she’s interested in. A rec sport might be fun, but that’s once a week for practice and game.
I would love to just get her out walking after school for 45 min, biking, shooting hoops in our yard — but we have no neighborhood friends so this is something she would do solo and on her own initiative as we are busy working.
Since sport has ended, every afternoon she is just hanging out in her room doing homework and talking to friends etc.
How do we encourage her? Get a gym membership and encourage her to go? Kick her out of the house? Take off time from work and toss baseball around?
We worry too about triggering eating disorder too, but we are not a fit family to begin with but want better for our kids. My family has rich history of BED.
You said you have three children. Why are you only focused on your daughter? Is it because she is the eldest?
All DDs. Middle school is on 3 rec teams and elementary goes playgroud daily for recess AND 2 weekend rec leagues. Oldest has nothing active now.
We do walk on weekends, hikes or play tennis as family (badly, we are all very bad).
Sure I could go to gym at 5am but kids would never know because they are sleeping!
So is it just the oldest who is sedentary? It sounds like the others play multiple sports.
Anonymous
03/02/2023 11:55
Subject: Install fitness in children when not fit yourselves
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You are late, but encourage a no cut sport with year round practicing. Swim team clubs and tennis are good sports that don’t really have a beginning or end season and are life long sports. If they won’t do that they need to pick a school sport every season they can’t be cut from. Cross country, track?
My spouse hates sports, so making my DD do a sport she doesn’t like isn’t going to go well. We need at home inspiration
Well that really makes no sense given your stated limitations.
+1.
My children do not have a choice. They must do year round sports. I grew up the same way. You don't get to sit in your arse doing nothing.
When you work 8 hours a day, you can choose to be lazy, but as long as you are under my roof, you will participate in sports year round.
My DH and I are sedentary and overweight, but we were not at our kids ages.
Obesity will come for all of our kids, sooner or later. Very few will remain heathy weight adults
Anonymous
03/02/2023 09:46
Subject: Install fitness in children when not fit yourselves
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You are late, but encourage a no cut sport with year round practicing. Swim team clubs and tennis are good sports that don’t really have a beginning or end season and are life long sports. If they won’t do that they need to pick a school sport every season they can’t be cut from. Cross country, track?
My spouse hates sports, so making my DD do a sport she doesn’t like isn’t going to go well. We need at home inspiration
Well that really makes no sense given your stated limitations.
+1.
My children do not have a choice. They must do year round sports. I grew up the same way. You don't get to sit in your arse doing nothing.
When you work 8 hours a day, you can choose to be lazy, but as long as you are under my roof, you will participate in sports year round.
My DH and I are sedentary and overweight, but we were not at our kids ages.