A second ear lobe piercing is NBD in my opinion. I had my ear lobes pierced twice (and both times subsquently let them close up) when I was a teen and college student.

Both my daughters have a helix piercing rather than second ear lobe piercings. It is a cartilage piercing, so there's more pain and it needs to be done by a professional, but in both cases we discussed, they laid out their rationales (in part both have really small ears like me, so there's not much room for a second lobe piercing, and both were/are mature enough to care for the piercing diligently. The helix piercings are really cute and IMO less obvious than second lobe piercings.

Both helix piercings were done at Mister Finster in Arlington, VA. We are in MoCo but because of my kids' ages (15 at the time of the piercing) we went to Arlington. I think there are rules by jurisdiction about what piercings can be done at which ages, even with parental consent and ID.

My younger daughter just got her piercing done last weekend. The piercer, George, could not have been more professional and I trust his work.

I also got both daughters' ears pierced at a professional piercing/tattoo shop up in Derwood when they were younger, but the piercer we used moved on.

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry to hijack this thread. Where did you all get your kids ear pierced? We live in Montgomery county.

Lady, do a search, there are 8 million threads about this.

The local favorite is Craig Pokes You.

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To the Sloooooow Readers:

OP asks about SECOND piercings.

That’s sort of mean.

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Anonymous wrote:Many of DD’s teen friends are finding a good compromise with body piercings (think: below the neck). These are great because they are almost always hidden by clothing, and if left to heal over, no one will notice they were ever there.

What appropriate body piercing is below the neck besides bellybutton? Certainly these people aren’t getting their daughters nipples or genitals pierced as a compromise to an ear piercing, right?

Actually yes - they are. DD’s friends circle tends to be LGTBQI+ (not that it makes a difference), and 2 have gotten nipple piercings, with their mom’s consent (it’s required by law).

A third friend is significantly older (she 17) and got a labia piercing; supposedly her mom said she was going to do it anyway when she turns 18 and at least she could take her daughter to a reputable place.

I went with my now 20yo DD on Her 18th birthday to have Her VCH pierced. I decided to have mine done as well. It was a wonderful bonding experience.

I think it’s nice.

I also think lots of older people and conservative people on this forum are about to express super judgy opinions on something with which they have zero personal experience.

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Anonymous wrote:Many of DD’s teen friends are finding a good compromise with body piercings (think: below the neck). These are great because they are almost always hidden by clothing, and if left to heal over, no one will notice they were ever there.

What appropriate body piercing is below the neck besides bellybutton? Certainly these people aren’t getting their daughters nipples or genitals pierced as a compromise to an ear piercing, right?

Actually yes - they are. DD’s friends circle tends to be LGTBQI+ (not that it makes a difference), and 2 have gotten nipple piercings, with their mom’s consent (it’s required by law).

A third friend is significantly older (she 17) and got a labia piercing; supposedly her mom said she was going to do it anyway when she turns 18 and at least she could take her daughter to a reputable place.

I went with my now 20yo DD on Her 18th birthday to have Her VCH pierced. I decided to have mine done as well. It was a wonderful bonding experience.

What.

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Anonymous wrote:Many of DD’s teen friends are finding a good compromise with body piercings (think: below the neck). These are great because they are almost always hidden by clothing, and if left to heal over, no one will notice they were ever there.

What appropriate body piercing is below the neck besides bellybutton? Certainly these people aren’t getting their daughters nipples or genitals pierced as a compromise to an ear piercing, right?

Actually yes - they are. DD’s friends circle tends to be LGTBQI+ (not that it makes a difference), and 2 have gotten nipple piercings, with their mom’s consent (it’s required by law).

A third friend is significantly older (she 17) and got a labia piercing; supposedly her mom said she was going to do it anyway when she turns 18 and at least she could take her daughter to a reputable place.

I went with my now 20yo DD on Her 18th birthday to have Her VCH pierced. I decided to have mine done as well. It was a wonderful bonding experience.

To the Sloooooow Readers:

OP asks about SECOND piercings.

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Anonymous wrote:My 13yo son is asking for them.

You're only young once. We'll let him

Same here.

My 13yo wants to get drunks on weekends.

You're only young once. We'll let him.

Yes. Because those two things are very clearly the same.

