Anonymous
Post 11/06/2022 10:21     Subject: Re:What makes a 50+ year old woman think that she looks 25? Serious question.
Anonymous wrote:Some women really need attention from men to validate themselves and so will perpetuate those types of situations their entire adult lives.

I do know one woman who gets hit on by younger men and she is a huge flirt. Which is fine. Good for her. She likes the attention. But she is soliciting the attention. I just don't believe a whole lot of 50-something women who are out in the world completely minding their own business and not looking for it are getting hit on by young guys constantly. Doesn't pass the laugh test.


My mom actually did, but...let's just say the men were not what you'd consider "high value."
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2022 10:18     Subject: What makes a 50+ year old woman think that she looks 25? Serious question.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yes, I've noticed similar in that age bracket.


+1

Insecurity, but they think they have "healthy" self esteem. When someone is so far off the mark, it borders on mental illness.


I wondered if mental illness is involved too, and what illness it would fall under. Like how can you look in the mirror and see something so different from the reality of what's there? And then be brazen enough to say it aloud. Like even if I thought it, humility would kick in and keep my mouth shut. It's the combination of fallacy and audacity that is the most striking aspect. It's fascinating, honestly.


Yes! I’ve never been able to put my finger on it, but this is exactly why the behavior is so bizarre.


+1
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2022 10:17     Subject: Re:What makes a 50+ year old woman think that she looks 25? Serious question.
Some women really need attention from men to validate themselves and so will perpetuate those types of situations their entire adult lives.

I do know one woman who gets hit on by younger men and she is a huge flirt. Which is fine. Good for her. She likes the attention. But she is soliciting the attention. I just don't believe a whole lot of 50-something women who are out in the world completely minding their own business and not looking for it are getting hit on by young guys constantly. Doesn't pass the laugh test.
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2022 10:17     Subject: What makes a 50+ year old woman think that she looks 25? Serious question.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This thread is a perfect example of how women don't support other women, and are incredibly judgmental.

Let women feel whatever they want to feel if it's a positive to them.



I think what's actually judgmental is thinking that looking young is sooooo great. It perpetuates really unhealthy ideas, like women "expire" at age 50, etc.


Yet again, you want people to fit into whatever stereotype you deem acceptable. Women feel a wide variety of things. You also clearly don't understand the use of judgmental.


I'm a NP. Women are allowed to feel however they want. However we can't pretend that just because a woman feels or believes a certain way, it's valid or good for women.

If looking young is a positive thing to a woman, you can't deny that that woman also thinks that a woman looking old is a negative thing. It's a broader problem with society that natural aging of a woman reduces their value, and these women are playing into that problem.
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2022 10:15     Subject: What makes a 50+ year old woman think that she looks 25? Serious question.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yes, I've noticed similar in that age bracket.


+1

Insecurity, but they think they have "healthy" self esteem. When someone is so far off the mark, it borders on mental illness.


I wondered if mental illness is involved too, and what illness it would fall under. Like how can you look in the mirror and see something so different from the reality of what's there? And then be brazen enough to say it aloud. Like even if I thought it, humility would kick in and keep my mouth shut. It's the combination of fallacy and audacity that is the most striking aspect. It's fascinating, honestly.


Yes! I’ve never been able to put my finger on it, but this is exactly why the behavior is so bizarre.
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2022 10:14     Subject: What makes a 50+ year old woman think that she looks 25? Serious question.
My 70 year old mother in law routinely comments on how young she looks and she likes to dress in styles intended for much younger women. Rather than healthy self esteem, I think it stems from fear of aging and the need for attention.

I’m 53 and think I look my age - and that’s okay.
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2022 10:12     Subject: What makes a 50+ year old woman think that she looks 25? Serious question.
I get ads for And So it Begins on Instagram and of course SJP looks fantastic for her age but … she is definitely not going to be mistaken for a 30 something. And she is SJP.
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2022 10:12     Subject: What makes a 50+ year old woman think that she looks 25? Serious question.
Anonymous wrote:I recently had dinner with relatives, all females in their early 50s. All the women look their ages (and one looks slightly older). During the dinner, all of the women (with straight faces) kept commenting on how young they looked, how people mistake them for 20/30 somethings, how young guys hit on them constantly, etc. I was baffled by the delusion but tried hard not to show it.

