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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:


I knew you couldn’t help yourself! You got an apology and a refund. What more do you want and how is the dcum a place to get it?
#perplexed #amused #boredbythislittleclique

Strange response. New poster to this thread, as I said. There is nothing wrong with wanting the school to be better administratively and to discussing issues on a public forum. That does not mean I have not also discussed my views with leaders at the school directly. I am also a major donor to the school and am not a member of any little clique. Sorry that I don’t fit into your narrative. There are many others like me as well.

Stop donating if you are that unhappy. Find a school that works better for you.

It is so strange that you think it works like this. Either "find a new school" or shut up and be happy? Stop donating why? I like the school and I also encourage them to do and be better. Which they know and admit that they can.

You must lead a very sad, mouse-like existence. Sorry for you.

I lead a very happy and content existence. Trying to make someone who disagrees with you look sad has just the opposite effect. I know this js how it works. Throwing a tantrum under the guise of "encouraging them to do better" is very transparent.

Who is throwing a tantrum? Not me, I promise you.

Tell me, where in the community do you fit in? How supportive of the school are you financially? What are you doing to support the campaign?

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Anonymous wrote:That may be your individual experience. It’s not universal by any means. The attraction of an anonymous board is that I don’t know if I’m conflating more people into one, and I don’t care to find out, but I find it very hard to believe that there a multiple people with a nearly identical type of animus and odd expression style. My opinion is that this is not an issue and dcum is not the place.

I can assure you that my experience isn't an individual one. I also don't doubt that you (and others) have a different one. I have not aired some huge specific incident on DCUM, merely concurring two pretty broad brush characteristics.

Agreed. There are multiple people commenting on this thread about the school’s deficient leadership and communications. Some might have an “angry” tone, and others do not. Conflating them into one person is a form of delusion. By the time parents get to US, a large number of them see and acknowledge that the school is poorly run and is not all that it is cracked up to be. Many administrators also admit that the school could do much better.

Anonymous wrote:That may be your individual experience. It’s not universal by any means. The attraction of an anonymous board is that I don’t know if I’m conflating more people into one, and I don’t care to find out, but I find it very hard to believe that there a multiple people with a nearly identical type of animus and odd expression style. My opinion is that this is not an issue and dcum is not the place.

I can assure you that my experience isn't an individual one. I also don't doubt that you (and others) have a different one. I have not aired some huge specific incident on DCUM, merely concurring two pretty broad brush characteristics.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s just one OP. From thread to thread. It’s always some vague lack of respect, poor communication and beef with the HoS.

How often has this person spoken up in any of our many many many meetings? Zero.

It’s all completely in her head, in my opinion.

You are mixing multiple people into one.

I am not the OP and don't have the OP's grief. I merely agreed that beyond OPs vitriol, that there is truth to the communications lapses and the disrespect (and I'll add disregard) of parents.

Our experience is only to the HS and this is not directed at HOS. It's great if you don't experience either of those issues or are enough "in the know" to not be affected by them. Most families I know who joined in HS experience these and grow to accept it's just the way it is.

It is possible to concur with these issues without the OPs anger or outbursts (or without the flat out denials of the other PP's who feel the need to shame others)

And as other PP suggested above - we absolutely follow this. " If I need more, I ask politely, I get it, and then don’t run to paste it all over the internet. See how that works? You should try it." We continue to do so and carry on. But it doesn't mean the underlying issues don't exist in the first place. Moving on.

I’m the PP who said the bolded. And I would put my money on the OP across the threads being the same person or just a very small group that’s perma-aggrieved. Other than when the kids are messing about at the um’s wine o’clock. A few questions for you to answer if I’m wrong:

What exactly is your problem with the communications? You never said and you keep schtum in all the meetings.

What exactly is your animus towards the HoS? Same as above.

What exactly would you do/want done differently? You never said.

Why do you run to dcum? I’m guessing a dopamine hit from tettletelling but would love to hear from you.

When will you stop? Is there a satisfaction point? I’m guessing not.

Why are you still “flipping the table” on this non-issue? How has it not been resolved? I didn’t even realize it was an issue and still don’t think it is with a more than satisfactory response from the admin you got. You’ll pay tuition one way or another and if you don’t realize how privileged you are that’s a shame.

The reality is that I can’t digest 50% of the communications we do receive every week because I have a busy and full life. If communications have been/get blander, we have you to thank in part, no?

That may be your individual experience. It’s not universal by any means. The attraction of an anonymous board is that I don’t know if I’m conflating more people into one, and I don’t care to find out, but I find it very hard to believe that there a multiple people with a nearly identical type of animus and odd expression style. My opinion is that this is not an issue and dcum is not the place.

Anonymous wrote:It’s just one OP. From thread to thread. It’s always some vague lack of respect, poor communication and beef with the HoS.

How often has this person spoken up in any of our many many many meetings? Zero.

It’s all completely in her head, in my opinion.

You are mixing multiple people into one.

I am not the OP and don't have the OP's grief. I merely agreed that beyond OPs vitriol, that there is truth to the communications lapses and the disrespect (and I'll add disregard) of parents.

Our experience is only to the HS and this is not directed at HOS. It's great if you don't experience either of those issues or are enough "in the know" to not be affected by them. Most families I know who joined in HS experience these and grow to accept it's just the way it is.

