A dealbreaker?? It's not like he can change the date of the conference, and its work related. You can celebrate a birthday on any day. In fact, its good to teach your child resilience/flexibility by learning its ok to feel disappointed, but celebrating on a different day doesn't take away from his love and intent to celebrate her. Please don't pass on your inflexibility to your child.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course I agree with every other poster. You’re in the wrong. I would suggest that you pack up your daughter and travel to the location of the conference and stay in a separate hotel and make her have her birthday there. That way your boyfriend can swing by after he’s done with the conference requirements that day.

No. This is also crazy.
The kid can do something with her mom and dad on her actual birthday.

The boyfriend can call her from the conference.


If the kid is having a birthday party later they all can attend.

No to skipping the conference.

No to flying out to the conference

Agree. If my husband did this with our own child I would think he was nuts.

. Just saw this was a joke. Phew.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course I agree with every other poster. You’re in the wrong. I would suggest that you pack up your daughter and travel to the location of the conference and stay in a separate hotel and make her have her birthday there. That way your boyfriend can swing by after he’s done with the conference requirements that day.

No. This is also crazy.
The kid can do something with her mom and dad on her actual birthday.

The boyfriend can call her from the conference.


If the kid is having a birthday party later they all can attend.

No to skipping the conference.

No to flying out to the conference

Agree. If my husband did this with our own child I would think he was nuts.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course I agree with every other poster. You’re in the wrong. I would suggest that you pack up your daughter and travel to the location of the conference and stay in a separate hotel and make her have her birthday there. That way your boyfriend can swing by after he’s done with the conference requirements that day.

No. This is also crazy.
The kid can do something with her mom and dad on her actual birthday.

The boyfriend can call her from the conference.


If the kid is having a birthday party later they all can attend.

No to skipping the conference.

No to flying out to the conference

.

Ha. I was being absurd to make a point about unreasonable compromise!

Oh good! Glad to know you weren't serious.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course I agree with every other poster. You’re in the wrong. I would suggest that you pack up your daughter and travel to the location of the conference and stay in a separate hotel and make her have her birthday there. That way your boyfriend can swing by after he’s done with the conference requirements that day.

No. This is also crazy.
The kid can do something with her mom and dad on her actual birthday.

The boyfriend can call her from the conference.


If the kid is having a birthday party later they all can attend.

No to skipping the conference.

No to flying out to the conference

.

Ha. I was being absurd to make a point about unreasonable compromise!

My own husband and father of our children has been away for a kids bday. The day itself is usually pretty anticlimactic and the kids go to school. Celebrate over the weekend as a family when he's back.

OP, that’s a crazy thing to do (make your BF miss work for a kid’s birthday).

Anonymous wrote:OP, please stop spouting off ultimatums for such silly things. With each one, your partner is going to realize more and more how unhinged, controlling, and immature you are. He will most likely leave you.

No. She should continue so he sees the red flags

Anonymous wrote:Of course I agree with every other poster. You’re in the wrong. I would suggest that you pack up your daughter and travel to the location of the conference and stay in a separate hotel and make her have her birthday there. That way your boyfriend can swing by after he’s done with the conference requirements that day.

No. This is also crazy.
The kid can do something with her mom and dad on her actual birthday.

The boyfriend can call her from the conference.


If the kid is having a birthday party later they all can attend.

No to skipping the conference.

No to flying out to the conference

Of course I agree with every other poster. You’re in the wrong. I would suggest that you pack up your daughter and travel to the location of the conference and stay in a separate hotel and make her have her birthday there. That way your boyfriend can swing by after he’s done with the conference requirements that day.

You are crazy...why wouldn't YOU celebrate the birthday early?

Live In Boyfriend...

...um... marriage?

OP, please stop spouting off ultimatums for such silly things. With each one, your partner is going to realize more and more how unhinged, controlling, and immature you are. He will most likely leave you.

I hope this is a troll. InTtended a conference on my own kids birthday. Birthdays are not national holidays. I made sure to call my kid, I brought back some cool tschoskys and we did a small dinner when I came home.

OP isn’t coming back because we didn’t tell her what she wants to hear.