Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I don’t get what’s the rush but to each it’s own.
A lot of people have more free time to date in college than they’ll have again for many years.
Exactly. It is arguably better to meet in college, when the available pool of possible mates is much bigger. You share experiences and can meet in casual ways and get to know more about each other. Don’t have kids until your 30s. You’re pretty set then.
Many people marry younger than 30, regardless of social class.
True those are deeper connections but debt, distance, grad school, careers or people’s advice to experience more relationships often rips young couples apart.
I think it depends on many factors. I know a number of couples like us, but of course I know some who married young and divorced. I also know couples who married in their 30s and divorced. Like I said, it depends on a lot of factors.
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25–27 doesn’t seem early to me. Just about everyone in my grad school circle married before age 30.
I think it’s smart. My generation said wait until 30+ to have kids etc and the majority of us had to do IVF (unless oddly enough Irish? Married at 35 pregnant by honeymoon) in my group ages 34-40. I’ve told my daughters have your kids at 26-30 (first kid). After college but will be younger energetic parents. I had young parents and lost them both. I hope to be around for any future grandkids.
Anonymous wrote:In my circles, the people most desirable generally married earlier, ie 25-28. Anybody who was still wanting to get married after 35 had some issues.
Anonymous wrote:
25–27 doesn’t seem early to me. Just about everyone in my grad school circle married before age 30.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I don’t get what’s the rush but to each it’s own.
A lot of people have more free time to date in college than they’ll have again for many years.
Exactly. It is arguably better to meet in college, when the available pool of possible mates is much bigger. You share experiences and can meet in casual ways and get to know more about each other. Don’t have kids until your 30s. You’re pretty set then.
Many people marry younger than 30, regardless of social class.
True those are deeper connections but debt, distance, grad school, careers or people’s advice to experience more relationships often rips young couples apart.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I don’t get what’s the rush but to each it’s own.
A lot of people have more free time to date in college than they’ll have again for many years.
Exactly. It is arguably better to meet in college, when the available pool of possible mates is much bigger. You share experiences and can meet in casual ways and get to know more about each other. Don’t have kids until your 30s. You’re pretty set then.
Many people marry younger than 30, regardless of social class.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I don’t get what’s the rush but to each it’s own.
A lot of people have more free time to date in college than they’ll have again for many years.
Anonymous wrote:Is amicable divorce really that bad? Is it the desirable people who had options that do it? Seems like the no kids amicable divorcees are better than the last to be married. They get stuck and bully their ILs. -still on 1st marriage, but know jerks that blame their looks even though they are better looking than those who marry before themAnonymous wrote:No because it usually ends in divorce. For the most part people know it's foolish.
No where near a status symbol OP.
Anonymous wrote:Every year you wait to have kids you're shaving off one year at the end of your life you'll get to spend with your children and perhaps grandchildren.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:No because it usually ends in divorce. For the most part people know it's foolish.
No where near a status symbol OP.
All marriages are foolish. Divorce rate is higher for second and third marriages but people take risks to find happiness.
Anonymous wrote:No because it usually ends in divorce. For the most part people know it's foolish.
No where near a status symbol OP.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I had a friend who had a trust fund. I watched with a lot of jealousy how she could afford to have a wedding, buy a house, be a SAHM with 3 kids. These were all things I had to save up lots of money to do.
I got married at 18, my H was in the military, we bought our first house when I was 20, I was a SAHM for ten years, then I went to college and got a degree with no student loans and had a career. I guess most people don't think such a life is possible or desirable. I wouldn't change a thing.
Glad things worked out for you two.
Early Military marriages are common are insurance reasons.
Tricareatops and dependapotamuses are common around military bases