Anonymous
Post 02/08/2023 21:24     Subject: Swim Excuse Note
Im really not a person who would normally do that, but swimming daily? Assuming they have to go back to class wet? That sounds awful. Seriously awful. I'd probably try to get my kid out of it if they asked if it wasn't something they made a habit out of.
Anonymous
Post 02/08/2023 21:20     Subject: Swim Excuse Note
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I love public school.

Female students can't wear tank tops because it makes the boys too hot and bothered but they can parade around in swimsuits in front of their male peers.

What a fking joke.

I would simply tell the PE teacher to flunk her for that unit and tell them she's sitting out. Screw that nonsense.


OP again. PE is single gender at her school. But, yes, they can’t wear tank tops or short shorts.


You and your daughter are ridiculous. She can swim at the public pool, but, she can’t swim in an all girl swim class at school?
Anonymous
Post 02/08/2023 21:19     Subject: Swim Excuse Note
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Good for you, OP, for listening to your daughter. I say YAY to you! There's no reason for her to have to go through swim class just because those of us in the older generation had to tolerate it.


Okay but who SHOULD do the swim classes? Only girls who want to? And who should do math? What if my kid doesn't feel like doing calculus. It's not required for success in life, but it's part of the curriculum.
If you feel like swim shouldn't be part of the curriculum to make girls suffer; then join the pta, attend board meetings, make a difference. But getting an unnecessary doctors note is just coddling.


Anonymous
Post 02/08/2023 21:18     Subject: Re:Swim Excuse Note
This is insane to me. Instead of encouraging your daughter to not be embarrassed by her body, because there's nothing with it or her, you're indulging her negative self-talk and distorted sense of body image and reinforcing that she should be ashamed of how she looks? This is good parenting?
Anonymous
Post 02/08/2023 21:18     Subject: Swim Excuse Note
Anonymous wrote:There are tons of kids her age at our neighborhood pool, so I find this strange.


Exactly! My son is 14 and all the kids we know swim together at our neighborhood swim club. It’s really not normal for a 14 year old girl to be this embarrassed of herself.
Anonymous
Post 02/08/2023 21:18     Subject: Swim Excuse Note
Anonymous wrote:Nope. She’s facing the exact same insecurities and issues that many other girls of her age face. Get her a swim cap and her hair will be fine.


"I suffered! Others suffer! Therefore you will suffer!"

And for what?
Anonymous
Post 02/08/2023 20:38     Subject: Swim Excuse Note
Anonymous wrote:What school district does this in middle school? APS does it in 4th and 5th grade.


LCPS doesn't do it at all, and neither did Chesterfield County near Richmond where I grew up. Is this an equity thing? Because all of the middle class and upper middle class kids we know can swim by early elementary.
Anonymous
Post 02/08/2023 19:20     Subject: Re:Swim Excuse Note
If she is that uncomfortable with her bacne, I hope you are doing something to treat it.
Anonymous
Post 02/08/2023 19:17     Subject: Swim Excuse Note
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Good for you, OP, for listening to your daughter. I say YAY to you! There's no reason for her to have to go through swim class just because those of us in the older generation had to tolerate it.


So then what’s the lesson? You get to opt out of anything you don’t feel like doing?


That’s the way we’re heading as a society. If I don’t feel like a female you need to call me what I tell you I feel like. If I feel like I can work just as well outside of the office then you need to let me be remote. Absolutes and requirements are getting blurrier and blurrier.
Anonymous
Post 02/08/2023 19:16     Subject: Swim Excuse Note
What school district does this in middle school? APS does it in 4th and 5th grade.
Anonymous
Post 02/08/2023 19:11     Subject: Swim Excuse Note
I wear board shorts and a sleeveless rash guard that doesn’t show my back and chest. It’s great!! I feel so much less awkward at the pool.

I have curly hair too. Exercise is more important than hair.
Anonymous
Post 02/08/2023 19:09     Subject: Re:Swim Excuse Note
Anonymous wrote:Im surprised by these answers! OP I would have done what you did. It’s not like she’s asking for excuses to get out of things all the time and not is swimming in front of a group of your colleagues and classmates a necessary life skill.


How do you know the kid isn’t asking for things all the time? The fact that you said that makes me think this is OP sock puppeting.
Anonymous
Post 02/08/2023 19:03     Subject: Re:Swim Excuse Note
Anonymous wrote:Im surprised by these answers! OP I would have done what you did. It’s not like she’s asking for excuses to get out of things all the time and not is swimming in front of a group of your colleagues and classmates a necessary life skill.


No, but grit and resilience sure are.
Anonymous
Post 02/08/2023 19:03     Subject: Swim Excuse Note
Anonymous wrote:Good for you, OP, for listening to your daughter. I say YAY to you! There's no reason for her to have to go through swim class just because those of us in the older generation had to tolerate it.


Okay but who SHOULD do the swim classes? Only girls who want to? And who should do math? What if my kid doesn't feel like doing calculus. It's not required for success in life, but it's part of the curriculum.
If you feel like swim shouldn't be part of the curriculum to make girls suffer; then join the pta, attend board meetings, make a difference. But getting an unnecessary doctors note is just coddling.
Anonymous
Post 02/08/2023 19:02     Subject: Re:Swim Excuse Note
Im surprised by these answers! OP I would have done what you did. It’s not like she’s asking for excuses to get out of things all the time and not is swimming in front of a group of your colleagues and classmates a necessary life skill.