Anonymous wrote:Divorced 2004. Spoke with twice since then. Go years without thinking of her. Only remember a few words she ever said. Married 25 years.

2009 and 7 years but same. There was no love.

Anonymous wrote:Divorced 2004. Spoke with twice since then. Go years without thinking of her. Only remember a few words she ever said. Married 25 years.

I take it you married the OW.

Divorced 2004. Spoke with twice since then. Go years without thinking of her. Only remember a few words she ever said. Married 25 years.

Still do, although it's more bearable now. Initially it messed with my head and made me second-guess my life choices. I felt like I could never be happy again and I had to come to realize I may never get over it and that's okay. It's just something I acknowledge and live with.

I did. For over a decade. Life events happened that suddenly made me see the relationship differently and I was preoccupied with my internal thoughts basically incapacitated by the internal process for a year during which I could not work. During this time a read a lot of books and articles about the type of relationship we had. Then out of the blue he contacted me and I was able to tell him my new perspective on it and it shifted his behavior towards me in such a way that I was able to let it go more. I still think about him and us and what happened very often but it is no longer the only thing I think about.

Exorcism.