Now I know what cocktail I’m having on the patio tonight. A delicious G&T. And I will salute OP’s SIL!

Anonymous wrote:Is this weird? My family are wine drinkers. If we all hang out together, usually there is beer or wine. We had a Memorial Day barbecue weekend last night and she brought a thermos of her own premixed gin and tonic. She says wine and beer give her a headache. Wouldn't you just not drink in this case, instead of BYO to a family gathering where it isn't offered?? I wonder about saying something to my brother just to check in. Like why would you travel with your own booze thermos??!

You are so wrong, OP. It is a Memorial Day barbecue! Of course she’d like a drink she enjoys. I don’t drink much because of calories but I knew this weekend I would splurge and have a drink at a barbecue one day and a restaurant the next. It’s a holiday weekend and beginning of summer. I’d say she’s the exact opposite of what you are describing.

And like most said, she is family. How long have they been married? A few weeks? If not then you know her preference and so why would you not have a bottle of gin just for her on a top shelf. Grab a lime and small cans of tonic at the store when buying your wine. Team SIL here.

I have a good friend who can only drink one type of wine because of migraines. She brought a bottle ONCE and told me about it. Guess what..every time she is coming over I get that wine for her as I don’t drink it.

And funnily enough, my dh is not a beer or wine drinker and never has been. He will occasionally but his preference is gin and tonic! We go to a yearly party and they always say, “ hi Larlo, gin right here for you.”

I could see if none of you drink and she did this. All she is doing is having drink like the rest of you but in a beverage she likes. Next time tell her you have her covered

Anonymous wrote:Friend was on a several day road trip and traveled w/charcuterie board items in a cooler and bottles of wine. I thought it was unusual and I wondered if, about the wine, I should be concerned. I think the Op's quesiton is reasonable.

What are you concerned about? This sounds amazing. I’ve spent many evenings with a bottle of rose and a charcuterie board. People are so strange that this “concerns” them.

Friend was on a several day road trip and traveled w/charcuterie board items in a cooler and bottles of wine. I thought it was unusual and I wondered if, about the wine, I should be concerned. I think the Op's quesiton is reasonable.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Someone who does this has an unhealthy relationship with alcohol and needs to drink and/or get drunk to have a good time.

OP on disguise 🥸.

Yep. The thread didn’t go the way she thought it would, so she’s sock-puppeting to bolster her position.

Exactly. Or else a troll trying to get a rise out of people.

Anonymous wrote:What’s weird is that you ignore her preferences when you host her.

Yeah, this is the red flag to me. Not the SIL’s behavior.

Anonymous wrote:Someone who does this has an unhealthy relationship with alcohol and needs to drink and/or get drunk to have a good time.

And the hosting family stocks up on wine because ... why, again?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Someone who does this has an unhealthy relationship with alcohol and needs to drink and/or get drunk to have a good time.

OP on disguise 🥸.

Yep. The thread didn’t go the way she thought it would, so she’s sock-puppeting to bolster her position.

Anonymous wrote:Someone who does this has an unhealthy relationship with alcohol and needs to drink and/or get drunk to have a good time.

OP on disguise 🥸.

Someone who does this has an unhealthy relationship with alcohol and needs to drink and/or get drunk to have a good time.

Anonymous wrote:My MIL does this. She brings her cocktail shaker with her cosmo to our house in the summer. She is very particular about how it's made. If I were to make it, she wouldn't like it.
I could have the ingredients at our house, but I don't always.

It’s not just you would could…the son she raised could also think of that and keep it stocked. He is capable of going to a store, yes?

Where did OP go?
I want to hang out with the SIL!
OP, I also get headaches from wine and the taste of beer is gross to me. I love g&ts and can imagine bringing some to a family gathering. I don’t understand why nobody is providing something that your SIL would like to drink. It’s a sign that nobody wants her to feel welcome. Good for her for just fixing the problem by bringing her own.

i think you are rude to not have what you know she likes. it is not a secret. you judging her for bringing her own makes you the crazy one.

My MIL does this. She brings her cocktail shaker with her cosmo to our house in the summer. She is very particular about how it's made. If I were to make it, she wouldn't like it.
I could have the ingredients at our house, but I don't always.

At almost every party that I go to people are bringing their own alcohol. It is not unusual.

You can ask her what brand of gin she likes so that you can have it stocked for the next function.