Anonymous
03/10/2023 11:39
Subject: Girlfriend family history
Is there no disease in your family history? Are you immune to non-hereditary diseases? Would you recommend to your DIP to ditch your son if he gets any disease or disability? You are aging, should your husband ditch you for a younger and healthier woman? Are you all beautiful or may pass short height and big ear genes?
Anonymous
03/10/2023 11:33
Subject: Girlfriend family history
Even if you've good intentions, its not your place. Nor can you shield your kids, their spouses and their children from every disease, accident, disaster etc. Don't try to play God. Let other humans make their own decisions. Just being there to offer unconditional love and support is what you CAN do.
Anonymous
03/09/2023 21:47
Subject: Girlfriend family history
Anonymous wrote:Our son is junior in college and has a girlfriend since grade 12. He is getting serious about her. They were together in HS and go to different colleges and meetup during breaks and summer. Long distance relationship seems to be working for them. Please don’t bash me. Girlfriends mom passed away from breast cancer when she was in grade 11 and mom was 48 yrs old when passed away, so does one of her mom’s aunt (45-48yrs) passed away from same few years ago.
I am not sure what to say one part of me says I should tell him that her GF should get genetic testing and other thought says leave it alone. How would you handle it?
I agree she should. But it's really not your business to say so UNLESS you are talking about it already. For example, I have discussed medical issues with friends or family members. And when I had a breast cancer issue a few years ago, and other friends have as well, we talked about it openly. But I wouldn't just bring it up or suggest it out of context in some attempt to help. . . . I'm sure she's had these talks with her OBGYN. That is a common set of questions.
Anonymous
03/08/2023 14:20
Subject: Girlfriend family history
I see your concern but it really isn't your direct problem. Health problems will come up throughout their entire life and yours. Will you prevent all of them?
It also doesn't hurt to mention it to them and that's it. Nothing you can do to make her do the test. If there is a cost concern, what are you going to do? Pay for that too?
It also doesn't hurt to mention it to them and that's it. Nothing you can do to make her do the test. If there is a cost concern, what are you going to do? Pay for that too?
Anonymous
03/06/2023 11:05
Subject: Girlfriend family history
Anonymous wrote:OP, I understand where you’re coming from. I would wait a little longer until she’s actually your DIL. At that time, can also bring up potential IVF as an option if she does carry the BRCA gene too so it is not passed on to their kids.
Wow. Completely overstepping all boundaries. I cannot imagine my m-i-l having these intrusive conversations with me.
Anonymous
03/05/2023 11:13
Subject: Girlfriend family history
Genetic testing is a good idea , we really should be doing it more it should be in dating profiles to help steer clear of those that should be naturally selected out