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Anonymous wrote:I just re-read your OP. The environment you describe would not be one DS and I could deal with (bad family teeth so go to dentist more often). Where are you located?

We are in western Alexandria so looking for something there or nearby - Fall Church, Annandale, Fairfax, etc.

We go to Alexandria Childrens Dentistry and have not found that to be the case. My autistic child needs a little extra hand holding and usually they accommodate (one time one hygienist pushed back on two parents for two kids and I made a big deal about it because we have over communicated that one kid needs extra support—they capitulated and the dentist was very apologetic).

This is actually not the case. While they will occasionally allow a parent to be present for a regular cleaning, they have a strict policy banning parent's from the private treatment rooms for things like fillings or sealants. They allow a parent to walk their child back but insist parents must leave before the procedure begins.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. For reference, I also wanted to add that this dentist is very highly rated and always on the Washingtonian top docs list, etc. That's why I'm so curious if this is the norm....?

Is this a male dentist in the Friendship Heights Chevy Chase area. we experienced a similar policy - no parents in the treatment area, not even for a cleaning. Dd was anxious about getting a cavity filled and something else T the same tue (forget what). we agreed with DD to do only one procedure but then he went ahead and did both. Also, he insisted that DD (at age 8) take Valium before the procedure, but never asked about family history of addiction prior to prescribing.

The whole situation was very off to me and I never went back.

Yep - this was the dentist we went to and while he seemed great to me - my child said he was not very nice when they were alone in the room and there is a ton of "just suck it up" stuff going on.

Please don't do this. I agreed to it and my child was really affected by it for years. I feel terrible guilt that he felt scared and alone.

Anonymous wrote:Some offices started this during Covid because it’s often easier *on them* if the parents aren’t there and now they can use Covid as an excuse. It’s the same as the vets offices that still won’t allow pet owners to come in for exams and instead make you wait in the car. It’s easier *on them* for so many reasons if you’re not there. So do some places do it, yes, is it normal, no. You can easily find a pediatric dentist where the parent goes with the child for everything, even routine cleanings.

It’s a red flag for pediatric dentistry.

Anonymous wrote:There are studies that show when the parents are not present, the child may be less likely to use the parents as an excuse to act out. ie they see mom so they cry out thinking mom will let them off the hook. some pedo offices do this and some don't, it all depends on the doc.

Liar.

Some offices started this during Covid because it’s often easier *on them* if the parents aren’t there and now they can use Covid as an excuse. It’s the same as the vets offices that still won’t allow pet owners to come in for exams and instead make you wait in the car. It’s easier *on them* for so many reasons if you’re not there. So do some places do it, yes, is it normal, no. You can easily find a pediatric dentist where the parent goes with the child for everything, even routine cleanings.

Anonymous wrote:There are studies that show when the parents are not present, the child may be less likely to use the parents as an excuse to act out. ie they see mom so they cry out thinking mom will let them off the hook. some pedo offices do this and some don't, it all depends on the doc.

Only the dentists who have zero bedside manner will try to quieten 3 year olds with fear by isolating them from their parents.

Anonymous wrote:OP, is this dentist in upper NW off Wisconsin?

Female or male?

OP, is this dentist in upper NW off Wisconsin?

There are studies that show when the parents are not present, the child may be less likely to use the parents as an excuse to act out. ie they see mom so they cry out thinking mom will let them off the hook. some pedo offices do this and some don't, it all depends on the doc.

Anonymous wrote:Op here. For reference, I also wanted to add that this dentist is very highly rated and always on the Washingtonian top docs list, etc. That's why I'm so curious if this is the norm....?

Find a new dentist your gut is telling you that why in the world would you come on social media for this who cares if he’s on the top doctor list, there is one Florida who raped women in another state. Stop relying on media.

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Anonymous wrote:This wasn’t a child victim, but this is the story from an oral surgery center in Olney.

https://bethesdamagazine.com/bethesda-beat/police-fire/surgical-assistant-charged-with-sexually-assaulting-patient-county-police-say/

Why would it take a year to arrest the perp?

I was wondering that, too. Eerily, I had work done there 2 years ago and a male assistant (don't know if it was the same guy) was trying really hard to ease my anxiety. He kept offering me nitrous and he rubbed my shoulder. I told him no and, when he stepped out of the room, I told/asked the female assistant not to leave me alone with him. I think the surgeon running the practice could be sued. The office was chaotic and many of the staff were unprofessional. I went to another practice for follow up care. The guy made my skin crawl at a time when I was already vulnerable.

Anonymous wrote:This wasn’t a child victim, but this is the story from an oral surgery center in Olney.

https://bethesdamagazine.com/bethesda-beat/police-fire/surgical-assistant-charged-with-sexually-assaulting-patient-county-police-say/

Why would it take a year to arrest the perp?

Anonymous wrote:What? No. Time for a new dentist. How do these dentists stay in business and what parents are allowing this?

Exactly. How would ANY parent ALLOW this?!?

Immediately FIRE and REPORT any doctor who suggests you leave your child with him.