Anonymous
Post 06/21/2022 22:13     Subject: Nanny’s dog can’t stay
Put the dog on craigslist and pay someone $100 to take it off her hand.
Love it when people who barely have their own place and can't take the dog with them, but got to have an animal that can cost thousands of dollars when it gets sick.
Anonymous
Post 06/21/2022 22:12     Subject: Re:Nanny’s dog can’t stay
OP it seems like the problem is you told the nanny they'd have to find a solution to the dog- but maybe in a wishy washy way?- and now, from what you have said yourself, the nanny is doing no work regarding how to either get the dog trained better, sent to a daycare during her working hours (I mean this is the bare minimum solution here) or rehomed. You've stated you yourself have done all the work and she hasn't really done anything. You need to sit her down and have a come to Jesus, and tell her she has X amount of days/weeks to find somewhere else for the dog to live- and remind her that you never agreed to have the dog live in your home, and outline the different ways it is negatively affecting your husband's work and how it dislikes your children and remind her of the time the smoke alarm went off and she ignored it because she was tending to her dog. And tell her that at the end of X days/weeks, the dog WILL be gone from your home, and if that means the nanny is gone with the dog, so be it, but the dog has an end date and you are sticking to it. You need to be firm because it sounds like she is young and taking advantage of the fact that you are a pushover.
Anonymous
Post 06/21/2022 22:12     Subject: Nanny’s dog can’t stay
She left the stove to deal with the barking dog because the husband has her walking on eggshells.
Anonymous
Post 06/21/2022 22:10     Subject: Nanny’s dog can’t stay
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Here's what I think. You hired a young and inexperienced nanny because you can't afford a truly professional one. You're probably underpaying her and overworking her, and you're likely very difficult to please.

You can't tell somebody with an old dog that they have to get rid of it. And you can't have them lock the dog up in a bedroom either. And you definitely can't put a bark collar on a poor old dog.

What the hell is wrong with you?

Give that dog the run of your house and time to adjust. Teach your children by way of example. My God, OP, you're awful.


Are we living on different planets? OP hired the nanny with the absolute rule that she could not bring her dog, as a live in nanny. Now, the nanny has brought the dog anyways. OP should just fire the nanny at this point (especially after the smoke alarm incident) and find a new nanny and hope that one doesn't try to bring a dog after living there for a while.


If OP wants a nanny who treats her children like family, Step One is to treat the nanny like family. That means be nicer to the dog.


If OP had agreed to allow the dog from the get go, and the dog was just more poorly behaved than she expected, then yeah sure. But OP said no to the dog! The dog was living elsewhere because of that! She doesn't need to now allow the dog, that she didn't want and didn't agree to, not when it's affecting her husband's job and her children's safety.


Oh, spare me the drama. The dog is not affecting the husband's job and the children's safety. The dog is barking because the family has done nothing to make the dog feel at home. Do better, OP. Be kind. Set a good example for your children.
Anonymous
Post 06/21/2022 22:08     Subject: Nanny’s dog can’t stay
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Here's what I think. You hired a young and inexperienced nanny because you can't afford a truly professional one. You're probably underpaying her and overworking her, and you're likely very difficult to please.

You can't tell somebody with an old dog that they have to get rid of it. And you can't have them lock the dog up in a bedroom either. And you definitely can't put a bark collar on a poor old dog.

What the hell is wrong with you?

Give that dog the run of your house and time to adjust. Teach your children by way of example. My God, OP, you're awful.


Are we living on different planets? OP hired the nanny with the absolute rule that she could not bring her dog, as a live in nanny. Now, the nanny has brought the dog anyways. OP should just fire the nanny at this point (especially after the smoke alarm incident) and find a new nanny and hope that one doesn't try to bring a dog after living there for a while.


If OP wants a nanny who treats her children like family, Step One is to treat the nanny like family. That means be nicer to the dog.


If OP had agreed to allow the dog from the get go, and the dog was just more poorly behaved than she expected, then yeah sure. But OP said no to the dog! The dog was living elsewhere because of that! She doesn't need to now allow the dog, that she didn't want and didn't agree to, not when it's affecting her husband's job and her children's safety.
Anonymous
Post 06/21/2022 22:06     Subject: Nanny’s dog can’t stay
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Here's what I think. You hired a young and inexperienced nanny because you can't afford a truly professional one. You're probably underpaying her and overworking her, and you're likely very difficult to please.

You can't tell somebody with an old dog that they have to get rid of it. And you can't have them lock the dog up in a bedroom either. And you definitely can't put a bark collar on a poor old dog.