It is possible to concur with these issues without the OPs anger or outbursts (or without the flat out denials of the other PP's who feel the need to shame others)

And as other PP suggested above - we absolutely follow this. " If I need more, I ask politely, I get it, and then don’t run to paste it all over the internet. See how that works? You should try it." We continue to do so and carry on. But it doesn't mean the underlying issues don't exist in the first place. Moving on.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:


I knew you couldn’t help yourself! You got an apology and a refund. What more do you want and how is the dcum a place to get it?
#perplexed #amused #boredbythislittleclique

Strange response. New poster to this thread, as I said. There is nothing wrong with wanting the school to be better administratively and to discussing issues on a public forum. That does not mean I have not also discussed my views with leaders at the school directly. I am also a major donor to the school and am not a member of any little clique. Sorry that I don’t fit into your narrative. There are many others like me as well.

Stop donating if you are that unhappy. Find a school that works better for you.

It is so strange that you think it works like this. Either "find a new school" or shut up and be happy? Stop donating why? I like the school and I also encourage them to do and be better. Which they know and admit that they can.

You must lead a very sad, mouse-like existence. Sorry for you.

Yes, it exactly works this way because you insist on being treated as a customer. If instead you think the school is a community, complaining and spreading misinformation about a very unimportant thing is the wrong way to strengthen that community. Instead it only sows mistrust and demonstrates that you are not interested in supporting the community values.

If this was a legitimate issue that concerned you, you could have communicated directed with the admissions director and I am sure that the issue would have been resolved expediently.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:


I knew you couldn’t help yourself! You got an apology and a refund. What more do you want and how is the dcum a place to get it?
#perplexed #amused #boredbythislittleclique

Strange response. New poster to this thread, as I said. There is nothing wrong with wanting the school to be better administratively and to discussing issues on a public forum. That does not mean I have not also discussed my views with leaders at the school directly. I am also a major donor to the school and am not a member of any little clique. Sorry that I don’t fit into your narrative. There are many others like me as well.

Stop donating if you are that unhappy. Find a school that works better for you.

It is so strange that you think it works like this. Either "find a new school" or shut up and be happy? Stop donating why? I like the school and I also encourage them to do and be better. Which they know and admit that they can.


You must lead a very sad, mouse-like existence. Sorry for you.

Oh, why so harsh? Did you get no respect again? 🫤

It’s just one OP. From thread to thread. It’s always some vague lack of respect, poor communication and beef with the HoS.

How often has this person spoken up in any of our many many many meetings? Zero.

It’s all completely in her head, in my opinion.

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Anonymous wrote:Roll my eyes for the millionth time. You’re either a troll or a massive malcontent or a Sidwell obsessive. There’s no issue at all. Communications are great and would be better if y’all didn’t feel the need to doggy style digest then and then puke them up in your own interpretation, and then lick your own sick back up for 15 pages at a time every 2 weeks or so.

Sick puppies!

I'm not one of the very upset parents above but I suspect you have not been at another school to experience/compare quality communications and true respect of families.

I’ve no idea what you’re talking about. Indeed we also had a child at another top school.
Never was not felt “disrespected”, or like the communication was lacking. If I need more, I ask politely, I get it, and then don’t run to paste it all over the internet. See how that works? You should try it.

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Anonymous wrote:There’s in fact no issue thought, right?

If you’re a new family, no precedent. If you’re an old family, you are free to ask for a refund.

You fit into my little narrative perfectly. Central casting.

Wait, did everyone get the apology letter and offer for a refund? We’re a family that paid the original ask for both kids and did not get any such letter. Who sent the letter? When?

Presumably you’d first have to be bothered and contact the admin, no? We weren’t bothered and didn’t make a fuss, accordingly.

To the PP who demands respect, typically if you have to ask for it there might be a reason you’re not getting it, and it’s not the admin who are unfailingly polite.

Anonymous wrote:There’s in fact no issue thought, right?

If you’re a new family, no precedent. If you’re an old family, you are free to ask for a refund.

You fit into my little narrative perfectly. Central casting.

Wait, did everyone get the apology letter and offer for a refund? We’re a family that paid the original ask for both kids and did not get any such letter. Who sent the letter? When?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:


I knew you couldn’t help yourself! You got an apology and a refund. What more do you want and how is the dcum a place to get it?
#perplexed #amused #boredbythislittleclique

Strange response. New poster to this thread, as I said. There is nothing wrong with wanting the school to be better administratively and to discussing issues on a public forum. That does not mean I have not also discussed my views with leaders at the school directly. I am also a major donor to the school and am not a member of any little clique. Sorry that I don’t fit into your narrative. There are many others like me as well.

Stop donating if you are that unhappy. Find a school that works better for you.

It is so strange that you think it works like this. Either "find a new school" or shut up and be happy? Stop donating why? I like the school and I also encourage them to do and be better. Which they know and admit that they can.

You must lead a very sad, mouse-like existence. Sorry for you.

I lead a very happy and content existence. Trying to make someone who disagrees with you look sad has just the opposite effect. I know this js how it works. Throwing a tantrum under the guise of "encouraging them to do better" is very transparent.

Anonymous wrote:Roll my eyes for the millionth time. You’re either a troll or a massive malcontent or a Sidwell obsessive. There’s no issue at all. Communications are great and would be better if y’all didn’t feel the need to doggy style digest then and then puke them up in your own interpretation, and then lick your own sick back up for 15 pages at a time every 2 weeks or so.

Sick puppies!

I'm not one of the very upset parents above but I suspect you have not been at another school to experience/compare quality communications and true respect of families.