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Anonymous wrote:I’m just imagining some poor old woman in bed whose doorbell rings and she has to get up slowly and painfully and go to the door, all for some dumb prank. Or some woman home alone who sees teenagers darting around her lawn and then knock on her door. I would be absolutely terrified.

This is not a funny prank for post pubescent males to play- banging on doors where there might be one teenage girl home alone? Or an elderly person? If I saw a bunch of teen boys look like they were trying to get me to come to the door I’d absolutely call the cops and I wouldn’t sleep that night

Oh the drama!!!! It must be so hard to be you.

Do I think it's ok to be knocking on people's doors at 10 pm, NO. But you take it to the whole new level. 8th grade boys are not post pubecent. They are in the middle of being really dumb for a few years. They do dumb things. It's ok that they do dumb things at 13/14 rather than at 23/24. That's what childhood used to be for. If they were all grown and able to make rational, mature decisions they wouldn't need us.

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The cops brought home a group of kids who were…..walking around? Does your area have a teen curfew? What law were they breaking?

This.

Is there anything actually illegal happening here?

I'm not going to argue that this was a "nice" or "neighborly" thing to do, but it seems pretty harmless.

They weren’t charged with doing anything illegal.

Emden of its not illegal its stupid. Like the police said people have guns and will use them. Right canderas are everywhere. It's not like the old days where you can set off cherry bombs at the park.

It’s not stupid. It’s nasty. They’re waking up kids, the elderly, people who are trying to get some decent sleep for an early morning at work. Where is the empathy?

I think this is the angle that you should take when talking with your kid about it. No, don't ground them for a month, but do give some sort of punishment. If they will tell you which houses, perhaps you should go over there with them to apologize and offer to do some yard work for the homeowner. If they can't (or don't want to) remember which houses, then take away phones and screens for a couple of days and have them do chores at your house. Remind them that they need to be very, very careful and think of scared people with guns in their homes. Tell them that you never ever again want the cops to come to your door to discuss your son.

With your lax discipline your kids will been doing it again next week and you’ll be planning a funeral for the one that got shot. Discipline them more harshly the first time especially when young so they think twice before they act next time. A few days without a phone might be worth it to try again, but grounded for a month I’d think twice if I were a kid. They’re not making prank calls they’re knocking on doors of people with guns, think about that next time before you assign 2 days discipline.

This how gun nuts have ruined our society. It's sad to tell kids that neighbors could shoot them.

Anonymous wrote:My 8th grader had friends spend the night. They went out to the park down the street (very safe master planned community) around 10 and about 30 minutes later my doorbell rang and it was 2 cops and my kid and his friends. The cops let me know they got a call and found the kids walking. The kids admitted and were honest and kind of in shock. I couldn't believe they would be so stupid but I realize the collective wisdom of 6 8th grade boys is actually dumb and risky. The cops told them they were putting themselves in a lot of danger because people around here wouldn't hesitate to use a gun in a situation like that in this day and age. They were not wrong. The kids definitely learned their lesson.

How would you handle this with the other parents? One kid already told his mom. Others told me they want to be the ones to tell their parents in the morning, which I understand. I should follow up with a text to the parents later in the day to see if they have spoken with their kid, right? I would want to know and I don't want the parents to think I am not taking responsibility.

Anonymous wrote:I’m just imagining some poor old woman in bed whose doorbell rings and she has to get up slowly and painfully and go to the door, all for some dumb prank. Or some woman home alone who sees teenagers darting around her lawn and then knock on her door. I would be absolutely terrified.

This is not a funny prank for post pubescent males to play- banging on doors where there might be one teenage girl home alone? Or an elderly person? If I saw a bunch of teen boys look like they were trying to get me to come to the door I’d absolutely call the cops and I wouldn’t sleep that night

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The cops brought home a group of kids who were…..walking around? Does your area have a teen curfew? What law were they breaking?

This.

Is there anything actually illegal happening here?

I'm not going to argue that this was a "nice" or "neighborly" thing to do, but it seems pretty harmless.

They weren’t charged with doing anything illegal.

Emden of its not illegal its stupid. Like the police said people have guns and will use them. Right canderas are everywhere. It's not like the old days where you can set off cherry bombs at the park.

It’s not stupid. It’s nasty. They’re waking up kids, the elderly, people who are trying to get some decent sleep for an early morning at work. Where is the empathy?

