Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Red blooded male here with a girlfriend. I can’t help but notice sexy women in tight, revealing clothing. Most men are like me. If you’re a sexy woman and you wear sexy clothing, you will get sexual attention. So I don’t like my GF wearing it out when I’m not with her, and she doesn’t want a bunch of horndog men leering at her. So I’m with OP here. She is out trying to attract the attention of horndog men. And certainly succeeding because we are everywhere. Of course he doesn’t like it.

This exactly. -Secure woman

Eh, sometimes I want horndog men to leer at my body. Not the ones I work with though.

Or the ones you date either apparently...

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Red blooded male here with a girlfriend. I can’t help but notice sexy women in tight, revealing clothing. Most men are like me. If you’re a sexy woman and you wear sexy clothing, you will get sexual attention. So I don’t like my GF wearing it out when I’m not with her, and she doesn’t want a bunch of horndog men leering at her. So I’m with OP here. She is out trying to attract the attention of horndog men. And certainly succeeding because we are everywhere. Of course he doesn’t like it.

This exactly. -Secure woman

Eh, sometimes I want horndog men to leer at my body. Not the ones I work with though.

Either way it’s wrong
OP be careful and try to distance yourself
As someone said above not wifey material

Anonymous wrote:Red blooded male here with a girlfriend. I can’t help but notice sexy women in tight, revealing clothing. Most men are like me. If you’re a sexy woman and you wear sexy clothing, you will get sexual attention. So I don’t like my GF wearing it out when I’m not with her, and she doesn’t want a bunch of horndog men leering at her. So I’m with OP here. She is out trying to attract the attention of horndog men. And certainly succeeding because we are everywhere. Of course he doesn’t like it.

This exactly. -Secure woman

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Woman here -
Whether or not she had a blazer in the office, her defensive attack to call OP "insecure" sounds like a person who has no ability to self-reflect.
Also, there are plenty of women who confuse being fashionable with being sexy. Especially people who are not accustomed to dressing for occasions or did not grow up in western culture.

It's not her outfit that should bother OP, but her willful blinders.

This post calls to mind when Skyler White of Breaking Bad wore a plunging neckline curves hugging dress to throw off the IRS auditor into thinking that she was a clueless bimbo and hence the cause of her bad bookkeeping and company's tax problems.

Or someone who knows OP well.

If she knows that he's insecure, why is she dating him?
Both of them have issues and shouldn't be with each other if they are willing to attack each other in this manner.

I mean I too wonder why she’s dating a guy who thinks he should get a say in her work attire and then posts about it using alibaba photos online.

Red blooded male here with a girlfriend. I can’t help but notice sexy women in tight, revealing clothing. Most men are like me. If you’re a sexy woman and you wear sexy clothing, you will get sexual attention. So I don’t like my GF wearing it out when I’m not with her, and she doesn’t want a bunch of horndog men leering at her. So I’m with OP here. She is out trying to attract the attention of horndog men. And certainly succeeding because we are everywhere. Of course he doesn’t like it.

Anonymous wrote:Lol yeah that would be red flag in my book (female attorney here). Good luck OP.

Agreed.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Woman here -
Whether or not she had a blazer in the office, her defensive attack to call OP "insecure" sounds like a person who has no ability to self-reflect.
Also, there are plenty of women who confuse being fashionable with being sexy. Especially people who are not accustomed to dressing for occasions or did not grow up in western culture.

It's not her outfit that should bother OP, but her willful blinders.

This post calls to mind when Skyler White of Breaking Bad wore a plunging neckline curves hugging dress to throw off the IRS auditor into thinking that she was a clueless bimbo and hence the cause of her bad bookkeeping and company's tax problems.

Or someone who knows OP well.

If she knows that he's insecure, why is she dating him?
Both of them have issues and shouldn't be with each other if they are willing to attack each other in this manner.

Anonymous wrote:Woman here -
Whether or not she had a blazer in the office, her defensive attack to call OP "insecure" sounds like a person who has no ability to self-reflect.
Also, there are plenty of women who confuse being fashionable with being sexy. Especially people who are not accustomed to dressing for occasions or did not grow up in western culture.

It's not her outfit that should bother OP, but her willful blinders.

This post calls to mind when Skyler White of Breaking Bad wore a plunging neckline curves hugging dress to throw off the IRS auditor into thinking that she was a clueless bimbo and hence the cause of her bad bookkeeping and company's tax problems.

Or someone who knows OP well.

Woman here -
Whether or not she had a blazer in the office, her defensive attack to call OP "insecure" sounds like a person who has no ability to self-reflect.
Also, there are plenty of women who confuse being fashionable with being sexy. Especially people who are not accustomed to dressing for occasions or did not grow up in western culture.

It's not her outfit that should bother OP, but her willful blinders.

This post calls to mind when Skyler White of Breaking Bad wore a plunging neckline curves hugging dress to throw off the IRS auditor into thinking that she was a clueless bimbo and hence the cause of her bad bookkeeping and company's tax problems.

Did she wear a jacket over it? If so, was probably fine for work.

I bet she had a blazer that she put on at the office. The dress is fine with a blazer. Trust your gf to know how to dress herself.

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Anonymous wrote:Some women confuse "professional" with being "sexy." Unfortunately, this is a red flag; I don't think this is insecurity, this is about respecting and honoring your relationship. My wife has a beautiful body, and dresses in a way that is attractive and professional, but not lusty - there are times and places for that.

This is similar to the gym women who wear wedgie tights because they are "comfortable." Meanwhile, hookers and strippers are wearing similar clothing to "drum up" business.

Tell her she can wear what she wants; just respect your relationship together. Btw, that's a two-way street...

I think you have a pretty unhealthy obsession with other people’s leggings.

I think you have a pretty unhealthy obsession with completely-missing-the-point...

Anonymous wrote:Your girlfriend told you you were being insecure. Were you? Did you phrase your objections as concerns for the relative professionalism of the dress (I.e her best interests) or did you frame it as you not wanting other men to look at her (I.e. your best interests.)

A long sleeved sheath dress wore with cardigan is perfectly appropriate for work. If she’s happy with her outfit, why would you know more about workplace norms at her office than she does?

NP here. To the PP above - please STFU; not everyone has to parse their words in the moment. If the Ali Baba dress she was wearing is was of the norm, most significant others would comment. Not every conversation is a carefully parsed email. Good grief!

Lol yeah that would be red flag in my book (female attorney here). Good luck OP.