Anonymous wrote:My saddest Thanksgiving ever was when my cousins were here and we went to their in-laws' for dinner (I usually host on Thanksgiving.) I had to eat my dinner from a paper plate. Decades later I still recall feeling like the hostess did not put in much effort and wishing I had stayed home.

Why are you hosting if you cannot bother to wash dishes by hand?

My saddest Thanksgiving was the one where my grandpa had a stroke and died. I don’t remember the plates.

Have y’all tried to buy appliances in the last few years? Stock is LOW. It takes weeks to get anything.

I would just hand wash the dishes for 10.

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Anonymous wrote:I would buy the meal but serve it on real dishes, with everyone taking a turn to wash some.

My Thanksgiving, at least, generates a ton of pots and pans. I'm willing to wash what it takes to serve it by hand, but not what it takes to cook it.

I'd rather be served on a disposable plate than go to someone's home to wash dishes.

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and I wouldn’t want the host/hostess to spend their time washing either.

The whole point of getting together is to enjoy each other’s company, and if somebody’s stuck in the kitchen as a scullery maid, they’re not getting to socialize.

Do you feel the same way about people who cook for you rather than getting takeout?

PP here

If they want to cook, I appreciate it. But I’d generally be just as happy going to a restaurant, getting takeout, ordering a pizza, making sandwiches, or having a potluck.

For Thanksgiving, I think most people expect a traditional turkey dinner, so if they plan on something significantly different, they might want to mention it to their guests ahead of time. Sushi or pizza for Thanksgiving might come as a shock, but Turkey on fine china, a paper plate, or a styrofoam take-out container really doesn’t matter.

As I mentioned before, my priority when socializing is to enjoy spending time with someone else. Generally this means minimizing the work, expense, and other burdens for everyone involved, although for some people cooking is viewed as a pleasure rather than a chore.

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Anonymous wrote:I would buy the meal but serve it on real dishes, with everyone taking a turn to wash some.

My Thanksgiving, at least, generates a ton of pots and pans. I'm willing to wash what it takes to serve it by hand, but not what it takes to cook it.

I'd rather be served on a disposable plate than go to someone's home to wash dishes.

+1
and I wouldn’t want the host/hostess to spend their time washing either.

The whole point of getting together is to enjoy each other’s company, and if somebody’s stuck in the kitchen as a scullery maid, they’re not getting to socialize.

Do you feel the same way about people who cook for you rather than getting takeout?

Get those shiny spoons and forks and knifes and the heavy duty paper plates and the plastic tulip glasses but use cloth napkins of course.

No, no, no to paper plates. Why would you want to eat your dinner off a paper plate?

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Anonymous wrote:What the heck? Just wash the dishes by hand. What do you think people did before dishwashers? It’s not like someone’s asking you to kill and pluck the turkey.

LOL.

So we don't even use the dishwasher. I maybe run it 2-3 per year just to clean it but it's mainly used as the drying rack as we always just wash the dishes by hand. And we host a lot.

This is really low on the list of things to panic over. Have your kids help. My kids do dishes.

May I ask why you don’t use the dishwasher when you have one? That’s quite unusual.

Anonymous wrote:What the heck? Just wash the dishes by hand. What do you think people did before dishwashers? It’s not like someone’s asking you to kill and pluck the turkey.

LOL.

So we don't even use the dishwasher. I maybe run it 2-3 per year just to clean it but it's mainly used as the drying rack as we always just wash the dishes by hand. And we host a lot.

This is really low on the list of things to panic over. Have your kids help. My kids do dishes.

You can rent plates, silverware and glassware. All you’d have to do is rinse them off before returning.

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Anonymous wrote:I would buy the meal but serve it on real dishes, with everyone taking a turn to wash some.

My Thanksgiving, at least, generates a ton of pots and pans. I'm willing to wash what it takes to serve it by hand, but not what it takes to cook it.

I'd rather be served on a disposable plate than go to someone's home to wash dishes.

+1
and I wouldn’t want the host/hostess to spend their time washing either.

The whole point of getting together is to enjoy each other’s company, and if somebody’s stuck in the kitchen as a scullery maid, they’re not getting to socialize.

I'd wash the dishes and let them dry in the dishwasher. Are you sure your dishwasher can't be easily fixed? I have a Samsung that is only a few years old that suddenly stopped working. I googled for a solution before calling a repairperson. Found out it was common for people to think the dishwasher was broke, when all it really took was to reset the breaker on the wall above the dishwasher. Sometimes I have to reset the breaker on the wall above the dishwasher and sometimes I have to flip the switch on the breaker in the garage, but I'm always able to get it to work. This saved me hundreds of dollars in repair costs.

Heavy disposable plates AND bussing tubs to keep things less chaotic.

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Anonymous wrote:Why isn’t it an option to buy a dishwasher? All of the Black Friday sales have started. I would just pick whatever is in stock.

Installation is the problem. Not OP. She may be able to buy it but getting the dang thing installed is the issue. I have been in OP's shoes.

Installation is not a problem. It's not brain surgery.

The repair costs $250. But sure, you could buy a new $1000 DW and install yourself. And that old DW can sit in your kitchen or foyer, for ever.

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Anonymous wrote:Why isn’t it an option to buy a dishwasher? All of the Black Friday sales have started. I would just pick whatever is in stock.

Installation is the problem. Not OP. She may be able to buy it but getting the dang thing installed is the issue. I have been in OP's shoes.

Installation is not a problem. It's not brain surgery.