I dated a guy for three years in my 40s, after a few months we used to both go to his ex's house for family parties. Your BF ought to bring you along unless your relationship is very new and he doesn't want you to meet his kids yet.

My relationship with that guy ended very badly when he cheated on me and dumped me for her but his ex-W was very sweet and supportive when that happened and she and I are still friends years later.

Anonymous wrote:Why do people keep citing a 5 year old? I don’t think op every clarified? I assumed it was a teenager son, but would love if someone clarified.

I don’t think it was many people. I said I went to a 5yo birthday party and one other person did too. It could very well have been a 9yo or 3yo. I don’t think age matters assuming there were other guests and friends of both the child and parents.

Why do people keep citing a 5 year old? I don’t think op every clarified? I assumed it was a teenager son, but would love if someone clarified.

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Anonymous wrote:I always find it interesting that three pages in, OP has not returned. Is this a troll? Bored teenagers posting on a Saturday night?

Why should she come back so you can attack her some more?

Well, people would like her to clarify the situation. Was it a party like the instances above, where a group of relatives and friends hung around for a few drinks? Or was he alone with his ex, hanging out for hours and drinking together?

Very different answer depending on what actually occurred.

Anonymous wrote:I’m not divorced but I went to a 5yo birthday party yesterday and there was alcohol and we stayed until 10.

We often have guests stay past midnight.

I am assuming there were other friends there.

What is the problem? You are dating a parent.

Same! Also went to a kid’s birthday party and also not divorced but the hosts broke out the good wine around 7:30. The kids stayed up late watching a move in the playroom while a group of grownups chatted in the kitchen.

There’s a big difference between going to a five year old’s party at 2pm, staying until 10pm — long after all of the other guests have left — and drinking with your ex after kid is in bed versus going to a 6pm birthday dinner for your 15 year old and staying until 10pm because your kid is still awake and other guests are still around, and you had wine with dinner. With no details, who knows what the story is?

Op, you are very insecure. Have you dated single fathers before?

Anonymous wrote:I always find it interesting that three pages in, OP has not returned. Is this a troll? Bored teenagers posting on a Saturday night?

Why should she come back so you can attack her some more?

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Anonymous wrote:I would be concerned that you are not ready to date a father with family obligations.

Plus 1

Kid should always come first

Care to explain which is putting the kids first?

A. Getting drunk at a 5 year olds birthday party?

B Hanging out and drinking until after 10 pm?