Anonymous wrote:I really wouldn't care one way or the other, unless there were other red flags.
Anonymous wrote:(OP): Thanks for the feedback. He's controlling in other ways too and weird about how I spend my time/with whom. It makes me uneasy.
Anonymous wrote:Is it weird that my bf wants me to share my location? He offered to do it for me, too. I'm not sure I'm comfortable with it.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I can see why somebody would want to know. To make sure you get home at night. One big one there. Yes, you can text, but it is an added layer.
But don't do it. It is actually quick addictive to see where your SOs are, and that can get invasive.
This is not true. Calling instead of texting would be the added layer you are thinking of.
Anonymous wrote:I can see why somebody would want to know. To make sure you get home at night. One big one there. Yes, you can text, but it is an added layer.
But don't do it. It is actually quick addictive to see where your SOs are, and that can get invasive.
Anonymous wrote:It has a “share for 24 hours” thing that can be really useful if you’re coordinating comings and goings. But permanently is a no for me.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:(OP): Thanks for the feedback. He's controlling in other ways too and weird about how I spend my time/with whom. It makes me uneasy.
There you have it.
Time for this boyfriend to become an "ex"?
On its face, sharing location can be creepy, or not. I think the more you are considered one household, the less odd it is. But if you're dating someone who is controlling and abusive, at least emotionally, then this is just one more way for him to control you. And that's not OK.
The person for you will be excited that you have friends and hobbies. He'll WANT you to have friend time, and me time, away from him. The person for you will trust you without interrogating you or making such a big stink that you just avoid things you previously loved. The person for you would never ever want you to give up your spark.
Can we help you brainstorm ways to get away from him?
Anonymous wrote:(OP): Thanks for the feedback. He's controlling in other ways too and weird about how I spend my time/with whom. It makes me uneasy.