Anonymous
Post 01/12/2023 10:59     Subject: Should I go abroad to find a wife?
Anonymous wrote:I’m a 30 year old man who wants to get married and settle down but I’ve had zero luck on dating apps. I own a home, am fit, have outdoor hobbies, high paying top 1% income, but am very short at 5’5 and I suspect this is the reason I have no luck on apps. Occasionally I will match with a woman I have zero attraction to. I don’t want to be single forever and want a wife who is somewhat attractive (not looking for a model), would going on one of those international dating sites be worth it? I have dated women before but my last gf I met in college and we broke up 3 years ago (just getting back in to dating) and I have no good way to meet women in person these days. It’s way harder than I thought it would be, to be honest.


Top 1% in the US means you make over $800K. You are 30 years old. Are you telling me you don't have friends who are dating/married and their gf/wives aren't trying to get you introduced to their friends?

This has to be a troll post. If you're making that kind of money at your age, find a matchmaker in DC and let them do the work.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2023 10:57     Subject: Re:Should I go abroad to find a wife?
I feel like this is a troll. $450k at 30 and can't find a pretty American girl to marry in the entire USA? Yeah right. Playing the field too much is probably more like it. Maybe he has a disease.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2023 10:30     Subject: Should I go abroad to find a wife?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:No.

You need to somehow make it obvious without being obnoxious that you make that much money.

As my cousin used to tell her short younger brother, “don’t worry, you’ll look tall while you are standing on your wallet”

What do you do? How much do you earn? Have you paid off your debt and if so how much do you have saved?


OP here I work in tech, made 450k last year with 1.1M in assets including home equity. No debt other than my mortgage.


No way that American women aren't interested in you unless you are an a-hole. There are plenty of short women in America. There is something about you that this isn't working for you.


He's probably shooting for a tall woman (5'8 and over, for taller kids, that was my dating experience in my 20s when shorter men explicitly told me they would only marry a tall woman to have taller kids)


I exclusively aim for women my height and shorter (I am open to taller women but pursuing them is a waste of time imo). In my dating profile it’s not really obvious how much I make.


As a tall woman I happened to date guys slightly shorter than me. We had good sexual compatibility. When I dated men 6’ and taller, they were too big for me in bed. You know what I mean. 6 inches is my max for a successful O as I am otherwise thin and compact in all places. You need to widen your search criteria and project stability and serious intentions.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2023 10:19     Subject: Re:Should I go abroad to find a wife?
Thailand is open again.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2023 10:17     Subject: Re:Should I go abroad to find a wife?
Do they have services like this for same-sex couples, too?
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2023 10:15     Subject: Should I go abroad to find a wife?
OP- how is your personality? How much do you work? Do you have a work life balance? What are you seeking in a partner- personality wise, dynamic wise?
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2023 10:07     Subject: Should I go abroad to find a wife?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No.

You need to somehow make it obvious without being obnoxious that you make that much money.

As my cousin used to tell her short younger brother, “don’t worry, you’ll look tall while you are standing on your wallet”

What do you do? How much do you earn? Have you paid off your debt and if so how much do you have saved?


OP here I work in tech, made 450k last year with 1.1M in assets including home equity. No debt other than my mortgage.


No way that American women aren't interested in you unless you are an a-hole. There are plenty of short women in America. There is something about you that this isn't working for you.


He's probably shooting for a tall woman (5'8 and over, for taller kids, that was my dating experience in my 20s when shorter men explicitly told me they would only marry a tall woman to have taller kids)


I exclusively aim for women my height and shorter (I am open to taller women but pursuing them is a waste of time imo). In my dating profile it’s not really obvious how much I make.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2023 09:17     Subject: Should I go abroad to find a wife?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Sure you can do that. People do it all the time.

However, do not send them any money. If they ask for money then bye....


Does this really happen? Is it ever not a scam? Do you know someone personally who has done this with success? Thanks in advance.


Ana Walshe did it, it didn't end well though
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2023 09:15     Subject: Should I go abroad to find a wife?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No.

You need to somehow make it obvious without being obnoxious that you make that much money.

As my cousin used to tell her short younger brother, “don’t worry, you’ll look tall while you are standing on your wallet”

What do you do? How much do you earn? Have you paid off your debt and if so how much do you have saved?


OP here I work in tech, made 450k last year with 1.1M in assets including home equity. No debt other than my mortgage.


No way that American women aren't interested in you unless you are an a-hole. There are plenty of short women in America. There is something about you that this isn't working for you.


He's probably shooting for a tall woman (5'8 and over, for taller kids, that was my dating experience in my 20s when shorter men explicitly told me they would only marry a tall woman to have taller kids)
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2023 09:14     Subject: Should I go abroad to find a wife?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Sure you can do that. People do it all the time.

However, do not send them any money. If they ask for money then bye....


Does this really happen? Is it ever not a scam? Do you know someone personally who has done this with success? Thanks in advance.


It is usually framed as her wanting to see you and asking money to book avia ticket and hotel stay (you dont expect the woman sleep in your house first time she meets you, right? ) . Never give money for the trip, always book her flight with your CC and make all visa appointments
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2023 09:12     Subject: Should I go abroad to find a wife?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No.

You need to somehow make it obvious without being obnoxious that you make that much money.

As my cousin used to tell her short younger brother, “don’t worry, you’ll look tall while you are standing on your wallet”

What do you do? How much do you earn? Have you paid off your debt and if so how much do you have saved?


OP here I work in tech, made 450k last year with 1.1M in assets including home equity. No debt other than my mortgage.


No way that American women aren't interested in you unless you are an a-hole. There are plenty of short women in America. There is something about you that this isn't working for you.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2023 09:01     Subject: Should I go abroad to find a wife?
Anonymous wrote:Sure you can do that. People do it all the time.

However, do not send them any money. If they ask for money then bye....


Does this really happen? Is it ever not a scam? Do you know someone personally who has done this with success? Thanks in advance.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2023 08:58     Subject: Re:Should I go abroad to find a wife?
I dont see how a man who is lazy enough to get out from his NOVA cave and meet women out there would be able to move his butt to bring a wife from abroad
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2023 08:37     Subject: Should I go abroad to find a wife?
Anonymous wrote:Don't do it. Sure, you can find a woman who will marry you and stay with you just long enough for a green card, but she will not give you a lifetime of companionship. In a few years you'll be right back to where you started except you'll be older.


I do know people who eventually left to go back to their home country. Not because of a green card but because they just missed their family. If you are willing to live abroad it might work better.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2023 08:21     Subject: Re:Should I go abroad to find a wife?
Anonymous wrote:OP please don’t worry. You’re you g and you’re doing this at the right time!!
You don’t need to flex more in social media. You need to put yourself out there IRL every day dressed good, looking fly, rely on friends to keep you social, and may I say if you have an institution of faith you can participate in - your church, temple or mosque- also be active there. Forget online dating! You will find your woman in real life and it will be awesome. Be the best partner you can be to yourself and show up for yourself and God will provide.

Ps, I do know several people who met their wives intentionally abroad and it has been amazing. Great marriages and families. They married women from their home countries/culture. Marry for values and you can’t go wrong.


Love this!