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Anonymous wrote:This makes no sense. I work in the icu and I don’t mask in daily life. I just mask at work.

Well, exactly.

The ICU is full of people patients, workers, and families) who might or might not have Covid or any number of other viruses going around. Which is why they ask people to put on masks *while in* the ICU.

This. OP, would you be upset if you knew that some of the workers at the hospital that take care of your DH don't mask outside of the hospital and partake in social activities? It just seems like your sister is an easy target for your pain right now.

Perhaps a visit from your sister was maybe not the best idea for you given the circumstances, but if you wanted her to wear a mask in the days up to the visit and during travel, you needed to speak up and say that. Masks for everyday activities have really fallen away outside of DC and a few other urban centers.

Anonymous wrote:This makes no sense. I work in the icu and I don’t mask in daily life. I just mask at work.

Well, exactly.

The ICU is full of people patients, workers, and families) who might or might not have Covid or any number of other viruses going around. Which is why they ask people to put on masks *while in* the ICU.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think when people say no one is masking...you have to realize than almost none of them are visiting someone in ICU! It is a huge distinction.

Don’t most hospitals require masks?

Yes they do because the patients are mostly at high risk so if you know you are visiting you shoudl take extra precautions...even if you typically do not.

I just sat in an emergency room for 10 hours with my friend. No masks required. I put one on out of respect but I've made 4 business flights and less than 5% of people are masking.

This makes no sense. I work in the icu and I don’t mask in daily life. I just mask at work.

OP,

This sounds like a horrible time for you. You must be vey stressed. I am sure your life has been 100 percent focused on your husband’s health. You have probably spent countless hours at the hospital where there are always strict safety measures. It all is very normal to you. But here is the thing. It is not normal to everyone else. When visiting people, even elderly relatives, I think - cancel if we are sick or maybe test before we leave. I don’t think wear a mask prior to the visit because masking is not even in my radar any more. If you want people to take precautions before they arrive, you need to be super clear what that means. Because it means different things to different people.

I hope your husband recovers soon.

Anonymous wrote:Non masking posters: her dh is in the ICU and she is primary contact.How low does your IQ have to be to stay with her after you have traveled unmasked and not isolated beforehand?

To be fair, the OP is kind of an idiot for hosting out-of-town travelers while her husband is in the icu on a respirator. At the very least, people with even average IQs could understand you may want to discuss precautions in that scenario, far beyond masking on a plane. Point is, it was not smart to have zero discussion prior to this visit.

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Anonymous wrote:I would be upset too, but please remember most people are idiots and don't take enough precautions, including wearing stupid cloth masks that don't do squat. Your sister is in the moron majority. Tell her why you're upset, and give her an antigen test. Also, wear proper KN95 or KF94 when visiting your husband in the hospital.

Please get help for your anxiety disorder.

And should add I’m a Democrat.

And an idiot.

Nope. Not an idiot. Just not an extremist. Folks like you are no different than MAGA idiots and your extreme views on covid and masking in 2023 have opened the door for politicians like DeSantis and will be the reason a Republican will win back the White House. Should OP and visitors to ICU take extra precautions- of course. Should the rest of us who are not immunocompromised continue to live in fear and judge those who are moving on without a mask? No. And to the poster who claims EVERYONE who flies without a mask catches covid - I really want to respond with my own anecdotal evidence ( which scientifically adds little to this discussion) like how I have flown internationally and domestically maskless and fly almost every weekend as do my children maskless and we are all fine. We are vaccinated but not extremists. I want to say all of that, but yet I keep thinking of what my Grandma used to say, “ you can’t argue with stupid.”

I think she needs to stay elsewhere. If you do let her stay in the house, at least rapid test her everyday and have her go for a PCR in a few days.

I don't see how her presence is helpful if she gives you guys covid.