Anonymous wrote:I think some of the judgmental comments are coming from jealous moms who can't afford a nanny.

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Anonymous wrote:Thank you to those who had serious feedback. My mom is is willing to help again if necessary, but it's not her preference. I don't think it would be overly burdensome to the nanny. My kid sleeps 8pm -7:30am and takes a 2 hour nap. It's M-F so it would be the normal working hours, plus overtime. After we come home, she'd be getting the weekend plus Monday off. She is young and energetic, and routinely does weekend babysitting for another family beyond her FT work with us, so it's more an issue of personal comfort than the hours.

Our nanny said she'd like to do the overnight. I 100% trust her to be safe and follow our rules. It's just a fear that something out of her control could happen and I'd have to wait for a flight to become available. The destination is non-negotiable; either we go on this trip 4 hours away without DC, or we don't take a trip at all this winter. Our nanny would like to go on this trip with us, but DH does not want to fly with DC until she is older. He wants to go on this trip too, but he would also be satisfied with continuing to just vacation locally with DC in warmer weather.

If 3 adults can’t handle flying with one 18 month old, then you’ve got bigger problems

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Anonymous wrote:I think some of the judgmental comments are coming from jealous moms who can't afford a nanny.

I was thinking the same thing. Or have never had a nanny and just can’t understand how it’s different from a random sitter you get for your bimonthly date night.

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Anonymous wrote:5 days of watching a toddler by oneself is HARD! You are really minimizing what the nanny has to do. I think you an expect the nanny meeting up with her family & friends and/or taking the child to her place, etc. because 5 straight days with just a toddler is crazy making.

In fairness, lots of moms do it all the time with multiple kids. I WOHM full time and if I had a week, I would want to spend at least some significant part of it with my child and as a family since I don't see them as much as I'd like to.

Yeah but it's different when it's your own kid. The nanny is going to have to be dealing with a child whose schedule and comfort is disrupted.

This just feels wrong to me. First, you definitely need to pay the nanny for every single hour, 24 hours a day. Doing otherwise is exploitative. Would the nanny even want to do this? Because no way would I gave agreed to this back when I was doing childcare.

But also leaving your kid like that for that long feels off.

Yeah that's why the nanny is paid. It isn't her child. Everything is different when it is your own kid. I'd pay extra for that kind of task for sure.

Back when I was providing childcare there's really no amount of money that would make me agree to this.

And, yes, I've been alone with my own kid for a few days when my kid's daycare was closed during COVID and my husband had to go on a work trip.

It just isn't remotely the same level of work or exhaustion. Don’t compare overnight with your own kid with caregiving.

Anonymous wrote:I think some of the judgmental comments are coming from jealous moms who can't afford a nanny.

Anonymous wrote:Your kid is going to grow up thinking their nanny is their mommy.

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Anonymous wrote:5 days of watching a toddler by oneself is HARD! You are really minimizing what the nanny has to do. I think you an expect the nanny meeting up with her family & friends and/or taking the child to her place, etc. because 5 straight days with just a toddler is crazy making.

In fairness, lots of moms do it all the time with multiple kids. I WOHM full time and if I had a week, I would want to spend at least some significant part of it with my child and as a family since I don't see them as much as I'd like to.

Yeah but it's different when it's your own kid. The nanny is going to have to be dealing with a child whose schedule and comfort is disrupted.

This just feels wrong to me. First, you definitely need to pay the nanny for every single hour, 24 hours a day. Doing otherwise is exploitative. Would the nanny even want to do this? Because no way would I gave agreed to this back when I was doing childcare.

But also leaving your kid like that for that long feels off.

Yeah that's why the nanny is paid. It isn't her child. Everything is different when it is your own kid. I'd pay extra for that kind of task for sure.

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Anonymous wrote:5 days of watching a toddler by oneself is HARD! You are really minimizing what the nanny has to do. I think you an expect the nanny meeting up with her family & friends and/or taking the child to her place, etc. because 5 straight days with just a toddler is crazy making.

In fairness, lots of moms do it all the time with multiple kids. I WOHM full time and if I had a week, I would want to spend at least some significant part of it with my child and as a family since I don't see them as much as I'd like to.

Yeah but it's different when it's your own kid. The nanny is going to have to be dealing with a child whose schedule and comfort is disrupted.

This just feels wrong to me. First, you definitely need to pay the nanny for every single hour, 24 hours a day. Doing otherwise is exploitative. Would the nanny even want to do this? Because no way would I gave agreed to this back when I was doing childcare.

But also leaving your kid like that for that long feels off.

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Anonymous wrote:5 days of watching a toddler by oneself is HARD! You are really minimizing what the nanny has to do. I think you an expect the nanny meeting up with her family & friends and/or taking the child to her place, etc. because 5 straight days with just a toddler is crazy making.

In fairness, lots of moms do it all the time with multiple kids. I WOHM full time and if I had a week, I would want to spend at least some significant part of it with my child and as a family since I don't see them as much as I'd like to.

Anonymous wrote:5 days of watching a toddler by oneself is HARD! You are really minimizing what the nanny has to do. I think you an expect the nanny meeting up with her family & friends and/or taking the child to her place, etc. because 5 straight days with just a toddler is crazy making.

Anonymous wrote:OP, have you ever watched your child on your own for 5 days straight? I don’t know how you could say it’s not burdensome. When I was a SAHM and DC was 18 months, DH went on a week-long business trip. DC is an “easy” kid and at that point slept 7:30-7 and took a 2.5 hour nap every day. I was already used to being primary caregiver because of being SAH, but that was SUCH a long week. You are always “on” and even when DC is sleeping, there’s always something to take care of because there’s no one else to pick up the slack. I have so much respect for single parents now.

To answer your question, no, I would not do this. I think it’s too long for your nanny and your kid. Go for a weekend or something.