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Anonymous wrote:This would not fly with me. Sick spouse is definitely entitled to some extra rest and TLC, but they can’t just hole up in their rooms all weekend and do nothing. Single parents somehow manage. Your DH can too.

No. Sick people should hole up.in bedroom and stay out of the way.

Um, the child is sick too. He’s not exposing anyone new to the virus other than the mom, who is also being exposed by the child. In fact if he helps with the child it will reduce mom’s exposure.

Most illnesses don’t require being holed up. Again, single parents manage.

Men die years before women do, and having crappier immune systems is part of the reason.

I get it, OP. I am a SAHM so I am basically still doing my usual work while I am sick (unless I am vomiting or otherwise super sick) but he gets to take a day off work and just… be sick when he is sick. Drives me nuts and I have to constantly remind myself that he really is feeling crummy and that he really does do his fair share and then some when he is not ill.

The other thing is that when we get a stomach bug running through the house, he lays in bed for two days but never throws up and it is so hard to feel like he could possibly be as sick as I was (I always get them first and get over them faster) when he isn’t even throwing up like I was! Again have to bite my tongue a lot and remind myself that he spends the day bringing me crackers and juice when I am the one who is sick.

Anyway, for myself, I take it as a sign that I am really stressed out when I find myself thinking “I wish I could get sick enough to lie in bed for a day watching tv.” Since I it sounds like that’s about where you are, try to plan yourself something restorative for when he is better.

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Anonymous wrote:I hear you, OP. For years, DH has gotten sick with whatever DS brings home from school. Part of it is just his system. The other part of it is that he picks his nose. He denies it, but he sort of half scratches, half picks. Either way, I’m convinced it’s why he gets every cold under the sun.

Why does picking your nose make you get colds?

Because unless you’ve just seriously washed your hands right before, you are jamming a finger up your nasal passages that is likely covered with every flu or coronavirus or norovirus (the types that cause common cold) that the hand has come in contact with from touching doorknobs, tables, desks, phones, etc. The nasal passages are a terrific environment for a microbe to take root and multiply. So nose picking without proper pre and post wash protocol is absolutely a likely source of disease transmission.

Is he *really* that sick, or is he like most men and turns into a huge man baby at the first inkling of a sniffle or sore throat?

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Anonymous wrote:Every time the baby gets sick from daycare, DH catches the bug too and he gets even more sick than the baby- his immune system seems to be terrible. This is the second time in two months he’s been sick and I am going to be the sole carer of a sick child all weekend. I was very sympathetic the first time he got sick but now I’m just annoyed that he is going to get to sleep in till 9 or 10 while I do everything this weekend. Maybe this makes me heartless but I almost rather be sick and get to rest, and he be well. Any tips on what to do? He seems really sick so telling him to buck up doesn’t seem like the solution. But I’m very resentful

His behavior is unacceptable. He needs to stop getting sick and help out with his share!

How does he stop from getting sick? You should write a book entitled, "Never be Sick Again." Include the documented studies of how this works. You will make billions. You are absurd

Look this is his problem to figure out. OP needs help!

She is a SAHM and this is her job. He brings home the money. She can use the money from her hobby job to hire help.

Money cannot be the only contribution an individual makes to a marriage. Unless you want massive resentment in your marriage.

It's the most important and allows OP to work as a pastime.

If you think money is *the* most important contribution to a family with kids, you shouldn’t be having kids.

It's also important for your family members not to be sick all the time to enable a hobby job.

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Anonymous wrote:Every time the baby gets sick from daycare, DH catches the bug too and he gets even more sick than the baby- his immune system seems to be terrible. This is the second time in two months he’s been sick and I am going to be the sole carer of a sick child all weekend. I was very sympathetic the first time he got sick but now I’m just annoyed that he is going to get to sleep in till 9 or 10 while I do everything this weekend. Maybe this makes me heartless but I almost rather be sick and get to rest, and he be well. Any tips on what to do? He seems really sick so telling him to buck up doesn’t seem like the solution. But I’m very resentful

His behavior is unacceptable. He needs to stop getting sick and help out with his share!

How does he stop from getting sick? You should write a book entitled, "Never be Sick Again." Include the documented studies of how this works. You will make billions. You are absurd

Look this is his problem to figure out. OP needs help!

She is a SAHM and this is her job. He brings home the money. She can use the money from her hobby job to hire help.

Money cannot be the only contribution an individual makes to a marriage. Unless you want massive resentment in your marriage.

It's the most important and allows OP to work as a pastime.

If you think money is *the* most important contribution to a family with kids, you shouldn’t be having kids.

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Anonymous wrote:Every time the baby gets sick from daycare, DH catches the bug too and he gets even more sick than the baby- his immune system seems to be terrible. This is the second time in two months he’s been sick and I am going to be the sole carer of a sick child all weekend. I was very sympathetic the first time he got sick but now I’m just annoyed that he is going to get to sleep in till 9 or 10 while I do everything this weekend. Maybe this makes me heartless but I almost rather be sick and get to rest, and he be well. Any tips on what to do? He seems really sick so telling him to buck up doesn’t seem like the solution. But I’m very resentful

His behavior is unacceptable. He needs to stop getting sick and help out with his share!

How does he stop from getting sick? You should write a book entitled, "Never be Sick Again." Include the documented studies of how this works. You will make billions. You are absurd

Look this is his problem to figure out. OP needs help!

She is a SAHM and this is her job. He brings home the money. She can use the money from her hobby job to hire help.

Money cannot be the only contribution an individual makes to a marriage. Unless you want massive resentment in your marriage.

It's the most important and allows OP to work as a pastime.

If the child and the dh are constantly getting sick, the person working the few hours a day should think about a different childcare arrangement at the very least.

If the main breadwinner catches Covid and ends up with long Covid, OP is going to have a lot more problems than she does right now. And I say this as someone with an autoimmune disease, posting in the middle of the day, because my body can only stand to work part time now. This can happen to men as well OP, and your child may have inherited those genes from dh.

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Anonymous wrote:Every time the baby gets sick from daycare, DH catches the bug too and he gets even more sick than the baby- his immune system seems to be terrible. This is the second time in two months he’s been sick and I am going to be the sole carer of a sick child all weekend. I was very sympathetic the first time he got sick but now I’m just annoyed that he is going to get to sleep in till 9 or 10 while I do everything this weekend. Maybe this makes me heartless but I almost rather be sick and get to rest, and he be well. Any tips on what to do? He seems really sick so telling him to buck up doesn’t seem like the solution. But I’m very resentful

His behavior is unacceptable. He needs to stop getting sick and help out with his share!

How does he stop from getting sick? You should write a book entitled, "Never be Sick Again." Include the documented studies of how this works. You will make billions. You are absurd

Look this is his problem to figure out. OP needs help!

She is a SAHM and this is her job. He brings home the money. She can use the money from her hobby job to hire help.

Money cannot be the only contribution an individual makes to a marriage. Unless you want massive resentment in your marriage.

It's the most important and allows OP to work as a pastime.