What the hell is wrong with you?

Give that dog the run of your house and time to adjust. Teach your children by way of example. My God, OP, you're awful.


Are we living on different planets? OP hired the nanny with the absolute rule that she could not bring her dog, as a live in nanny. Now, the nanny has brought the dog anyways. OP should just fire the nanny at this point (especially after the smoke alarm incident) and find a new nanny and hope that one doesn't try to bring a dog after living there for a while.


If OP wants a nanny who treats her children like family, Step One is to treat the nanny like family. That means be nicer to the dog.
Anonymous
Post 06/21/2022 22:03     Subject: Nanny’s dog can’t stay
Anonymous wrote:Here's what I think. You hired a young and inexperienced nanny because you can't afford a truly professional one. You're probably underpaying her and overworking her, and you're likely very difficult to please.

You can't tell somebody with an old dog that they have to get rid of it. And you can't have them lock the dog up in a bedroom either. And you definitely can't put a bark collar on a poor old dog.

What the hell is wrong with you?

Give that dog the run of your house and time to adjust. Teach your children by way of example. My God, OP, you're awful.


Are we living on different planets? OP hired the nanny with the absolute rule that she could not bring her dog, as a live in nanny. Now, the nanny has brought the dog anyways. OP should just fire the nanny at this point (especially after the smoke alarm incident) and find a new nanny and hope that one doesn't try to bring a dog after living there for a while.
Anonymous
Post 06/21/2022 22:00     Subject: Nanny’s dog can’t stay
Here's what I think. You hired a young and inexperienced nanny because you can't afford a truly professional one. You're probably underpaying her and overworking her, and you're likely very difficult to please.

You can't tell somebody with an old dog that they have to get rid of it. And you can't have them lock the dog up in a bedroom either. And you definitely can't put a bark collar on a poor old dog.

What the hell is wrong with you?

Give that dog the run of your house and time to adjust. Teach your children by way of example. My God, OP, you're awful.
Anonymous
Post 06/21/2022 21:53     Subject: Nanny’s dog can’t stay
Anonymous wrote:let the poor dog be part of the family


OP stated the dog doesn't like her children and, not to mention, has accidents on the floor. The nanny is supposed to be her employee who helps make her life easier, by watching her children. Not makes her life more difficult by bringing an untrained elderly dog into the house that barks, doesn't like her children, has accidents, and takes up the nanny's attention to the point where she LEAVES THE STOVE BURNING WITH THE ALARM GOING OFF TO TEND TO HER DOG WHEN OP'S CHILDREN ARE HOME
Anonymous
Post 06/21/2022 21:50     Subject: Nanny’s dog can’t stay
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:She needs to re-home the dog. Part of her employment is housing, but she knew the dog was not welcome when she accepted the job or got the dog. This is why it wasn’t living with her before. It sounds like you tried to make it work, but it’s disruptive to your husband’s job - the job that pays her salary.

It sounds like it is distracting her from her duties during the work day.


Uh, no. She’s not getting rid of her dog to keep OP’s children.


No she is getting rid of her dog to keep her job, and her housing.

She can choose the dog instead, that's her call, but she will lose her job and her housing.
Anonymous
Post 06/21/2022 21:50     Subject: Nanny’s dog can’t stay
let the poor dog be part of the family
Anonymous
Post 06/21/2022 21:47     Subject: Nanny’s dog can’t stay
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:She just brought the dog into your house without asking you? She either needs to find a new permanent home for the dog or board it. I don’t know of many nanny employers who would be okay with having a barking, scratching dog in their home.


She asked us and said it was a very temporary solution
But it’s been a month and she really has no options
She doesn’t want to leave but the dog can’t stay


What about giving her one more month - or three more weeks - to find a solution. Work with a trainer to get the dog to bark less and pee not on the floor, or find the dog a new home. Just realistically, it is going to be hard to find this dog a home. I'm sure your nanny knows that. This has got to be awful for her, as it is for you, too. But maybe she has a friend who will keep the dog - she could even pay a friend to keep the dog. Just, try to work with her so the dog isn't in a shelter. Old pets don't belong in shelters. It's summer, shelters are full. If she is going to euthanize the dog because there is nowhere for him to live, then it would be kinder to have a vet do it and not outsource that to a shelter.


