Regardless of the legalities or financial reasons for or against marriage, I have fought harder for my relationship because I was married. If we were dating, I would have walked long ago and missed out on what became a wonderful partnership.

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Anonymous wrote:It's certainly a better deal for women than it is for men

I agree with this. I don’t see why most men get married.

This is untrue: men with SAHW perform better in career vs those who are unmarried. They have a free laborer on everything else at home.

Selection bias. The guys who are career high performers are more likely to get a SAHW but they'd have great careers anyway even if they didn't get married.

Studies don’t support this.

What studies? Cite please.

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Anonymous wrote:I love being with my husband. Why would I want to be single when I have a great partner?

How old are you and how long have you been married? I had a great marriage for the first 16 years. It went down hill fast and then crashed and burned.

Not the PP but I love my H and we’ve been married 22 years. He’s the best person I know. Ymmv but that’s mine.

Anonymous wrote:It's certainly a better deal for women than it is for men

Thank you have it backwards and it’s way better for men than it is for women!

There is no "gender bias" in marital health and happiness. Men do not benefit more than women.

"the effects of marital status, marital transitions, and marital quality on psychological well-being are similar for men and women."

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4018193/

"Recent studies evaluating the interaction between marital status and gender have reported that the health effects of marriage are equally distributed among men and women. Nonetheless, the perception marriage only benefits men persists, resistant to current realities and compounded by improper analysis."

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4981792/

You really don’t know anyone with a happy marriage? Sad.

It’s absolutely not worth getting married if you are expected to have children and you are expected to work full-time. It’s better to be single in this scenario. I only think marriage works if the man can support the family and the woman doesn’t have to work and there’s enough money that in case they divorce the woman has enough to live on. Otherwise it’s not worth risking stopping working and it’s not worth getting married at all even if there are kids.

I will advise my daughters to not get married. Only exception would be if the guy is loaded and they had a prenup to secure that she would get something in the event of divorce and she did not have to work. Othwerwise don’t get married and keep your own money.

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Anonymous wrote:It's certainly a better deal for women than it is for men

I agree with this. I don’t see why most men get married.

This is untrue: men with SAHW perform better in career vs those who are unmarried. They have a free laborer on everything else at home.

Selection bias. The guys who are career high performers are more likely to get a SAHW but they'd have great careers anyway even if they didn't get married.

Studies don’t support this.

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Anonymous wrote:No. Even if you want kids. There is no guarantee you’re going to get a guy who will be a good dad

You're guaranteed to have a crap dad if you aren't married to the guy.

NP here…not true
He is a way better dad divorced. When were married, he did absolutely zero.

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Anonymous wrote:It's certainly a better deal for women than it is for men

A number of studies report that single women tend to be healthier and less depressed, living longer than married women. Single women generally experience fewer stresses and compromises than married women. Furthermore, single women feel more empowered, enjoying greater personal autonomy and freedoms than married women largely because they don’t juggle challenging multiple roles at work and home.

Wives are generally less happy than single women, with many resentful of being married to the wrong man. Consequently, large numbers of marriages, estimated at no less than half in France, Russia and the United States end in divorce or separation. Women are far more likely to file for divorce and report feeling happier after ending their marriages. Such unhappiness is not limited to women married to men – women married to other women are more likely to divorce than married male same-sex couples. Women have higher expectations of marriage than men and higher demands for meaningful communication and relationship quality, especially with regard to affection and intimacy.

https://archive-yaleglobal.yale.edu/content/should-women-stay-single

This is also selection bias. Women who are not able to function on their own get married. For men, it’s the opposite.

Citation please. This doesn’t ring true at all to me.

Anonymous wrote:I love being with my husband. Why would I want to be single when I have a great partner?

How old are you and how long have you been married? I had a great marriage for the first 16 years. It went down hill fast and then crashed and burned.

I love being with my husband. Why would I want to be single when I have a great partner?

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Anonymous wrote:It's certainly a better deal for women than it is for men

A number of studies report that single women tend to be healthier and less depressed, living longer than married women. Single women generally experience fewer stresses and compromises than married women. Furthermore, single women feel more empowered, enjoying greater personal autonomy and freedoms than married women largely because they don’t juggle challenging multiple roles at work and home.

Wives are generally less happy than single women, with many resentful of being married to the wrong man. Consequently, large numbers of marriages, estimated at no less than half in France, Russia and the United States end in divorce or separation. Women are far more likely to file for divorce and report feeling happier after ending their marriages. Such unhappiness is not limited to women married to men – women married to other women are more likely to divorce than married male same-sex couples. Women have higher expectations of marriage than men and higher demands for meaningful communication and relationship quality, especially with regard to affection and intimacy.

https://archive-yaleglobal.yale.edu/content/should-women-stay-single

This is also selection bias. Women who are not able to function on their own get married. For men, it’s the opposite.

Anonymous wrote:It's certainly a better deal for women than it is for men

A number of studies report that single women tend to be healthier and less depressed, living longer than married women. Single women generally experience fewer stresses and compromises than married women. Furthermore, single women feel more empowered, enjoying greater personal autonomy and freedoms than married women largely because they don’t juggle challenging multiple roles at work and home.

Wives are generally less happy than single women, with many resentful of being married to the wrong man. Consequently, large numbers of marriages, estimated at no less than half in France, Russia and the United States end in divorce or separation. Women are far more likely to file for divorce and report feeling happier after ending their marriages. Such unhappiness is not limited to women married to men – women married to other women are more likely to divorce than married male same-sex couples. Women have higher expectations of marriage than men and higher demands for meaningful communication and relationship quality, especially with regard to affection and intimacy.

https://archive-yaleglobal.yale.edu/content/should-women-stay-single

If you want children, then yes - assuming you marry a decent man who will be a good provider and father. Children of married parents do far better than those born to single mothers. No I am not knocking single moms, just quoting stats.

If you were raised by a good father, you know this.

Outside of raising children, there are some tax and financial benefits but I don't see that as worth it. For either men or women.