Anonymous
Post 05/24/2022 15:44     Subject: Re:Constantly asking for play dates with cousins
Anonymous wrote:I almost wanted to cry when reading your post. I am on the receiving end, I am a parent of "THAT" child. My 5 year old DS is on the autism spectrum. When he gets too excited, he can play rough. He tries to watch himself, but he is 5. He has never hurt anyone, no injuries, thank God. But the amount of invitations to playdates and BDs has dwindled, including from our closest relatives. I hear through the grapevine that SIL has a party for her kids, my kid is not invited. Or that DH's cousin who lives 3 houses away from us has a large playdate for neighborhood kids and again, my DS is not invited. He knows he is different, he is not stupid, and it hurts him. DH and I are good at redirecting, we will take him somewhere fun, such as a zoo or a playdate with another child from his SN preschool. But it really hurts.


I’m sorry to hear that. Actually, two of my son’s best friends have some development delays, one may even have autism, but they are absolutely lovely children. My son loves playing with them and they get along great. We would never exclude a potential friend with a special need.

Anonymous
Post 05/24/2022 15:06     Subject: Re:Constantly asking for play dates with cousins
I almost wanted to cry when reading your post. I am on the receiving end, I am a parent of "THAT" child. My 5 year old DS is on the autism spectrum. When he gets too excited, he can play rough. He tries to watch himself, but he is 5. He has never hurt anyone, no injuries, thank God. But the amount of invitations to playdates and BDs has dwindled, including from our closest relatives. I hear through the grapevine that SIL has a party for her kids, my kid is not invited. Or that DH's cousin who lives 3 houses away from us has a large playdate for neighborhood kids and again, my DS is not invited. He knows he is different, he is not stupid, and it hurts him. DH and I are good at redirecting, we will take him somewhere fun, such as a zoo or a playdate with another child from his SN preschool. But it really hurts.
Anonymous
Post 05/24/2022 07:53     Subject: Constantly asking for play dates with cousins
I think it’s hilarious that OP’s internalized misogyny and need to control are soooooo entrenched that she cannot fathom that DH can darn well be in charge of staying connected with his own sister and her family.

“I really dislike my SIL and her kids” says OP, as she picks up her phone to answer yet another text and make yet another plan.

Leave. Your. Husband. To. Manage. His. Own. Family. Dynamics.

But you can’t, can you? Then you wouldn’t have a female rival to keep score against, and your life wouldn’t have quite so much drama. This kind of dynamic is, after all, how small-minded women keep their empty minds busy.