Anonymous wrote:Assuming they don’t have to care for another child. What do you think is a reasonable expectation?

You get a break and do should she. Afterall, she is taking care of your children that you are incapable of caring for.

Anonymous wrote:When we had a nanny, she took a break during kiddos nap time, she was really efficient for rest of the day and I didn’t care that she took a 2 hour break, god knows she worked plenty. Young kids are hard work, it’s important to treat the caregiver right.

OTOH, DH and I had long commute and she accommodated us so many times when we were running late. We tried reciprocating the grace she showed us.

I hope you paid her for those late arrivals.

When we had a nanny, she took a break during kiddos nap time, she was really efficient for rest of the day and I didn’t care that she took a 2 hour break, god knows she worked plenty. Young kids are hard work, it’s important to treat the caregiver right.

OTOH, DH and I had long commute and she accommodated us so many times when we were running late. We tried reciprocating the grace she showed us.

Forums like this are often insular, where problematic and exploitative labor practices are encouraged and normalized. Unions exist for this very reason to protect workers from management. For nannies, these protections don't exist and there's a lot of people out there who devalue childcare professionals, refuse to pay them what they deserve and think they can manipulate someone hired to care for their children into folding laundry and playing with their dog (like the one poster said). People really need to look inward at their own inherent biases and values related to labor and work and do better.

People have the right to rest, close their eyes, I mean the kid is sleeping, right? Do you want them to watch your kid as they sleep? This is a weird question, tbh, and if I were a nanny looking for employment I would definitely think this is a red flag.
There's some folks on this forum who really give the vibe of wanting to take advantage of people or manipulate a nanny into performing as much unpaid labor as possible or initiating labor creep -- where the family begins asking the nanny to do tasks not originally listed in the job description.

Grate ginger? You are dreaming, right?

Anonymous wrote:Vacuum, laundry, clean up the kitchen, dishes, clean toys, arrange toy-room, mop, dust, change sheets, clean the dishes of the pets, feed the pets, water indoor plants, get mail in, prep meals (chop onions, peel and grate ginger, chop cauliflower, etc)., wipe counters, wipe handprints from doors, windows and walls, clean furniture, wash the high feeding chair.

She is charging by the hour.

So you are not interested in doing mom things yourself? I think you really hired a housekeeper, not a nanny.

Anonymous wrote:Picks-up playroom, kids laundry, empties dishwasher, eats lunch.

Similar. Eats lunch with kids, cleans up from lunch, kid laundry and tidies playroom.

I am a nanny and love having a "beauty" nap, even if it isonly 15 min, lol. I am highly recommending it, too!

How do you know she is actually sleeping? She might be resting with her eyes closed. Every nanny needs rest especially if she is active and outside a lot. The manner of her rest should not bother you at all!

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Anonymous wrote:Does anyone have a nanny that also sleeps when the child is sleeping? I work from home and our nanny if now usually asleep when our toddler is sleeping. I have not said anything yet but based on the responses here this doesn’t seem to be the norm. Our nanny is older and has been with us a coup years. I’ve noticed the sleeping more recently and it seems to be every day now.

I had a short term nanny who slept any chance she got. I think she had underlying health conditions. She wasn’t with us long. I didn’t have a problem with her sleeping per se, though it was a little weird.

If this is new for your nanny, perhaps she has an illness? Or just getting older?

I’ve noticed it as more of a consistent thing lately. It’s basically every day when my child is napping. I did notice it before but not every single day. She’d otherwise sit and watch the child sleep a lot of the time of fold laundry. We have a cleaner so she doesn’t do housekeeping and in fact doesn’t really clean up toys my child takes out from playing. Nanny is over 65 so certainly older.

Some of your nannies seem to also be your household cleaners and general domestic help. I guess if you have that in the advertisement - that they aren't just for the children but are expected to clean the house, do the family's laundry, do the family's grocery shopping, make the family meals etc and you make that clear and they accept, then that is on them.

I know a few families with nannies but the nannies are for the children and tasks related to the children. They still have cleaners come in to clean the house. Do the nannies who do work for the household as well as care for the children get paid more per hour'?

Anonymous wrote:Does anyone have a nanny that also sleeps when the child is sleeping? I work from home and our nanny if now usually asleep when our toddler is sleeping. I have not said anything yet but based on the responses here this doesn’t seem to be the norm. Our nanny is older and has been with us a coup years. I’ve noticed the sleeping more recently and it seems to be every day now.

I had a short term nanny who slept any chance she got. I think she had underlying health conditions. She wasn’t with us long. I didn’t have a problem with her sleeping per se, though it was a little weird.

If this is new for your nanny, perhaps she has an illness? Or just getting older?

Does anyone have a nanny that also sleeps when the child is sleeping? I work from home and our nanny if now usually asleep when our toddler is sleeping. I have not said anything yet but based on the responses here this doesn’t seem to be the norm. Our nanny is older and has been with us a coup years. I’ve noticed the sleeping more recently and it seems to be every day now.

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Anonymous wrote:Texts, streams videos.

Yeah like many moms and dads

What makes you think parents actually do that? There are chores of basic adulting that need to get accomplished, who do you think does that? Groceries, bills, contractors/fixing things, cooking, organizing, financial management, etc. It's a very childish belief that grownups do nothing and relax every chance they get. They don't.

But nanny also has bills, financial management etc . . . Just like people take time from their work break to take care of their own business she should be able to too.

It’s bizarre to me that as an adult you hear that she is taking a “break” from work and assume she is on the couch and not doing all the personal things other adults do on their lunch break like paying bills or calling to check in on elderly relative or returning email from her kids’ school.