I appreciate your kindness
She’s young and hasn’t done anything to help the situation over the last month
I had to buy the bark collar
This morning as the dog was barking and she was trying to quiet it she walked away from the stove.
The smoke detector went off, we have young kids who need her attention
I was at work but my DH was pissed as he had to jump off a work call to turn off the stove
Then the kids got upset

She’s a student and we all appreciate her so much but she doesn’t seem to be able to think through this
DH wants us to give her until Friday to find a solution
Someone mentioned doggy day care which I didn’t actually know exists!


If this isn't a troll, I'm amazed. You need to tell the nanny the dog needs to go immediately. It is scratching your doors, pissing on your carpet, barking endlessly while your husband tries to work, and now it's causing the nanny to nearly start a kitchen fire that your husband was thankfully home to prevent- otherwise, what, your kids are going to go up in flames because you want to be "nice to the nanny's dog"? Say she has 24 hours to get rid of the dog, or she can use her PTO to leave with the dog and find it a place to live.
Anonymous
Post 06/21/2022 21:44     Subject: Nanny’s dog can’t stay
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:She just brought the dog into your house without asking you? She either needs to find a new permanent home for the dog or board it. I don’t know of many nanny employers who would be okay with having a barking, scratching dog in their home.


She asked us and said it was a very temporary solution
But it’s been a month and she really has no options
She doesn’t want to leave but the dog can’t stay


What about giving her one more month - or three more weeks - to find a solution. Work with a trainer to get the dog to bark less and pee not on the floor, or find the dog a new home. Just realistically, it is going to be hard to find this dog a home. I'm sure your nanny knows that. This has got to be awful for her, as it is for you, too. But maybe she has a friend who will keep the dog - she could even pay a friend to keep the dog. Just, try to work with her so the dog isn't in a shelter. Old pets don't belong in shelters. It's summer, shelters are full. If she is going to euthanize the dog because there is nowhere for him to live, then it would be kinder to have a vet do it and not outsource that to a shelter.


I appreciate your kindness
She’s young and hasn’t done anything to help the situation over the last month
I had to buy the bark collar
This morning as the dog was barking and she was trying to quiet it she walked away from the stove.
The smoke detector went off, we have young kids who need her attention
I was at work but my DH was pissed as he had to jump off a work call to turn off the stove
Then the kids got upset

She’s a student and we all appreciate her so much but she doesn’t seem to be able to think through this
DH wants us to give her until Friday to find a solution
Someone mentioned doggy day care which I didn’t actually know exists!


Doggy daycare would only work if the dog can get along with the existing pack. Since it's elderly, that might be viable and might not. But it is an option.

Rates can run anywhere from $20/day up to over $75/day, depending on location.
Anonymous
Post 06/21/2022 21:41     Subject: Nanny’s dog can’t stay
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Barking habits when a dog feels isolated is bad for their vocal chords and psychological state. When my teen dog started to bark when he was left alone, we got an electronic dog collar that gives a little zap when the dog barks - I tried it on myself first, and it didn't hurt, but make sure you calibrate it at a low setting. It took two barks for him to stop barking. He hasn't barked since when left alone, and is left alone only rarely since one of us is usually always home. He occasional barks when we're here, usually when someone is at the door, or he senses a fox at night, and of course that's all right, we don't mind - it's "normal" barking.

You have more than a barking problem, however. It's cruel to leave a dog all day in one room without interacting with anyone. The dog will not be well-behaved when let out, because he will have pent-up mental and physical energy.

If you can tolerate it and the dog doesn't get into things, it's best that the dog be allowed to roam part of the house where there are people. Right now, you're probably not seeing their good side, because isolation is making them act out.

If you can't take it anymore, then you should discuss rehoming.


Thanks so much for this thoughtful response
We just ordered a bark collar so we’re going to start with that
Her ex worked all day and the dog was always alone, so that’s not a change
She takes a lunch break for an hour each day and takes it out
I think it’s barking so much because it’s old and cranky. I’ve actually never known a dog to bark so much
It’s not used to kids so even when it’s in our family room it’s still barking
Also it’s not trained and has stained several of the carpets so either the collar works and it stays in the room or it has to go


If the dog is elderly, it may not be continent anymore. It's almost impossible to adopt out an elderly dog, so don't count on that... you'll be looking for a new nanny first.

It sounds to me like the dog can hear the nanny and children during the day and wants to be a part of it, but then doesn't know how to interact with the children when out.
Anonymous
Post 06/21/2022 04:55     Subject: Nanny’s dog can’t stay
Anonymous wrote:Whats' the nanny's salary?
Can't she bring the dog home to her familiy?


Cant you read? The OP says the nanny doesnt have friends or families to take the dog.