More attractive. I’m 30 and recently graduated with a STEM PhD. I make good money for a woman my age and am going to have an impressive career. But I started online dating after getting vaccinated, and that does not matter at all to men. I’m fat and I noticed in job interviews it’s a detriment as well as in dating. Working on losing weight. Sometimes I wonder if it would have made more sense to major an easy subject, tried not to stress, and focused on staying thin in my twenties. I think I would be farther ahead relationship wise.

I’m pretty bright but my age is showing. I’ll choose attractiveness.

Anonymous wrote:Definitely more attractive. I’m attractive and intelligent (at least intelligent enough to graduate from a good law school and have a successful career as an attorney). I’ve had more joy, gotten more attention and admiration for my looks than my smarts by a long shot.

You've gotten joy from your own looks?

Anonymous wrote:I would just like to get rid of my Depression then I could get off medication and be attractive again. And have the motivation to truly use my intelligence.
It's holding me back from both 😞

I feel you PP. As someone who has also struggled with mental health issues I would get rid of them first and foremost. They (depression and anxiety) have been a life long challenge and have held me back as well. I'm trying, though!

Definitely more intelligent if it would correlate into more money, more professional success and more emotional intelligence. I was pretty in my youth and I'm attractive for my age (almost 50) but I've found looks to be a depreciating asset past a certain age. I don't feel the need to be more attractive at this point in my life-I'm actually fine with how I look right now. Intelligence (as long as it's the kind of pragmatic intelligence that makes you more successful) is far more valuable over a lifetime. You can work on your appearance-it's much harder to work on your intelligence level. I'm reasonably intelligent but I've made some stupid decisions and I have regrets. Plus now I'm dealing with middle aged brain fog.

You can be a gorgeous woman but once you get past a certain age does it really matter? You are viewed as "older" which unfortunately most people view as less attractive.

I’d even just take having an easier time maintaining my weight. I can’t believe the mental space it takes up and I’m not even thin (just not as fat as I would be if I gave up)

Definitely more attractive. I’m attractive and intelligent (at least intelligent enough to graduate from a good law school and have a successful career as an attorney). I’ve had more joy, gotten more attention and admiration for my looks than my smarts by a long shot.

I'm pretty smart and I'd say more attractive than average but no beauty. But I'm also in my 50s and no longer give a damn what anyone thinks of me or my looks. I'd pick more intelligent because that could be actually useful to me. I see no benefit to being able to turn a few more heads.

Honestly, I find this thread pretty depressing.

I would just stay the same.

Definitely more attractive.

Those who look good have just overall better lives.

Intelligence. I have sown my wild oats before settling down. Those days are over now regardless of what I look like. I would love to be one of those super-polyglots who can pick up new languages easily. That would be awesome!