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Anonymous wrote:Texting right now with my best male friend. Love this man. I’m married. If I wasn’t… He’s gorgeous, 50ish looks 40 (no joke). Widower who raised two kids. He’s an empty nester. Recently single after a long term relationship. He doesn’t use dating apps. He also doesn’t mix business with pleasure. He wants my advice about a couple of irons in the fire. He’s in DMV weekly. Home base is NY. It was an interesting conversation because he doesn’t want a a hookup, nor a serious relationship right now but I know him better than he knows himself. He loves being in a relationship. He turned down a 34 yo recently.. Seems like 40-45 is perfect no? I feel like playing matchmaker here.

I might be interested if he was not in NY. Once a week is fine but I am not available on the same day every week. 50 might give me pause though. I am 44. I have only dated men 36-40.

I'm also 44. Used to date much older men, but now the 26-40-year olds come up to me and I like it.
Just looked through bunch of profiles for guys age 40-50 on match and they all look old. OP, find him someone 50+.

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Anonymous wrote:Well, what did you expect?? These single old guys have been thrown back by their wives not because they have redeeming qualities. They are defective. Stay single, join a book club, get a toy for a boyfriend.

So divorced middle age women are damaged and defective too, right?

Yes, of course, many of them are. Women are more likely to initiate divorce though, which leads to there being more undesirable men on the middle aged market.

The divorces are initiated by women who wildly overestimate their value on the dating market. Thus there are at least as many undesirable middle aged women out there, if not more.

Women don't initiate divorces because they think they'll do better. They do it because they would rather be single than stay with their ex.

Of course they think they’ll do better. They have such total contempt for their STBXH that they think they can easily do better than him.

This question comes up on DCUM all the time - “thinking about getting divorced, what is the dating market like?” - and other women always chime in with how they’re having lots of great sex with their terrific new boyfriends.

And men remarry because they always thing it’s the ExW fault the marriage fell apart, sex sucked etc. They repeat the same pattern of behavior in a new marriage. The only reason why it would work sometimes is a new wife too dependent on his $, or has to tolerate an old jerk for the kids, or the old jerk is too old to cheat/seek next victim and got fed up himself

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200K in New York is near poverty

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Anonymous wrote:Texting right now with my best male friend. Love this man. I’m married. If I wasn’t… He’s gorgeous, 50ish looks 40 (no joke). Widower who raised two kids. He’s an empty nester. Recently single after a long term relationship. He doesn’t use dating apps. He also doesn’t mix business with pleasure. He wants my advice about a couple of irons in the fire. He’s in DMV weekly. Home base is NY. It was an interesting conversation because he doesn’t want a a hookup, nor a serious relationship right now but I know him better than he knows himself. He loves being in a relationship. He turned down a 34 yo recently.. Seems like 40-45 is perfect no? I feel like playing matchmaker here.

I might be interested if he was not in NY. Once a week is fine but I am not available on the same day every week. 50 might give me pause though. I am 44. I have only dated men 36-40.

You’re 44 and 50 would give you pause? It’s only 6 years older than you. That seems nuts.

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Anonymous wrote:Texting right now with my best male friend. Love this man. I’m married. If I wasn’t… He’s gorgeous, 50ish looks 40 (no joke). Widower who raised two kids. He’s an empty nester. Recently single after a long term relationship. He doesn’t use dating apps. He also doesn’t mix business with pleasure. He wants my advice about a couple of irons in the fire. He’s in DMV weekly. Home base is NY. It was an interesting conversation because he doesn’t want a a hookup, nor a serious relationship right now but I know him better than he knows himself. He loves being in a relationship. He turned down a 34 yo recently.. Seems like 40-45 is perfect no? I feel like playing matchmaker here.

I might be interested if he was not in NY. Once a week is fine but I am not available on the same day every week. 50 might give me pause though. I am 44. I have only dated men 36-40.

You’re 44 and 50 would give you pause? It’s only 6 years older than you. That seems nuts.

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Anonymous wrote:Well, what did you expect?? These single old guys have been thrown back by their wives not because they have redeeming qualities. They are defective. Stay single, join a book club, get a toy for a boyfriend.

So divorced middle age women are damaged and defective too, right?

Yes, of course, many of them are. Women are more likely to initiate divorce though, which leads to there being more undesirable men on the middle aged market.

The divorces are initiated by women who wildly overestimate their value on the dating market. Thus there are at least as many undesirable middle aged women out there, if not more.

Women don't initiate divorces because they think they'll do better. They do it because they would rather be single than stay with their ex.

Of course they think they’ll do better. They have such total contempt for their STBXH that they think they can easily do better than him.

This question comes up on DCUM all the time - “thinking about getting divorced, what is the dating market like?” - and other women always chime in with how they’re having lots of great sex with their terrific new boyfriends.

