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Anonymous wrote:Non-walking babies don't count, because they don't have to have a meal or a chair-- they're basically cost-free. I wouldn't make a fuss over breastfed vs formula fed, but if a woman is nursing and she doesn't bring her baby, she might have to pump during the reception or risk leaking through her dress. And it's harder to find a sitter for a really little baby. So it's really normal to say "no kids" but "yes infants".

Babies are even worse because they cry and the parents are too stupid to take their little angels out of church or reception and I did not want breastfeeding at my wedding. Sometimes you send an invitation simply to let other people know. If no reception card is enclosed this means that you are only invited to church and no gift is expected

Wow, PP, you have some very…hmm…interesting ideas about weddings. Inviting people to just the church but not the reception hasn’t been done for at least 40 or 50 years.

And specifically “No breastfeeding” at your wedding? Yikes. Would bottles have been allowed?

Maybe they just don’t like your children

Anonymous wrote:It is extremely normal for kids who are related to be included but friends kids not be included. Get over it.

I have never been to a wedding where friends and co-workers of the bride and groom brought their kids. Every wedding I have been to is either childfree with no kids at all, or nieces/nephews/cousins are invited.

Anonymous wrote:Your kids were not invited. Does not matter how many other kids were invited - yours were not.

Yes, agree, I wouldn’t think of it as a no kids wedding. It’s a wedding and the guest list included family X and couple Y and not family Y. This is commonly accepted protocol for a wedding - I think for other events it would be socially awkward but people accept that weddings are different.

But I also agree with others when it says no kids on like a wedding website I wouldn’t get offended if I saw a kid there that was close family.

Anonymous wrote:If you were so put out finding a sitter you should have stayed home

A lot of us do! We recently said no to a friend's wedding 12 hours away by car (we don't have a flying-the-family budget) because we couldn't figure out the childcare situation. But it was rescheduled twice due to covid and it was one of our best friends from an earlier stage of life, so we felt a bit of guilt and regret about not being there.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Non-walking babies don't count, because they don't have to have a meal or a chair-- they're basically cost-free. I wouldn't make a fuss over breastfed vs formula fed, but if a woman is nursing and she doesn't bring her baby, she might have to pump during the reception or risk leaking through her dress. And it's harder to find a sitter for a really little baby. So it's really normal to say "no kids" but "yes infants".

Babies are even worse because they cry and the parents are too stupid to take their little angels out of church or reception and I did not want breastfeeding at my wedding. Sometimes you send an invitation simply to let other people know. If no reception card is enclosed this means that you are only invited to church and no gift is expected

Sometimes babies are there at the insistence of the b/g parents, especially if they are grandchildren. It's not that the bride and groom especially want them there it's to prevent a MOB or MOG meltdown. Not always, of course, but sometimes compromises are made.

This is why the bride and groom pay for their wedding rather than their parents.

If you don't have childcare - one of the parents stays home. It's not that hard. If an adult doesn't want to go solo, they decline.

Anonymous wrote:OP, I get it. With my kids now older, I'm glad the wedding phase is done for me. When you consider a "no kids" invitation, you must accept that the bride and groom don't want YOUR kids there. That's what they are saying. It's hard to stomach, but you can either accept the invitation and force yourself to not react negatively for any reason or decline the invitation.

+1000

It is extremely normal for kids who are related to be included but friends kids not be included. Get over it.

Honestly the Bride & Groom probably didn’t want kids at their wedding, but wanted flower girls/ring bearer. Then family guilted them into having other family.

Anonymous wrote:I hate weddings and I no longer go out of my way to attend them. I'd be annoyed too but I have learned my lesson. Next time don't overexert yourself and skip it if it's a hassle.

This is me too.

If you were so put out finding a sitter you should have stayed home

Anonymous wrote:It's normal for their to be an exception for kids in the family/in the wedding. This is how my wedding was.

Same. The difference was 10 nieces and nephews vs 40 extra kids if we let everyone bring their kids. We would of had to find a different venue. We did made exceptions for friends traveling though.

It's normal for their to be an exception for kids in the family/in the wedding. This is how my wedding was.

I wanted all the kids at my wedding. I love all of my cousins kids and nieces and nephews. The more the merrier, plus I rarely get to see them. Then almost all of them hired babysitters because they wanted an adults night. LOL - sometimes you just can’t win.