Serious question, but what's behind that level of deluding? Is it fear of reality, getting older, being competitive, and is there any point in disagreeing with them when they aren't hurting anyone? Also, what is so wrong with looking good for your age?

I am the youngest in the group at 41, and while I take excellent care of myself, I look my age.


You don’t need dinner get together to know that. DCUM is full of those delusional women. Seriously.
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2022 10:11     Subject: What makes a 50+ year old woman think that she looks 25? Serious question.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This thread is a perfect example of how women don't support other women, and are incredibly judgmental.

Let women feel whatever they want to feel if it's a positive to them.



Not true. Why would you help a woman to delude herself?


Ah, that is classic. Great way to justify being a judgmental person who takes pride in not being supportive.


A true friend is honest with her friends, or at best remains quiet. But encouraging a friend to make herself look and sound foolish is the antithesis of friendship. I will not say "you go, girl" when you are being cringey AF and behaving like Madonna.


The problem is, you don’t understand the definition of truth
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2022 10:11     Subject: Re:What makes a 50+ year old woman think that she looks 25? Serious question.
The idea that a supportive friend needs to sit around with their 50+ something friend and listen to them talk about how they look 25 and young guys hit on them constantly or they don't support other women is hysterical.

People are allowed to say no thanks to other people's personalities. This is a personality trait and not about how young people "feel".
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2022 10:10     Subject: What makes a 50+ year old woman think that she looks 25? Serious question.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This thread is a perfect example of how women don't support other women, and are incredibly judgmental.

Let women feel whatever they want to feel if it's a positive to them.



Not true. Why would you help a woman to delude herself?


Ah, that is classic. Great way to justify being a judgmental person who takes pride in not being supportive.


A true friend is honest with her friends, or at best remains quiet. But encouraging a friend to make herself look and sound foolish is the antithesis of friendship. I will not say "you go, girl" when you are being cringey AF and behaving like Madonna.
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2022 10:09     Subject: What makes a 50+ year old woman think that she looks 25? Serious question.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This thread is a perfect example of how women don't support other women, and are incredibly judgmental.

Let women feel whatever they want to feel if it's a positive to them.



+1
It doesn't harm anyone and boosts someone's self esteem.


It does harm me if I have to sit around listen to your delusional ass at girl's night out and pretend I agree you look 25.


I am not one of these types of women, but I am so thankful you are not someone in my life. You are either a troll or an awful person.


But you are not an awful person for making grand pronouncements such as this about a random stranger on the internet? Classic DCUM.


The point being that you are a classic example of what many women (probably like you) try to deny exists. And that is that women so often are the worst enemies of other women. If it "hurts" you so badly to sit and listen to these women feel good about themselves, then leave. Don't listen then go off and then denigrate them.



It's not about women being the worst enemies of women in the least. It's I just would never be friend with women who talk like this. Which harms no one in the end, but I guess one thing DCUM is good for is letting others know what people are really thinking and the response seems pretty overwhelming on this thread. In the end, the 50-somethings who look 25 and get hit on by young guys constantly (where??) and want to tell others about it should all befriend each other.
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2022 10:07     Subject: What makes a 50+ year old woman think that she looks 25? Serious question.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This thread is a perfect example of how women don't support other women, and are incredibly judgmental.

Let women feel whatever they want to feel if it's a positive to them.



I think what's actually judgmental is thinking that looking young is sooooo great. It perpetuates really unhealthy ideas, like women "expire" at age 50, etc.


Yet again, you want people to fit into whatever stereotype you deem acceptable. Women feel a wide variety of things. You also clearly don't understand the use of judgmental.
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2022 10:05     Subject: What makes a 50+ year old woman think that she looks 25? Serious question.
Anonymous wrote:This thread is a perfect example of how women don't support other women, and are incredibly judgmental.

Let women feel whatever they want to feel if it's a positive to them.



I think what's actually judgmental is thinking that looking young is sooooo great. It perpetuates really unhealthy ideas, like women "expire" at age 50, etc.
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2022 10:05     Subject: What makes a 50+ year old woman think that she looks 25? Serious question.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This thread is a perfect example of how women don't support other women, and are incredibly judgmental.

Let women feel whatever they want to feel if it's a positive to them.



Not true. Why would you help a woman to delude herself?


Ah, that is classic. Great way to justify being a judgmental person who takes pride in not being supportive.