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Anonymous wrote:our "well regarded" k-8 has a toothless bullying policy. parents don't want to complain and be seen as "problem parents" because it could affect your child's admission to private 9th grade. lots of mean discord chats and group text chains, one student takes other kids' photos from the online school directory without their permission and posts them in his chat as others make fun of the kid. my DC says this particular bullying student and his buddies then bother kids at school in person - teachers are too busy to care, bullying kids don't listen when the other kids tell them to stop. very disappointing and concerning.

Discord and other social media really has nothing to do with the school. The school should work with the parents but I'm not sure always what a school can do if the parents are checked out and don't monitor the social media. We're pretty disappointed at what our kids show us on discord. We talk regularly about it and try to monitor it and remind our kids to stay out of it.

Where this is connected to the school - like misappropriating a school photo or “bothering” kids at school - it has everything to do with the school and is very much the school’s responsibility. The school can discipline the student, including expelling them. Isn’t that what private schools do?

Parents don’t know or care. The school washes their hands. Other parents (you) tell your kids to stay out of it and don’t report it to the school. No one does anything.

And the victims suffer.

Nice warm community you got there.

In school, yes, out of school, no. This happens at all schools, public or private. Private schools care about money and power but its just as bad in public.

This is the private school forum and the subject is bullying in private schools. Stop trying to excuse it or distract from it. Public schools are not relevant.

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Anonymous wrote:our "well regarded" k-8 has a toothless bullying policy. parents don't want to complain and be seen as "problem parents" because it could affect your child's admission to private 9th grade. lots of mean discord chats and group text chains, one student takes other kids' photos from the online school directory without their permission and posts them in his chat as others make fun of the kid. my DC says this particular bullying student and his buddies then bother kids at school in person - teachers are too busy to care, bullying kids don't listen when the other kids tell them to stop. very disappointing and concerning.

Discord and other social media really has nothing to do with the school. The school should work with the parents but I'm not sure always what a school can do if the parents are checked out and don't monitor the social media. We're pretty disappointed at what our kids show us on discord. We talk regularly about it and try to monitor it and remind our kids to stay out of it.

Where this is connected to the school - like misappropriating a school photo or “bothering” kids at school - it has everything to do with the school and is very much the school’s responsibility. The school can discipline the student, including expelling them. Isn’t that what private schools do?

Parents don’t know or care. The school washes their hands. Other parents (you) tell your kids to stay out of it and don’t report it to the school. No one does anything.

And the victims suffer.

Nice warm community you got there.

In school, yes, out of school, no. This happens at all schools, public or private. Private schools care about money and power but its just as bad in public.

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Anonymous wrote:our "well regarded" k-8 has a toothless bullying policy. parents don't want to complain and be seen as "problem parents" because it could affect your child's admission to private 9th grade. lots of mean discord chats and group text chains, one student takes other kids' photos from the online school directory without their permission and posts them in his chat as others make fun of the kid. my DC says this particular bullying student and his buddies then bother kids at school in person - teachers are too busy to care, bullying kids don't listen when the other kids tell them to stop. very disappointing and concerning.

Discord and other social media really has nothing to do with the school. The school should work with the parents but I'm not sure always what a school can do if the parents are checked out and don't monitor the social media. We're pretty disappointed at what our kids show us on discord. We talk regularly about it and try to monitor it and remind our kids to stay out of it.

Where this is connected to the school - like misappropriating a school photo or “bothering” kids at school - it has everything to do with the school and is very much the school’s responsibility. The school can discipline the student, including expelling them. Isn’t that what private schools do?

Parents don’t know or care. The school washes their hands. Other parents (you) tell your kids to stay out of it and don’t report it to the school. No one does anything.

And the victims suffer.

Nice warm community you got there.

Neglect their kids is more common, especially the busy important types.

Anonymous wrote:So terrible. Those parents who knew and did nothing (or worse, made it worse) as their kids participated in the exclusion and taunting are next level nightmares. Anyone who has had a child at our area private schools knows parents just like them.

Often the parents bully their kids so its all these kids know.

Anonymous wrote:our "well regarded" k-8 has a toothless bullying policy. parents don't want to complain and be seen as "problem parents" because it could affect your child's admission to private 9th grade. lots of mean discord chats and group text chains, one student takes other kids' photos from the online school directory without their permission and posts them in his chat as others make fun of the kid. my DC says this particular bullying student and his buddies then bother kids at school in person - teachers are too busy to care, bullying kids don't listen when the other kids tell them to stop. very disappointing and concerning.