And men remarry because they always thing it’s the ExW fault the marriage fell apart, sex sucked etc. They repeat the same pattern of behavior in a new marriage. The only reason why it would work sometimes is a new wife too dependent on his $, or has to tolerate an old jerk for the kids, or the old jerk is too old to cheat/seek next victim and got fed up himself

Or the first wife really was incompatible with the guy. You haven’t disproved that possibility.

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Anonymous wrote:Well, what did you expect?? These single old guys have been thrown back by their wives not because they have redeeming qualities. They are defective. Stay single, join a book club, get a toy for a boyfriend.

So divorced middle age women are damaged and defective too, right?

Yes, of course, many of them are. Women are more likely to initiate divorce though, which leads to there being more undesirable men on the middle aged market.

The divorces are initiated by women who wildly overestimate their value on the dating market. Thus there are at least as many undesirable middle aged women out there, if not more.

Women don't initiate divorces because they think they'll do better. They do it because they would rather be single than stay with their ex.

Of course they think they’ll do better. They have such total contempt for their STBXH that they think they can easily do better than him.

This question comes up on DCUM all the time - “thinking about getting divorced, what is the dating market like?” - and other women always chime in with how they’re having lots of great sex with their terrific new boyfriends.

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Anonymous wrote:Well, what did you expect?? These single old guys have been thrown back by their wives not because they have redeeming qualities. They are defective. Stay single, join a book club, get a toy for a boyfriend.

So divorced middle age women are damaged and defective too, right?

Yes, of course, many of them are. Women are more likely to initiate divorce though, which leads to there being more undesirable men on the middle aged market.

The divorces are initiated by women who wildly overestimate their value on the dating market. Thus there are at least as many undesirable middle aged women out there, if not more.

Women don't initiate divorces because they think they'll do better. They do it because they would rather be single than stay with their ex.

Of course they think they’ll do better. They have such total contempt for their STBXH that they think they can easily do better than him.

This question comes up on DCUM all the time - “thinking about getting divorced, what is the dating market like?” - and other women always chime in with how they’re having lots of great sex with their terrific new boyfriends.

And men remarry because they always thing it’s the ExW fault the marriage fell apart, sex sucked etc. They repeat the same pattern of behavior in a new marriage. The only reason why it would work sometimes is a new wife too dependent on his $, or has to tolerate an old jerk for the kids, or the old jerk is too old to cheat/seek next victim and got fed up himself

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Anonymous wrote:You are scaring us that are thinking about ending our marriages.

Hahaha, totally.

But I am a decent guy and make a lot of money so perhaps I will be ok relative to the trash

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Anonymous wrote:Well, what did you expect?? These single old guys have been thrown back by their wives not because they have redeeming qualities. They are defective. Stay single, join a book club, get a toy for a boyfriend.

So divorced middle age women are damaged and defective too, right?

Yes, of course, many of them are. Women are more likely to initiate divorce though, which leads to there being more undesirable men on the middle aged market.

The divorces are initiated by women who wildly overestimate their value on the dating market. Thus there are at least as many undesirable middle aged women out there, if not more.

Women don't initiate divorces because they think they'll do better. They do it because they would rather be single than stay with their ex.

Of course they think they’ll do better. They have such total contempt for their STBXH that they think they can easily do better than him.

This question comes up on DCUM all the time - “thinking about getting divorced, what is the dating market like?” - and other women always chime in with how they’re having lots of great sex with their terrific new boyfriends.

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Anonymous wrote:Well, what did you expect?? These single old guys have been thrown back by their wives not because they have redeeming qualities. They are defective. Stay single, join a book club, get a toy for a boyfriend.

So divorced middle age women are damaged and defective too, right?

Yes, of course, many of them are. Women are more likely to initiate divorce though, which leads to there being more undesirable men on the middle aged market.

The divorces are initiated by women who wildly overestimate their value on the dating market. Thus there are at least as many undesirable middle aged women out there, if not more.

Women don't initiate divorces because they think they'll do better. They do it because they would rather be single than stay with their ex.

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Anonymous wrote:Well, what did you expect?? These single old guys have been thrown back by their wives not because they have redeeming qualities. They are defective. Stay single, join a book club, get a toy for a boyfriend.

So divorced middle age women are damaged and defective too, right?

Yes, of course, many of them are. Women are more likely to initiate divorce though, which leads to there being more undesirable men on the middle aged market.

The divorces are initiated by women who wildly overestimate their value on the dating market. Thus there are at least as many undesirable middle aged women out there, if not more.

Women don't initiate divorces because they think they'll do better. They do it because they would rather be single than stay with their ex.

100%

Many of them think that until they actually are single, the man has moved on an started a ew family and they are still alone and their kids are messed up.

I am not suffering a single day without my ex, and dont' care whom he married. I know his character well enough to understand that this person cannot truly love anybody. Women are tools for him, and he doesn't respect them.