An anonymous letter won’t do anything. The parents may already know and are there in school.

Empower your child to use his or her voice. Stand up to the bully in a loud, assertive way. Practice and role play at home. If anyone touches them, defend. Don’t throw a first punch but it’s always okay to defend yourself. Don’t be pushed around. That’s how you stop a bully. We have been through this with our kids and you need to do a lot of role playing at home of your kid is worried or not assertive. Most things can be stopped with a loud commanding calm and firm voice.

I have received them and it is very unsettling.

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, once in 3rd grade I sent an anonymous letter to the boy down the street calling him a booger. I cut all the letters out of newspaper clippings.

I don’t, but day dream about sending a cousin an anonymous postcard that says “Every post you make on Facebook is a not-so-humble brag.” Its the worst - posts like “well, I guess it’s time for us to get that third car, my SVU is practical, but I really need a luxury vehicle for day-to-day.” or “Dropped DD off at school this morning after my yoga class, and saw all the other moms were in yoga clothes too, but had to wonder…how many of them actually worked out this morning like I did?” It would be cringed, but all of friends seem to give her head pats.

My daughter's friend was breaking the honor code at school and cheating on exams (writing answers on her arm) and then bragging about doing well to a circle of friends. anonymously let the teacher know. Kid was discovered on the next exam when the teacher asked everyone to show their forearms.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, I have sent one. Asking my Indian neighbor to keep his dog inside when weather gets freezing cold. Didn't work.

Why did you specify the neighbor’s ethnicity — do you see that as relevant to the problem of how he (mis)treats his dog?

Get the dog a coat because it is freezing in winter.

I wrote anonymous letters to all the colleges an abusive ex applied to and he was denied at all of them despite being highly qualified. He got into one school I didn’t write to and I got him rescinded from that one. All anonymously, although I put contact info for police reports and school administrators.

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Anonymous wrote:I have wanted to send an anonymous letter to the new boyfriend of my ex-DH’s affair partner. Just to let him know that his gf was sleeping with a married man when she was herself married. But I have self control, so I won’t actually do it.

Girl I let OW job know, her mom know, her husband know. Scorched earth, not anonymous. Never felt better.

Inventive approach but you were very lucky. If OW lost her job at any point after your letter to her employer, she probably could have come after you for damages.

Truth is a defense to slander though. So if OW did have an affair with DH, the letter writer would not be liable.

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Anonymous wrote:I have wanted to send an anonymous letter to the new boyfriend of my ex-DH’s affair partner. Just to let him know that his gf was sleeping with a married man when she was herself married. But I have self control, so I won’t actually do it.

Girl I let OW job know, her mom know, her husband know. Scorched earth, not anonymous. Never felt better.

Inventive approach but you were very lucky. If OW lost her job at any point after your letter to her employer, she probably could have come after you for damages.

Hilarious. No.

Yes. I’ve sent a letter to a crush I had hoped would read it on this site. It was cathartic to send whether they read it or not...I’ll never know.

Anonymous wrote:My buddy who got fired sent his old straight and married boss a gift subscription to a hard core gay magazine from a secret admirer

OH, I love this one! I once thought of doing the same thing to a former @sshole boss who is ultra-religious and a part-time pastor. I was thinking of sending it to him at his church address.

Anonymous wrote:Anonymous letters are for cowards and criminals.

And to rat out cheaters to their spouses.

My buddy who got fired sent his old straight and married boss a gift subscription to a hard core gay magazine from a secret admirer

Anonymous wrote:No, never. If I can’t have my name attached to it or won’t say it to someone’s face then it’s not worth saying.

Excluding DCUMs though….

No, never. If I can’t have my name attached to it or won’t say it to someone’s face then it’s not worth saying.