The logic is the same. The kid wants, the kid gets, because the kid wants.

So, do you say no to everything that your kids wants then?

If you're truly and honestly equating getting a second piercing to allowing a kid to get drunk on weekends, then we should probably go ahead and wrap this conversation up. Because there is no common ground.

It's a question of scale, not logic. I can't believe I even have to explain this, but piercings and alcohol use are on very different parts of the scale

Very true.

Alcohol is a core ingredient of social life in most places around the globe, while piercings scream TRASH TRASH TRASH kind of everywhere.

Weird attitude. I always wonder what is wrong with women who don't have their ears pierced. I assume they have some sort of anxiety or fear of needles. Women without earrings are in the minority, for sure.

Same! Very strange to have no ear piercings.

I got one hole each side at 12. And two additional holes at 15, on one side. And an ear cartilage piercing around 18. The only one I've regretted is the cartilage, but you can only tell it was ever there from the back where there is a small lump.

The 2nd and 3rd holes never closed, but you can't even tell that they are there. I wouldn't stress so much about this. Better to have your kid ask than lie and go to Claire's, which is what I did w/a friend's older sister pretending to be my guardian. And you certainly don't want them or a friend just stabbing a sewing needle through their own ear!

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Anonymous wrote:I think it would be ok, if anything, they will hopefully learn what a pain it is to match two pairs of earrings when you wear them.

The problem comes when they get three or more holes, eventually in life, if they keep on getting more or wear heavier earrings, their ear lobes are more prone to stretch and tear. Has to be fixed with cosmetic surgery. One of my friends now always wears her hair over he ears because of the damage she did getting too many piercings in the 80s. One of her babies grabbed her ear and that's all it took.

Lolol what? A pain to match the earrings? I’ve had the second hole since I was 10 and recently got a third. I enjoy changing up my earrings but it is really really not hard to “match” and my ears are fine. I wear quality jewelry that isn’t heavy.

Most kids don't. I found it to be too much of a pain early on and took it out.

You must have been really lacking critical thinking skills when you were younger. When I first got mine I wore a gold ball stud in the second hole all the time and just switched out the first hole. A lot of people pick a nice gold or Diamond stud for the second or third hole and just leave them be.

That's so funny, most kids don't have the money "for a nice gold.or diamond stud" just like I didn't. And the whole point of doing this was to be cool, not look like an old lady by wearing the same exact studs every day.

Most teens have gold plated or titanium earrings (approx $20-30) and upgrade when they can afford it or when someone they love gives them nice earrings as a gift. My 9 year old wears teeny tiny 14K gold flat studs that I bought her for $50.

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Anonymous wrote:My 13yo son is asking for them.

You're only young once. We'll let him

Same here.

My 13yo wants to get drunks on weekends.

You're only young once. We'll let him.

Yes. Because those two things are very clearly the same.

The logic is the same. The kid wants, the kid gets, because the kid wants.

So, do you say no to everything that your kids wants then?

If you're truly and honestly equating getting a second piercing to allowing a kid to get drunk on weekends, then we should probably go ahead and wrap this conversation up. Because there is no common ground.

It's a question of scale, not logic. I can't believe I even have to explain this, but piercings and alcohol use are on very different parts of the scale

Very true.

Alcohol is a core ingredient of social life in most places around the globe, while piercings scream TRASH TRASH TRASH kind of everywhere.

Weird attitude. I always wonder what is wrong with women who don't have their ears pierced. I assume they have some sort of anxiety or fear of needles. Women without earrings are in the minority, for sure.

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Anonymous wrote:Some of the attitudes here towards ear piercing are hilariously outdated. I work in finance and the many of the women at my office have two or more lobe piercings, cartilage piercing etc. this is a very normal thing no one even blinks at.

Hilarious - yes - but not “outdated.” That is not the reason.

Many responding in this thread come from other cultures; including modest cultures.

Their cultural perspective leads them to be vehemently against things like piercings or second piercings.

I don't know any cultures outside of rich white American women who think they are better than immigrants that care about piercings at all.

Anonymous wrote:Sorry to hijack this thread. Where did you all get your kids ear pierced? We live in Montgomery county.

Lady, do a search, there are 8 million threads about this.