Just want to say the OP sounds like a sensible and responsible parent. She has good objective distance on her kids situation and seems comfortable properly deferring to their needs despite how sensitive this must be for her

I think it’s natural for kids to be more resistant to a same sex step parent. My mom kind of pressed her boyfriend on us and we ended up despising him. We had no problem with the stepmother. Play the long game - if you do see a future with this guy he might have a better long term relationship with the kids if introduced later

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Anonymous wrote:Kids first, BFs dead last. Give it a few more years. Just date him when the kids are at their dad's place.

This. Kids are the victims of their parents’ bad choices.

Oh, shut up. You come on here all the time with this BS. Go way you shrew!

No. We adult children of divorce will continue to tell the truth about our experiences and disrupt the fake rosy narratives spun here about kids and divorce. Deal with it, you shrew.

DP

Why don't you find a therapist to continue your truth telling? Will be way more productive for you and everyone who has to deal with you, adult child.

I'm not sure if this is what PP's reasons are but i speak out on these things hoping that it will cause divorcing parents to see the harm that they could cause their children and possibly reconsider their actions.

You clearly have not dealt with some very unresolved issues after your parents split. You need to see a professional to help you get some healing and closure.

I am also a product of divorce and was happy to see my parents divorce. They were terrible for each other and my mom deserved so much better. Not every divorce is detrimental to kids involved.