Anonymous wrote:My son and his friends all dumped their running sneakers for day-to-day and switched to vans and converse.

Meant to add this is girls and boys alike. They also each have combat boots similar to Docs.

My son and his friends all dumped their running sneakers for day-to-day and switched to vans and converse.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh goodness. Any sneaker that fits? My teen and tween go to school with Asics. We're in Bethesda, an affluent neighborhood, and we don't know anyone who looks at sneakers in any particular way.

i'm not like other girls!!!!!11

Imagine growing up with a mom who says stuff like about girls who don’t care about looking the “right” way. No wonder so many teen girls are mean and insecure.

...? Coming onto a thread that asks about shoes not to give a suggestion or answer the question but rather to divert the topic to yourself say that your "affluent" teens don't care about what's popular is the very definition of "I'm not like other girls" energy.

Stop with that BS already. And the PP did give a suggestion. She said Asics.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh goodness. Any sneaker that fits? My teen and tween go to school with Asics. We're in Bethesda, an affluent neighborhood, and we don't know anyone who looks at sneakers in any particular way.

i'm not like other girls!!!!!11

Imagine growing up with a mom who says stuff like about girls who don’t care about looking the “right” way. No wonder so many teen girls are mean and insecure.

...? Coming onto a thread that asks about shoes not to give a suggestion or answer the question but rather to divert the topic to yourself say that your "affluent" teens don't care about what's popular is the very definition of "I'm not like other girls" energy.

Stop with that BS already. And the PP did give a suggestion. She said Asics.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh goodness. Any sneaker that fits? My teen and tween go to school with Asics. We're in Bethesda, an affluent neighborhood, and we don't know anyone who looks at sneakers in any particular way.

i'm not like other girls!!!!!11

Imagine growing up with a mom who says stuff like about girls who don’t care about looking the “right” way. No wonder so many teen girls are mean and insecure.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh goodness. Any sneaker that fits? My teen and tween go to school with Asics. We're in Bethesda, an affluent neighborhood, and we don't know anyone who looks at sneakers in any particular way.

i'm not like other girls!!!!!11

Imagine growing up with a mom who says stuff like about girls who don’t care about looking the “right” way. No wonder so many teen girls are mean and insecure.

...? Coming onto a thread that asks about shoes not to give a suggestion or answer the question but rather to divert the topic to yourself say that your "affluent" teens don't care about what's popular is the very definition of "I'm not like other girls" energy.

Anonymous wrote:It's OK to like/want popular things. It is developmentally appropriate. It is also OK to not care about what's popular. Thinking you (or your kid or their "affluent Bethesda peers" :eyeroll are better/cooler/etc. due to not liking popular things is where the "I'm Not Like Other Girls" mantra comes from.

Some people just think it's cool and edgy to hate on mainstream, trendy things. The more popular it is, the trendier it is to hate. That's unfortunate.

Middle school especially is a time when fitting in is a matter of survival. If your kid wants a certain shoe to fit in, and you can afford it, it is literally not a problem to do that for them. I still remember being so mad my mom would not just buy me a pair of Nikes. All I wanted was one name brand thing to fit in. They were affordable. She just wouldn’t do it. I have one middle school kid who is very much a quirky march to the beat of her own drum kid. She wears stuff that probably does get her made fun of but she doesn’t care. She doesn’t want name brand or trendy stuff so I don’t push it. But if she asked for it, I would get it for her. Don’t make their lives harder than they have to be to prove a point; individuality and personal style comes later. Conformity is what’s safe at this age. At the same time, don’t shove trendy stuff on them in some attempt to make them popular.

It's OK to like/want popular things. It is developmentally appropriate. It is also OK to not care about what's popular. Thinking you (or your kid or their "affluent Bethesda peers" :eyeroll are better/cooler/etc. due to not liking popular things is where the "I'm Not Like Other Girls" mantra comes from.

Some people just think it's cool and edgy to hate on mainstream, trendy things. The more popular it is, the trendier it is to hate. That's unfortunate.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh goodness. Any sneaker that fits? My teen and tween go to school with Asics. We're in Bethesda, an affluent neighborhood, and we don't know anyone who looks at sneakers in any particular way.

i'm not like other girls!!!!!11

Imagine growing up with a mom who says stuff like about girls who don’t care about looking the “right” way. No wonder so many teen girls are mean and insecure.

you're not like other moms!!!!

Pick me mom

Anonymous wrote:Converse or Nike dunks

Dunks?

Boy’s and girls Nike Air Jordan mid top.

ON

I teach high school. You do still see a lot of AF1s, Jordans, and black Converse on the girls. New Balance 550 and 574 are in right now too. Not so many of the girls at my school wear Blazers or Air Max

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Anonymous wrote:DD is--or was--always talking about various sneakers. Now that I want to get a pair as a surprise for her birthday, she is not mentioning anything specific. I could ask her but she already knows about the one other significant gift she is getting so I would like this to be a surprise. Are Air Force 1s still cool?

This is pathetic. You're concerned with what's in vs what she would.like. tsk tsk

Not pathetic. Op knows her child. Like lots of kids, she probably likes most of what's in at the moment, and op wants to surprise her. She also said her DD can exchange the shoes for something she likes better.

My mom did stuff like this for me when I was that age.

Yes, thank you! This is OP and I absolutely want to get her what she would like (unless super crazy expensive), which I think is probably whatever is in. She used to talk a lot about AF1s, then it was something else, then something else--when I read the responses, Air Max 270 is ringing a bell, so I think I may get those and if she wants something else, I will absolutely let her exchange it. Or if I get lucky and hear her mention something before her birthday, I will get that. (With my luck, that will happen the day after I make a purchase.) I just know my kid. Rag on her, if you want, for liking what is cool. I was the same age in middle school and got past it in HS. I turned out to be a productive member of society. I have another kid who wears what is comfortable--and they are not cool.

I was the same way. In middle school, I was very into what's was super popular at the moment. Then I gravitated to whatever was popular among the alternative and grunge crowd. By my senior year in HS, I cared very little about what anyone else liked.

I remember my mom buying me random Guess brand tshirts and jeans for birthdays and Christmas. And sometimes she would then take me to the mall to exchange the jeans for a denim mini skirt (lol, I remember a particular outfit - Guess denim mini skirt, with a yellow Guess oversized sweatshirt emblazoned with the logo). I was just excited to get the pricey "cool" brand, even if I preferred a different item. My parents were generous but frugal. No way they'd have me keep an expensive item (like popular sneakers or clothes) if it wasn't exactly what I wanted and I knew I'd wear it.

Anonymous wrote:You can never go wrong with any Nikes or Converse honestly

And liking fashion and wanting in-style things is no different than our generation. Some like it, some don't. Either is okay and no one should be guilted otherwise

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