Discord and other social media really has nothing to do with the school. The school should work with the parents but I'm not sure always what a school can do if the parents are checked out and don't monitor the social media. We're pretty disappointed at what our kids show us on discord. We talk regularly about it and try to monitor it and remind our kids to stay out of it.

Anonymous wrote:Former Latin parent. This seems very much like Latin. They have a bullying report google form that probably hurts more then it helps, but I almost expect Latin at this point to say kids from *their school* bullying another kid *from their school* is a family issue. Same with the teacher telling him he has no future. My kid told me a bit ago that all the kids are in agreement on this: Latin doesn’t care about its student’s education, and it only pretends to care about their mental health. Remember, this school costs 40k per year.

Please go public with this info. In the lawsuit (contact the plaintiff's lawyers), to the media, to the school. The family who are plaintiffs here have a huge uphill battle here bc this stuff is hard to prove and support. The school needs to do a 180. W/o serious consequences, legally or business-wise (admissions/reputation), they won't change bc they are in the back pocket of some
powerful and $$$ families. This is tragic. I know a family, the parents of a named defendant. They are very nice, very liberal, and probably very horrified about their child's involvement. The parents failed for site, but the school
was the one with the most day-to-day updated info who could have
helped/averted this crisis. Had they held a meeting with the parents of the now defendants/then accused/perps, maybe more could have been addressed earlier and averted. To think that a family no longer has a son because of the compounding effect of this is just heartbreaking.

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Anonymous wrote:This is tragic. I am fascinated with how this lawsuit against named parents will play out - there is MAJOR money here.

They need to send text messages to all colleges these kids are looking at. 15 is old enough to have your moral fiber formed. They are mean spirited and so are the parents.

Gosh bullying is bullying including sending notes to colleges?

If kids publicly bullied a kid causing him to kill himself their actions should be made public. That is not bullying. They should have thought about their actions before they relentlessly bullied a kid and told him to kill himself. Didn't someone just go to jail for doing that?

They effectively were made public on some level--their parents are named in the lawsuit and their initials are used throughout. It wouldn't be too difficult to figure out who they were.

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Anonymous wrote:This is tragic. I am fascinated with how this lawsuit against named parents will play out - there is MAJOR money here.

They need to send text messages to all colleges these kids are looking at. 15 is old enough to have your moral fiber formed. They are mean spirited and so are the parents.

Gosh bullying is bullying including sending notes to colleges?

If kids publicly bullied a kid causing him to kill himself their actions should be made public. That is not bullying. They should have thought about their actions before they relentlessly bullied a kid and told him to kill himself. Didn't someone just go to jail for doing that?

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Anonymous wrote:This is tragic. I am fascinated with how this lawsuit against named parents will play out - there is MAJOR money here.

They need to send text messages to all colleges these kids are looking at. 15 is old enough to have your moral fiber formed. They are mean spirited and so are the parents.

Gosh bullying is bullying including sending notes to colleges?

Anonymous wrote:This is tragic. I am fascinated with how this lawsuit against named parents will play out - there is MAJOR money here.

They need to send text messages to all colleges these kids are looking at. 15 is old enough to have your moral fiber formed. They are mean spirited and so are the parents.

This is tragic. I am fascinated with how this lawsuit against named parents will play out - there is MAJOR money here.

Anonymous wrote:Former Latin parent. This seems very much like Latin. They have a bullying report google form that probably hurts more then it helps, but I almost expect Latin at this point to say kids from *their school* bullying another kid *from their school* is a family issue. Same with the teacher telling him he has no future. My kid told me a bit ago that all the kids are in agreement on this: Latin doesn’t care about its student’s education, and it only pretends to care about their mental health. Remember, this school costs 40k per year.

Is this Latin of Chicago you are talking a about?

Former Latin parent. This seems very much like Latin. They have a bullying report google form that probably hurts more then it helps, but I almost expect Latin at this point to say kids from *their school* bullying another kid *from their school* is a family issue. Same with the teacher telling him he has no future. My kid told me a bit ago that all the kids are in agreement on this: Latin doesn’t care about its student’s education, and it only pretends to care about their mental health. Remember, this school costs 40k per year.

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Anonymous wrote:Look in the mirror folks. You won’t even name your school on this forum where absolutely no one knows who you are.

A couple people narrowed it down to one of two schools quite well without naming them. Or pointed out the hypocritical mission vs bullying.

Why not name the school(s)?