Fine. It's nasty (in your mind, but we'll go with that). Still not illegal, and calling the police (or pulling a gun!!) is absurd.

It is illegal, which is the part that is absurd.

A ding dong ditch is illegal? OK. Can I get a cite for that, please?

We're gonna need a lockup around Halloween for all the elementary schoolers in my neighborhood.

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Anonymous wrote:This is so freaking funny. But the comments are NOT it. They were knocking on doors and running away laughing. Big freaking deal. There are 8th graders having sex, drinking, and smoking weed.

We have had it done to us before and I laugh and think of when we did it as kids. If they were smarter, they would get a Fios or Comcast remote control and start changing people's channels when they are watching tv. Take it to the next level. LOL

Having sex, drinking, smoking weed? What 8th grade single mom environment are you used to

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The cops brought home a group of kids who were…..walking around? Does your area have a teen curfew? What law were they breaking?

This.

Is there anything actually illegal happening here?

I'm not going to argue that this was a "nice" or "neighborly" thing to do, but it seems pretty harmless.

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Anonymous wrote:"Very safe master planned community" does not go with "would not hesitate to use a gun"

Try again

That’s why it’s safe. You respect your boundaries.

Anonymous wrote:This is so freaking funny. But the comments are NOT it. They were knocking on doors and running away laughing. Big freaking deal. There are 8th graders having sex, drinking, and smoking weed.

We have had it done to us before and I laugh and think of when we did it as kids. If they were smarter, they would get a Fios or Comcast remote control and start changing people's channels when they are watching tv. Take it to the next level. LOL

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The cops brought home a group of kids who were…..walking around? Does your area have a teen curfew? What law were they breaking?

This.

Is there anything actually illegal happening here?

I'm not going to argue that this was a "nice" or "neighborly" thing to do, but it seems pretty harmless.

They weren’t charged with doing anything illegal.

Emden of its not illegal its stupid. Like the police said people have guns and will use them. Right canderas are everywhere. It's not like the old days where you can set off cherry bombs at the park.

It’s not stupid. It’s nasty. They’re waking up kids, the elderly, people who are trying to get some decent sleep for an early morning at work. Where is the empathy?

I think this is the angle that you should take when talking with your kid about it. No, don't ground them for a month, but do give some sort of punishment. If they will tell you which houses, perhaps you should go over there with them to apologize and offer to do some yard work for the homeowner. If they can't (or don't want to) remember which houses, then take away phones and screens for a couple of days and have them do chores at your house. Remind them that they need to be very, very careful and think of scared people with guns in their homes. Tell them that you never ever again want the cops to come to your door to discuss your son.

With your lax discipline your kids will been doing it again next week and you’ll be planning a funeral for the one that got shot. Discipline them more harshly the first time especially when young so they think twice before they act next time. A few days without a phone might be worth it to try again, but grounded for a month I’d think twice if I were a kid. They’re not making prank calls they’re knocking on doors of people with guns, think about that next time before you assign 2 days discipline.

Anonymous wrote:"Very safe master planned community" does not go with "would not hesitate to use a gun"

Try again

Anonymous wrote:"Very safe master planned community" does not go with "would not hesitate to use a gun"

Try again

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Anonymous wrote:

The cops brought home a group of kids who were…..walking around? Does your area have a teen curfew? What law were they breaking?

This.

Is there anything actually illegal happening here?

I'm not going to argue that this was a "nice" or "neighborly" thing to do, but it seems pretty harmless.

They weren’t charged with doing anything illegal.

Emden of its not illegal its stupid. Like the police said people have guns and will use them. Right canderas are everywhere. It's not like the old days where you can set off cherry bombs at the park.

It’s not stupid. It’s nasty. They’re waking up kids, the elderly, people who are trying to get some decent sleep for an early morning at work. Where is the empathy?

I think this is the angle that you should take when talking with your kid about it. No, don't ground them for a month, but do give some sort of punishment. If they will tell you which houses, perhaps you should go over there with them to apologize and offer to do some yard work for the homeowner. If they can't (or don't want to) remember which houses, then take away phones and screens for a couple of days and have them do chores at your house. Remind them that they need to be very, very careful and think of scared people with guns in their homes. Tell them that you never ever again want the cops to come to your door to discuss your son.