Anonymous wrote:shut this sh&t down OP. I would be freaking out. this is all a BIG NO. I feel like you are not overreacting ENOUGH. make it clear to these parents their child is not allowed in your yard or around your kids. End of story. let the other neighbors know with kids as well as he will just find another victim.

Anonymous wrote:Hi everyone it’s op. I’m not a troll. I’m also not a helicopter mom, that is true. But I don’t let my four year old roam the neighborhood. I was inside when this happened and my kids were playing outside with a bunch of other kids in our fenced backyard. According to my son and our outdoor cameras the boy came and got him and took him over to his house. It took literally the time it takes for pasta water to boil because that’s what I’m inside doing when it happened. The other children did not notice he was gone and neither did I until the dad brought him back. Do none of you let your kids play in your backyard without watching them every second? I thought it was ok but now I see I’ll have to be more vigilant even in this scenario. .

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Anonymous wrote:The reason it feels abnormal is the specific sequence of events—he left his home, found your son, lured him away from the group, found a private location, then engaged in this series of inappropriate actions in a span of 15 minutes, gradually ramping up (exposing himself, then son, then touching son, then asking to be touched). So while nothing has happened YET that is traumatic or dangerous to your son, this behavior feels much more intentional than normal body play for those ages, and it seems very likely that he will escalate, if given the chance. I wouldn’t call CPS, but I would contact the guidance counselor at the school this fall and report the situation so someone with more context and experience has eyes on this situation.

DP. Agree with this. It’s possible the 6 year old has been sexually abused.

Anonymous wrote:Why on earth is your 4 year old outside unsupervised? The fact that he went into this kids’ house and you didn’t know about it is pretty alarming. That’s on you, you need to be providing much more supervision than this at age 4

Anonymous wrote:We’ve been having issues for years with a neighbor boy (6) being violent toward our kids. Examples include: hitting, pushing, bloodying nose, hitting with bike, etc. FWIW, the boy has been diagnosed with ODD. There’s also been problems in the neighborhood with him lying and stealing. We try to limit the amount that our children play with him based on these issues but it’s really difficult because the parents let him run wild and he will join whatever gang of kids is playing on the neighborhood. Several parents have spoken with this boys parents and they have agreed to watch the boy while he is playing with the children but even when they’re watching it doesn’t seem to stop the bad behavior.

Today I found out from the dad that the boy touched our four year old son on the penis while they were playing. Apparently the boy asked my son into his house and then showed his penis to my son. He asked him to show his penis too and then touched it and asked him to touch his.

I’m feeling very conflicted. I know some exploration is normal but given the age difference and this child’s other problems and the delight he takes in breaking rules This was the last straw for me in dealing with this boy and his constant strife, and I have let the parents know this is not appropriate and I don’t want their son alone with mine ever again. Obviously cannot stop him from playing in the neighborhood and it seems unfair to make my kids come in if he is out. But what else can I do? Some friends are telling me to report it, but that seems like too much. I don’t know what to think. Dcum am I overreacting? Underreacting? I don’t want to unfairly demonize a child but I want to keep my kids safe. My mom thinks we should move

Anonymous wrote:shut this sh&t down OP. I would be freaking out. this is all a BIG NO. I feel like you are not overreacting ENOUGH. make it clear to these parents their child is not allowed in your yard or around your kids. End of story. let the other neighbors know with kids as well as he will just find another victim.

Anonymous wrote:The reason it feels abnormal is the specific sequence of events—he left his home, found your son, lured him away from the group, found a private location, then engaged in this series of inappropriate actions in a span of 15 minutes, gradually ramping up (exposing himself, then son, then touching son, then asking to be touched). So while nothing has happened YET that is traumatic or dangerous to your son, this behavior feels much more intentional than normal body play for those ages, and it seems very likely that he will escalate, if given the chance. I wouldn’t call CPS, but I would contact the guidance counselor at the school this fall and report the situation so someone with more context and experience has eyes on this situation.

Anonymous wrote:The reason it feels abnormal is the specific sequence of events—he left his home, found your son, lured him away from the group, found a private location, then engaged in this series of inappropriate actions in a span of 15 minutes, gradually ramping up (exposing himself, then son, then touching son, then asking to be touched). So while nothing has happened YET that is traumatic or dangerous to your son, this behavior feels much more intentional than normal body play for those ages, and it seems very likely that he will escalate, if given the chance. I wouldn’t call CPS, but I would contact the guidance counselor at the school this fall and report the situation so someone with more context and experience has eyes on this situation.

Anonymous wrote:I'd move. I'd totally move away from that evil monster.

Anonymous wrote:The reason it feels abnormal is the specific sequence of events—he left his home, found your son, lured him away from the group, found a private location, then engaged in this series of inappropriate actions in a span of 15 minutes, gradually ramping up (exposing himself, then son, then touching son, then asking to be touched). So while nothing has happened YET that is traumatic or dangerous to your son, this behavior feels much more intentional than normal body play for those ages, and it seems very likely that he will escalate, if given the chance. I wouldn’t call CPS, but I would contact the guidance counselor at the school this fall and report the situation so someone with more context and experience has eyes on this situation.