Anonymous wrote:Why does it matter that she's a nanny? Does her opinion carry less weight?

+1

And didn’t you learn in school not to talk during class? I bet you were much louder than you thought.

Anonymous wrote:I lived for Story Times at the library and Music Together classes because that's where I met mom friends. I get it. But during the actual activity, we participated in that. Then we walked to the playground or park, etc, and chatted there while the kids played. Talking during the activity is rude to the teacher/librarian and rude to the other people participating.

This! Talk before or after. I had horrible PPD and desperately needed friends during that time, and met most of my mom friends during a library story time. During the program, we put our phones away, stopped talking to each other, and focused on the librarian leading the program and on our kids. It's like 30 minutes, it's not that long.

And then afterwards we went out for coffee for an hour and talked while our kids ate and fell asleep.

The nanny was right. It's not a social time. It's for the kids and when caregivers don't model good class behavior for the kids (listening, not talking to each other, not looking at phones), the kids absorb that and it impacts their enjoyment.

I used to go to a story time with my DD when she was a baby and there were many parents and nannies there who would ignore their kids, stare at their phones, and talk to each other. It was super distracting. I think it's really rude to both the people leading the class and to others who came for the event, not to overhear your conversation.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I defined her as a nanny because she was not the one paying for the class and she’s not the one desperately lonely and in need of adult conversation during the day!!! I don’t think if her as the help!!!

Perhaps her mental health is harmed by all your chatting as it affects the child she is taking care of?

Think of others and not just yourself OP.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I defined her as a nanny because she was not the one paying for the class and she’s not the one desperately lonely and in need of adult conversation during the day!!! I don’t think if her as the help!!!

Oh this is rich. A SAHM with a breadwinner DH claiming her lot in life is worse than a (most likely underpaid) nanny.

I agree w your sentiment but a lot of nannies, mine included, are well respected and very highly paid.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I defined her as a nanny because she was not the one paying for the class and she’s not the one desperately lonely and in need of adult conversation during the day!!! I don’t think if her as the help!!!

Oh this is rich. A SAHM with a breadwinner DH claiming her lot in life is worse than a (most likely underpaid) nanny.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I defined her as a nanny because she was not the one paying for the class and she’s not the one desperately lonely and in need of adult conversation during the day!!! I don’t think if her as the help!!!

She’s a professional nanny. She wants things done right and is paid to get a good experience for her kid.

Anonymous wrote:My friend and I take our toddlers to a Music Together class. We weren’t talking loudly and certainly were not talking during the whole class. When we were leaving this nanny came up to me and asked me to please not talk to my friend during class. The teacher never said anything so we clearly weren’t bothering her. I was kinda speechless when this nanny scolded me!

Was she rude? WWYD?

No she sounds like a nanny that cares. My nanny is awesome and she probably would’ve complained to the teacher about you afterwards!

You were rude, not her.

I lived for Story Times at the library and Music Together classes because that's where I met mom friends. I get it. But during the actual activity, we participated in that. Then we walked to the playground or park, etc, and chatted there while the kids played. Talking during the activity is rude to the teacher/librarian and rude to the other people participating.

Anonymous wrote:Why does it matter that she's a nanny? Does her opinion carry less weight?

+1 Unbelievable.

Music Together is definitely not the class you should take with your toddler if you want to socialize with other adults. Sign up for Gymboree (or whatever gym classes are open now). Music together expects adult and child participation. I'm sure you were annoying the teacher.

Anonymous wrote:MUSIC.
TOGETHER.

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MUSIC.
TOGETHER.

How do people not know to zip it during a music class? Seriously??? I'm SURE the teacher was annoyed with the talking.