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Anonymous wrote:Au pair

Skeptical Pp here. This is decent option. In Addition to daycare.

OP here. Thank you but we aren’t interested in daycare. And I’m assuming au pairs get sick as often as nannies.

In 10+ years with APs, I can count the number of "sick" days on the fingers of one hand. It's not that they are necessarily wonderful, they generally can't fake illnesses as easily, don't have "car problems," or sick children at home, and they know that we will awaken them if they happen to oversleep. I assume live-in nannies would be similar in this regard.

More so, because we have enough integrity to not try to fake in the first place, and we're adults who choose this, so we have enough professional care to not sleep in and have our employers wake us up...

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Anonymous wrote:Au pair

Skeptical Pp here. This is decent option. In Addition to daycare.

OP here. Thank you but we aren’t interested in daycare. And I’m assuming au pairs get sick as often as nannies.

In 10+ years with APs, I can count the number of "sick" days on the fingers of one hand. It's not that they are necessarily wonderful, they generally can't fake illnesses as easily, don't have "car problems," or sick children at home, and they know that we will awaken them if they happen to oversleep. I assume live-in nannies would be similar in this regard.

Neither DH nor I can miss work easily, OP. We have an extremely reliable nanny and grandparents within walking distance. We never had to look further than my parents the two times in six years that nanny had to call in sick but we also have a housekeeper who could take over if it came to it as well as a back-up nurse service provided by my co tract with the hospital where I work.

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Anonymous wrote:What would you do if you got sick? My kids wanted their mom around when they were sick. Trying not to judge, but hopefully your employer can be understanding. Instead of coming up with backup childcare plans, figure out back up work plans.

Again, it’s not the flexible employer in jobs like these. It’s thinks like postponing your knee replacement because your surgeon’s kid had a cold and his nanny was sick or cancelling your flight because the pilot’s nanny had the flu.

It would seem smart not to have kids if both parents are permanently committed to jobs like pilot and doctor (very rare) where they have zero flexibility whatsoever. Not sure what OP wants. Not open to daycare, in center or in someone’s home, as pairs “get sick like nannies,” so no go — maybe a childcare cyborg that waits in the closet until the kid gets sick?

I think a nanny, then a grandmother, then a back up agency, and then a housekeeper is a pretty good bet than one will be available for seven hours!!!

Seriously!! Jesus, people, the OP is covering all bases. All this hysteria for nothing!

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Anonymous wrote:What would you do if you got sick? My kids wanted their mom around when they were sick. Trying not to judge, but hopefully your employer can be understanding. Instead of coming up with backup childcare plans, figure out back up work plans.

Again, it’s not the flexible employer in jobs like these. It’s thinks like postponing your knee replacement because your surgeon’s kid had a cold and his nanny was sick or cancelling your flight because the pilot’s nanny had the flu.

It would seem smart not to have kids if both parents are permanently committed to jobs like pilot and doctor (very rare) where they have zero flexibility whatsoever. Not sure what OP wants. Not open to daycare, in center or in someone’s home, as pairs “get sick like nannies,” so no go — maybe a childcare cyborg that waits in the closet until the kid gets sick?

I think a nanny, then a grandmother, then a back up agency, and then a housekeeper is a pretty good bet than one will be available for seven hours!!!

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Anonymous wrote:What would you do if you got sick? My kids wanted their mom around when they were sick. Trying not to judge, but hopefully your employer can be understanding. Instead of coming up with backup childcare plans, figure out back up work plans.

Again, it’s not the flexible employer in jobs like these. It’s thinks like postponing your knee replacement because your surgeon’s kid had a cold and his nanny was sick or cancelling your flight because the pilot’s nanny had the flu.

It would seem smart not to have kids if both parents are permanently committed to jobs like pilot and doctor (very rare) where they have zero flexibility whatsoever. Not sure what OP wants. Not open to daycare, in center or in someone’s home, as pairs “get sick like nannies,” so no go — maybe a childcare cyborg that waits in the closet until the kid gets sick?

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone else dying to know what sort of industry OP works in where she can't miss a day of work but is out of the house for 7 hours total each day including commute?

I’m guessing a surgeon. Something like breast cancer surgery or knee replacement - those are the surgeries that are scheduled in the morning. Like out patient surgery.

I’m thinking college professor.

Or research scientist.

Maybe a feature film director or DP. A production can lose a million dollars a day.

Endocrinologist. We made an appointment with an endocrinologist for my child that had a four week wait. If he missed our appointment due to his kid’s cold or his nanny out, I would be devastated.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone else dying to know what sort of industry OP works in where she can't miss a day of work but is out of the house for 7 hours total each day including commute?

I’m guessing a surgeon. Something like breast cancer surgery or knee replacement - those are the surgeries that are scheduled in the morning. Like out patient surgery.

I’m thinking college professor.

Or research scientist.

Maybe a feature film director or DP. A production can lose a million dollars a day.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone else dying to know what sort of industry OP works in where she can't miss a day of work but is out of the house for 7 hours total each day including commute?

I’m guessing a surgeon. Something like breast cancer surgery or knee replacement - those are the surgeries that are scheduled in the morning. Like out patient surgery.

I don't think I have met a surgeon who STARTS work as late as 8am (although I think the OP is saying that she leaves the house at 8am which is even later). A friend of mine is a surgeon whose first surgery is usually scheduled for before 8am and she has to be there well before that. I have a bunch of doctor friend who rotated through surgery specialities in med school and those were always the earliest starting specialties. Maybe possible if in a surgery center where it is all out patient and you don't have to do rounds in the morning or something.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone else dying to know what sort of industry OP works in where she can't miss a day of work but is out of the house for 7 hours total each day including commute?

I’m guessing a surgeon. Something like breast cancer surgery or knee replacement - those are the surgeries that are scheduled in the morning. Like out patient surgery.

I’m thinking college professor.

Or research scientist.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone else dying to know what sort of industry OP works in where she can't miss a day of work but is out of the house for 7 hours total each day including commute?

I’m guessing a surgeon. Something like breast cancer surgery or knee replacement - those are the surgeries that are scheduled in the morning. Like out patient surgery.

I’m thinking college professor.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone else dying to know what sort of industry OP works in where she can't miss a day of work but is out of the house for 7 hours total each day including commute?

I’m guessing a surgeon. Something like breast cancer surgery or knee replacement - those are the surgeries that are scheduled in the morning. Like out patient surgery.

Judge.