Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Rejection is part of life. It’s an opportunity for kids to learn how to handle it. But I think parents on DCUM struggle with it more than their kids.
Rejection is one thing. Being stuck in an admissions process that lacks transparency and consistency is another
Seems like a good teaching moment. Do you think college is any more transparent or consistent? Grad school probably is a little bit more consistent, but applying for jobs is even less transparent and consistent.
Agreed. We’re another family who told DD “it’s basically a lottery once people make the grade cutoff, do your best in an interview but don’t take anything personally.” I consider that a very useful lesson for later life.
In middle school, I participated in drama competitions where the same pool of kids performed the same pieces in 5-6 competitions each year. There was a pool of some kids who usually won medals and other kids who never did. But beyond that, there was little rhyme or reason to who placed where on any given day. Judges have preferences for different kinds of material, just liked one kid better, were hungry and cranky and grader lower than the judge in the next room over, whatever. After that, I’ve taken the “do your best, but don’t take it personally” lesson into every application, competition, or job interview I’ve ever done. and now that I’ve been on the hiring/judging side as well, I’ve definitely seen it happen from both sides. Any time you have people ranking other people, there’s almost no way to remove subjective preferences and personality quirks from factoring into those rankings.