Anonymous
02/13/2023 11:00
Subject: How common is it for college seniors to live with their SO?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If SO is a freeloader or if your kid drops out of college then your argument of not on my dime makes sense but if everything is the same and instead of a rando, they are sharing it with someone they are dating, what's the real issue here for stopping to pay?
Because they are too young! We aren’t a Mormon tik tok family where people get married at 22. Have sex, fine. Live together, no.
At what age will you “allow” your child to live with an SO?
This was already covered - once they are no longer free loading off parents for tuition and board. Pay your own way if you want to be an adult playing house.
Anonymous
02/13/2023 10:46
Subject: How common is it for college seniors to live with their SO?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If both are sharing equally, what difference does it make to you?
I would never allow my DD to move in with her BF without being married. She can of course defy me and "be an adult". But, then better not have any expectations from me about any kind of monetary or physical help.
Who the hell marries someone without living with them first?
Everyone from cultures where 50% of marriages do not end in divorce.
Who wants to take advice from WASP Americans about marriage, family and raising kids?
You mean cultures where divorce is banned?
In no culture divorce is banned. If you were better educated you would know.
But in many cultures it stigmatized. Women have little to no rights (to finances and children). Hence why they are often expected to put up with domestic violence and/or infidelity.
Anonymous
02/13/2023 09:58
Subject: How common is it for college seniors to live with their SO?
Very complicated in the event of a break up.
I would frown up on this strongly.
I have no desire for my kid to settle down that young.
I would frown up on this strongly.
I have no desire for my kid to settle down that young.
Anonymous
02/12/2023 23:34
Subject: Re:How common is it for college seniors to live with their SO?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I would not allow this if I was paying for school and living expenses. If they want to play house, they need to be paying for it.
They can take your money and either let a partner live at their place or live at their place, all you get is peace of mind that you are controlling them with purse strings. If they are responsible and good for each other, why not? I guess better than drunk same sex friends. Also, how do you know if same sex roommate isn't their sexual partner. Unless they are living at your house, there is no way to monitor. We've seen people having all the sex they wanted during high school in their teens,controlling parents can be so naive.
This, exactly. My place was just a storage room for my stuff since I was at DH’s apartment most of the time. Parents were never the wiser. We’ve been married 30+ years.
Anonymous
02/12/2023 23:25
Subject: How common is it for college seniors to live with their SO?
Classes were mostly online so campus living was costly and had little advantage, more disadvantage.
Anonymous
02/12/2023 23:23
Subject: How common is it for college seniors to live with their SO?
I think this trend became more common during pandemic because many students didn't want to be near campus but not in dorms due to hygiene, exposure risk, restrictions etc. Many moved to off campus apartments with friends and SOs to have more control over costs, hygiene, exposure, study groups, food prep etc.
Anonymous
02/12/2023 21:27
Subject: Re:How common is it for college seniors to live with their SO?
Anonymous wrote:Depends on if “roommates” means sharing a bedroom.
That they can do without signing the lease.
Anonymous
02/12/2023 16:13
Subject: How common is it for college seniors to live with their SO?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If both are sharing equally, what difference does it make to you?
I would never allow my DD to move in with her BF without being married. She can of course defy me and "be an adult". But, then better not have any expectations from me about any kind of monetary or physical help.
Who the hell marries someone without living with them first?
Who wants to take advice from WASP Americans about marriage, family and raising kids?
You mean cultures where divorce is banned?
In no culture divorce is banned. If you were better educated you would know.
In the Philippines it is.
Anonymous
02/12/2023 16:13
Subject: How common is it for college seniors to live with their SO?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If SO is a freeloader or if your kid drops out of college then your argument of not on my dime makes sense but if everything is the same and instead of a rando, they are sharing it with someone they are dating, what's the real issue here for stopping to pay?
Because they are too young! We aren’t a Mormon tik tok family where people get married at 22. Have sex, fine. Live together, no.
At what age will you “allow” your child to live with an SO?
Anonymous
02/12/2023 14:36
Subject: How common is it for college seniors to live with their SO?
Anonymous wrote:If SO is a freeloader or if your kid drops out of college then your argument of not on my dime makes sense but if everything is the same and instead of a rando, they are sharing it with someone they are dating, what's the real issue here for stopping to pay?
Because they are too young! We aren’t a Mormon tik tok family where people get married at 22. Have sex, fine. Live together, no.
Anonymous
02/12/2023 13:54
Subject: How common is it for college seniors to live with their SO?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If both are sharing equally, what difference does it make to you?
I would never allow my DD to move in with her BF without being married. She can of course defy me and "be an adult". But, then better not have any expectations from me about any kind of monetary or physical help.
Who the hell marries someone without living with them first?
Who wants to take advice from WASP Americans about marriage, family and raising kids?
Racism not welcome in DCUM.
Anonymous
02/12/2023 13:48
Subject: How common is it for college seniors to live with their SO?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If both are sharing equally, what difference does it make to you?
I would never allow my DD to move in with her BF without being married. She can of course defy me and "be an adult". But, then better not have any expectations from me about any kind of monetary or physical help.
Who the hell marries someone without living with them first?
Who wants to take advice from WASP Americans about marriage, family and raising kids?
You mean cultures where divorce is banned?
In no culture divorce is banned. If you were better educated you would know.
Anonymous
02/12/2023 13:47
Subject: How common is it for college seniors to live with their SO?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If both are sharing equally, what difference does it make to you?
I would never allow my DD to move in with her BF without being married. She can of course defy me and "be an adult". But, then better not have any expectations from me about any kind of monetary or physical help.
Who the hell marries someone without living with them first?
Who wants to take advice from WASP Americans about marriage, family and raising kids?
You mean cultures where divorce is banned?
Anonymous
02/12/2023 13:42
Subject: How common is it for college seniors to live with their SO?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If both are sharing equally, what difference does it make to you?
I would never allow my DD to move in with her BF without being married. She can of course defy me and "be an adult". But, then better not have any expectations from me about any kind of monetary or physical help.
Who the hell marries someone without living with them first?
Everyone from cultures where 50% of marriages do not end in divorce.
Who wants to take advice from WASP Americans about marriage, family and raising kids?
Anonymous
02/12/2023 13:38
Subject: Re:How common is it for college seniors to live with their SO?
Depends on if “roommates” means sharing a bedroom.