If OP is not a troll, I hope they see that in the end they cannot control how others will percieve any gift inheritance. Remember none of them are entitled to anything. You could give it all to charity.

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Anonymous wrote:I have 2 sons and each son has 2 kids. One grandson has mild autism. He graduated high school, got a job which he quit amd will be starting an apprenticeship.

Should I split my sizeable will 1/3 to each son and 1/3 to this grandson?

Why would you leave the other grandkids out of your will? How unfair. Why this favoritism?

This grandson will need the money. The others can get the money from their paren5ts when they die.

And what makes you think the other grandkids DON'T need the money?

I would hate to be the left out grandkid.

DP. Because the other ones don’t have a developmental disability….

Not to say something won’t happen that will create a need for them in the future.

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Anonymous wrote:I have 2 sons and each son has 2 kids. One grandson has mild autism. He graduated high school, got a job which he quit amd will be starting an apprenticeship.

Should I split my sizeable will 1/3 to each son and 1/3 to this grandson?

Why would you leave the other grandkids out of your will? How unfair. Why this favoritism?

This grandson will need the money. The others can get the money from their parents when they die.

No guarantee the adult kids will have any money left over or will feel obligated to leave their kids money.

This. My parents inherited a modest about and feel zero obligation to leave anything to their children. Other grandchildren should understand that a SN grandchild will need more help than they do, but depending on the amounts available perhaps a small amount for the other grandchildren would be a nice gesture to let them know you're thinking of them too. Or at least a letter explaining why. I think it depends on the amounts. If its $100K, that won't be enough to support the SN grandchild. If its $1M, surely you could spare a bit for the other grandkids too. If its a large amount, put it in trust paying income to your children and the SN grandchild during their lives, and the remainder to your other grandchildren.

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Anonymous wrote:I have 2 sons and each son has 2 kids. One grandson has mild autism. He graduated high school, got a job which he quit amd will be starting an apprenticeship.

Should I split my sizeable will 1/3 to each son and 1/3 to this grandson?

Why would you leave the other grandkids out of your will? How unfair. Why this favoritism?

This grandson will need the money. The others can get the money from their paren5ts when they die.

And what makes you think the other grandkids DON'T need the money?

I would hate to be the left out grandkid.

DP. Because the other ones don’t have a developmental disability….

Well. That’s a bad argument. Everyone needs money. Just bc the other grandkids do not have disabilities doesn’t mean they don’t/won’t need money. I’m not saying I think OP has to split $$ equally bc it makes sense to me that things are not always perfectly equal and this situation seems like a time that it would be ok to have an uneven split. However, for you to say that the other grandkids dont need $$ is just stupid. Of course they do: college, grad school, their own medical expenses one day, who knows what else—Debts and just every day expenses that are difficult to fund for many people…everyone needs money.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have 2 sons and each son has 2 kids. One grandson has mild autism. He graduated high school, got a job which he quit amd will be starting an apprenticeship.

Should I split my sizeable will 1/3 to each son and 1/3 to this grandson?

Why would you leave the other grandkids out of your will? How unfair. Why this favoritism?

This grandson will need the money. The others can get the money from their paren5ts when they die.

And what makes you think the other grandkids DON'T need the money?

I would hate to be the left out grandkid.

DP. Because the other ones don’t have a developmental disability….

That’s weird so people who don’t have autism don’t need money also?

Agree. She is being terrible esp since the kid had a job and also will do an apprenticeship. He can't be that disabled.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have 2 sons and each son has 2 kids. One grandson has mild autism. He graduated high school, got a job which he quit amd will be starting an apprenticeship.

Should I split my sizeable will 1/3 to each son and 1/3 to this grandson?

Why would you leave the other grandkids out of your will? How unfair. Why this favoritism?

This grandson will need the money. The others can get the money from their paren5ts when they die.

And what makes you think the other grandkids DON'T need the money?

I would hate to be the left out grandkid.

DP. Because the other ones don’t have a developmental disability….

That’s weird so people who don’t have autism don’t need money also?

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Your point?

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Anonymous wrote:I have 2 sons and each son has 2 kids. One grandson has mild autism. He graduated high school, got a job which he quit amd will be starting an apprenticeship.

Should I split my sizeable will 1/3 to each son and 1/3 to this grandson?

Why would you leave the other grandkids out of your will? How unfair. Why this favoritism?

This grandson will need the money. The others can get the money from their paren5ts when they die.

And what makes you think the other grandkids DON'T need the money?

I would hate to be the left out grandkid.

DP. Because the other ones don’t have a developmental disability….

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Anonymous wrote:Only do it if you are 100% sure you would be fine if grandson blew all the money on crap within a year, rather than use it wisely. Because that is what will likely happen.

That’s what trusts are for. Especially as several posters have repeatedly said, OP should use a special needs trust.

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Anonymous wrote:You can't do that. They will hate each other for life.

And if they are equally helping with you or spending time with you, and you split it equally, they will really hate each other for life.

If they are NOT …

Anonymous wrote:You can't do that. They will hate each other for life.

And if they are equally helping with you or spending time with you, and you split it equally, they will really hate each other for life.

Only do it if you are 100% sure you would be fine if grandson blew all the money on crap within a year, rather than use it wisely. Because that is what will likely happen.

OP you can do what you want but I strongly suggest you create a cover story. Perhaps let everyone know you're leaving your money to charity and quietly let the parent of the autistic grandchild know that it's for him and to keep it quiet to avoid family squabbles?

OP- I would never begrudge a family member with greater needs more benefits. I would divide equally among sons and then talk to parent about a trust fund.